Why is he lying about reconciliation?

[Anonymous]

I have known this guy couple months, he knows I lik him, and he seems happy when we see each other but the thing is he told me that he will try to reconcile with his ex cuz of his son, but I found out that he is not doing that, why did he lie to me about that?

[Oliverlogan263]

Here's what I think:

It's kinda weird that he lied about trying to get back with his ex. A few possibilities:

- Maybe he wasn't fully over his ex yet and didn't wanna commit to you until he was sure things couldn't work out with her. Still shouldn't have lied though.

- Could be he wasn't ready for something serious and used that excuse to keep you at arm's length without rejecting you outright.

- Possibly he wants to keep you interested in case things don't work out with her, as a back-up plan. Pretty lame if that's the case.

- May have just been embarrassed to admit he still had feelings for his ex so he made up that story to let you down easy.

Whatever the reason, the lying is a red flag. I'd be direct with him - say you know that wasn't true so why'd he say it? Pay attention to how he responds. If he tries making excuses, I'd be wary of getting more involved with someone who lies like that. You deserve someone honest about their intentions. Tread lightly for now.

[Anonymous]

That's a good question to ask him.

[Asker]

Is there other ways to find out then asking directly?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe anonymously?

[Asker]

It's impossible cuz he don't know a friend of mine spoke to his ex and she told her that