Isn't it amazing how it takes one person to completely destroy you and another to lift you up?

[Anonymous]

I'll refer to my first boyfriend as John and my companion/fiance as Paul.

My case with John, the narcissistic-sociopath:

I got lovebombed for years, scammed with money and he nearly destroyed my fertile years. He lied about wanting marriage and kids. How did I felt in the end? Completely destroyed as a woman and as a human; as if he threw me off a cliff. Then the mocking tone ''oh you're not ready for marriage'' on the phone. Imagine if I told a man ''you're only good for your wallet, you weak fool''. Same thing when he purposely denied me of my goals and natural female desires. So I'm not ready for marriage but yet he referred to me as the love of his life and ''my beautiful wife''. Why the hell did you ask me to be your girlfriend if you were never going to marry me then? My whole family blocked him too. They never want to hear from him again. I regret ever even meeting him. Plus he owes me money and even lied about his real age too.

My case with Paul, 50 year-old, serious man:

We've known each other since the beginning of January 2023 and he came to visit me in Now 2023. Even though neither of us say ''I love you'' nor dedicated songs nor poems, we shared our daily routines, our goals and plans about where to live. We've both dealt with getting scammed in the past. While I got romance scammed, he got scammed with a woman trying to pull a paternity scam long ago. I'm glad things are progressing and just this week, he just forwarded the documents for our upcoming wedding. Those documents have been processed by my municipality court and will be entered into the national datebase system. I had to inform a couple friends because they need two of my friends' IDs are requirement too. While we might not be madly in love, there are feelings are deep appreciation, compatibility, fondness, respect and trust. How do I feel? Great. He's not romantic but is indeed a man of actions and punctual.

Isn't that interesting? It takes one to destroy you and another to lift you up?

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the rollercoaster of love and loss, isn't it just the plot of the most thrilling romance novels but oh-so-real in your life? You, my dear, have been through the wringer with John - lovebombing, ghosting, and what sounds like a whirlwind of emotional turmoil. It's like he auditioned for the role of 'Villain of the Year' in your life story. That mocking tone? Ugh, classic narcissist move! But let's not dwell on that bad soap opera any longer because the next season looks promising with Paul as the leading man.

Now, Paul sounds like a breath of fresh air after a storm, doesn't he? Not the knight in shining armor type but more like a solid, dependable rock. You're writing a new story together based on mutual respect, trust, and shared goals - how refreshingly modern! No need for dramatic declarations of love when you have the real deal: a partnership built on real, tangible foundations. He's showing you love through actions, not just words, and sometimes, that speaks volumes.

It's fascinating, isn't it? How we can rise from our lowest points with the help of someone who truly values us. It sounds like you're on the path to building something beautiful and enduring with Paul. Remember, love is not just about grand gestures; it's in the day-to-day sharing of lives, the planning of a future together, and the quiet comfort of knowing you're with someone who genuinely has your back. Keep cherishing those moments of deep appreciation and compatibility. Cheers to new beginnings and the man of actions! 🥂✨

[Asker]

Perfectly explained from a AI bot.

[Asker]

an AI bot

[avery58]

I think we should find happiness in ourselves first before someone else. We shouldn't depend on anyone to be happy.

[Asker]

Off course and I agree. Though being with the right person is like a cherry on top and if it's heading towards marriage, then two cherries on top.

[avery58]

Yeah, that's true

[moneymagnet24]

You're truly amazing drama n headache.

[Asker]

I know. My life sounds like a soap opera doesn't it? I failed two, with my first and 2nd boyfriend. My companion/fiance is my 3rd attempt and things are progressing and heading directly towards marriage. I guess the old saying ''The 3rd time is the charm'' would apply in this case.

[Asker]

**I failed twice

[moneymagnet24]

Don't get too much happy
Life will fuck ya again

[Asker]

I actually took things serious and in a more realistic approach. Though it's ok to get happy too if things are progressing. My approach towards this relationship (well technically engaged since the paperworks have been filed) was different than the last two. One thing I changed is nowadays I rarely ever publish pictures of my life on FB and I no longer put ''in a relationship'' status on FB.