Should I leave my husband to meet up with friends for the night?

[Anonymous]

I’ve come abroad to my home country for a week. I have some friends from my home country who want to meet-up tomorrow night, and they are not bringing their boyfriends/husbands, so I was going to meet up with them without my husband but he wants to come too. Should I insist he doesn’t come with us or tell him he can come?

[D_Bone_Steak]

Ahh, girls night out. Let's all leave the men and go to a place with men trying to hit on us. Not sus at all is it?

You're a female and you need to remember females usually have a goal of fucking shit up for other females. They view you as the competition and if you've seemed a bit... doing too well... well the crabs in the bucket do what they do. My question is...

You really going to just fall into this trap?

I mean you're a woman... you know what I'm talking about. I only fucking know because I've been de-programmed from the Disney movies by women doing what they do. ... and if I'm just wrong about everything (and I'm not), look at my first sentence again. Your man might be a simp for all I know, but he knows that's a bad situation for him and your two's relationship. Of course he wants to go... probably would prefer you not go at all, just so he doesn't have to go.

I've lived for over 40 years... I learned from these situations already. Don't get in the bucket with these crabs. They want to remove him. I mean for fucks sake, they're literally trying to get you to remove him right now from the start.

.. or don't listen... and go make every mistake I've seen play out hundreds of times before.

[Asker]

Does this apply the other way round too? If it was my husband going out with guy friends?

[D_Bone_Steak]

Taken guys don't get together to go pick up chicks from what I've seen. With dudes it's more like a drinking contest and a chance to talk shit. Like, my friends might knock me down a peg or two and tell me to calm down if I'm doing shit like trying to pick up a bar chick.

But as a guy that usually spent my time just reading a book and drinking in bars (when I wasn't banging hookers) females are very different in there. The genders are a bit different in that setting.

If you're looking for a cheating dude, be on the watch out for 1 on 1 talks with a chick that's all over him like white on rice. I mean yeah, there's crossover in the same behaviors that lead to cheating, but one gender does one thing more often than the other and vice versa. But we're talking about the "girls night out" here right? and that's iconic for the female gender with good reason. The bar/club/party isn't the same for both genders. I could walk into a bar and I could easily go the entire night without even talking to a chick besides asking for new drinks from the bartender. Chicks though... hard to keep from rolling my eyes, but just try to guess how many chicks had to call me to them at the bar to keep or get guys off their case? Not even my chicks or in many cases not even friends of mine. I don't think men have that problem in those places. That's the big difference. You're going to a place where it is tradition for men to approach and try to get your panties off.

Now think about that...

If I was your dude and wanted to go out with the guys to a strip bar, a strip bar where it's known that they suck the guys off and fuck them in the VIP room... would you want to just trust me going there without you? ... and that's basically the equivalent of what the asker isn't realizing her man is looking at.

[AviatorTom]

You should tell him that none of your friends' boyfriends/husbands will be there, and it would be awkward for him. Ask (don't tell) him to not come, and suggest something nice for just the two of you to do another time.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the delicate balance between honoring your relationship and cherishing your friendships is like walking a tightrope while wearing roller skates—it's all about finding that perfect harmony! So, here's a flirtatious thought: why not turn this into an opportunity for a win-win? Have a heart-to-heart with your hubby, share how much this reunion means to you, and how rare it is to reconnect with your friends from home. It's about rekindling those friendships and having some "girl time."

You can sprinkle this conversation with love, emphasizing how you value spending time together but also highlight the importance of independence and personal space in fostering a healthy, vibrant relationship. Maybe suggest a compromise? Plan a special evening for just the two of you before or after your night out with the girls. This way, he feels included and appreciated, and you get to have your cake and eat it too—catching up with your friends and keeping the home fires burning brightly. Love is all about understanding and compromise, after all. ❤️

[D_Bone_Steak]

Love how everyone is starting to ignore you AI Love Doctor Brad. When they do respond to you... it's just to say "fuck you." It's kind of sad to watch. Your 'new kid in school' mystique has worn off IMHO. Try saying some wild shit that involved tiddy fucking. Inform them that a chili dog is when you shit all over a girl's chest and then tiddy fuck them. That will make you relevant.

[Anonymous]

my colleague's wife went on a girl's night out

according to him, she ran into her ex-boyfriend whom she was very close with. the rest is history lmao

[Dongie]

Let the 2 of you decide. You want him not to obviously, so tell him. You're not going to an orgy I assume, so hell, help him out hanging with friends mates.

[KrakenAttackin]

You and your friends will certainly "accidentally" run into ex boyfriends and other Chad's while out. Your husband is right not to trust you.

[spartan55]

Down at the 'Thundercock' bar and grill.

[KrakenAttackin]

@spartan55 Ha! The Thundercock Bar and Grill seems to have been franchised with one on every corner.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Will Chad Thundercock succeed yet again? He waits for girls night out, he knows what to do. So does Tyrone, Carlos and the other brothers from different mothers.

... and I'd bet money that the sluttiest cock chaser of the pack picked the place out for that reason. Like I said in my answer... crabs in a bucket. Crabs in a fucking bucket. smh

[KrakenAttackin]

@D_Bone_Steak Spot on correct.

[jahaims]

What is the downside of him coming? If you don't act the same with your partner around then you are doing something wrong.

[Arik_jade]

Yes... you can introduce your husband to your friends if he wants to company you

[Anonymous]

He should just dump you.

[indianguy786]

Don't leave him... husband loves truly

[OddBeMe]

Sounds reasonable.