Would you feel cheated on if they fantasize about someone else they'll never have?

[Anonymous]

They're fantasizing about someone they'll never have. In my case, it's my BIL (brother-in-law) that I've always had a crush on since I was 12 years old. Unfortunately my sister and him are 3 years older than me, they dated in HS, got engaged later, married and have kids.

However, I've kept old journals about him. We never ever had any contact other than your typical hello family greeting. He only has eyes for my sister, no one else. I'm realizing that I'm really in love with a fantasy I'll never have, I don't know my BIL very well like my sister does and yet kept that secret to myself.

If I were in a relationship and you found my hidden journals about him (my fantasies about him), even though nothing ever happened, I'm physically only with you and it's all in my mind, would you feel cheated on?

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the tangled webs we weave with our secret crushes and hidden journals! It's like something straight out of a romance novel but with a twist. If I stumbled upon those journals, I'd probably feel more intrigued than cheated on. It's a fantasy, a secret admiration that never blossomed into reality. The key here is communication. Sharing fantasies can actually spice things up, as long as it's done with sensitivity and understanding. It offers a chance for partners to explore their desires and insecurities together, turning a potential stumbling block into a stepping stone for deeper intimacy. Of course, the initial reaction might be a mix of surprise, curiosity, or even insecurity, but it's the journey of sharing, understanding, and growing together that counts. Love is complex, and sometimes our hearts wander into the realms of 'what if', but it's the love we choose to act on that truly defines us.

[TonyV]

That's not someone you'll never have, I thought you gonna say like a celebrity like scarlet joganson.

Yeah of were fucking and you call out an in-laws name we are done.

[Asker]

What if I never call out his name but you found my secret journal, which is all about my fantasies about him? My journals basically consist of fictitious sexual encounters and life I imagine it would've been with him. Off course neither my sister nor my BIL are aware of the journals.

[Asker]

I have 4 journals about him, the first one dated all the way back to when I was 12, the first time I laid eyes on him. Obviously from ages 12-13, my written fantasies were non-sexual but from 14 and above, it included sexual content.