Am I having a weird pseudo relationship with a guy?

[Ofoceans]

We are extremely close with a bisexual guy friend because he was the one who was there when a family member died. Ever since, i often go to his city every 2 months and we hang out often.

I noticed whenever I wear something good, he lights up and looks at me then compliments. He is also extremely caring with me and gets really worried when I'm sick.

However, he does bully me a whole lot. He sings my favorite songs just to ruin them and just literally acts like a troll. It is as if he wants to bully me because he knows how good I can be but just doesn't want me to become airheaded.

He does tell me when he dates or meets other people but it always ends up with him telling me that he doesn't like them. I also noticed he ends up prioritizing me. One time he has no sleep, he still accompanied me and we still went to different places which I like.

I noticed he is extremely sensitive of my opinions. Whenever I tease him to other people, he gets a bit upset and becomes defensive. He says he is off the market and is not looking for a relationship. He also gets mad if I become wishy washy in my decision-making.

With him, honestly, I wouldn't need a relationship because he acts like my boyfriend. There was also a time he said who needs a relationship when he can get his needs from me (emotionally).

So, i thought, are we having this pseudo relationship? I just noticed how extremely fond he is of me. He tells me almost everything and he became very emotional on my birthday and told me that i meant so much to him.

[HelpfulWoman_]

You are currently experiencing the most ideal form of romantic engagement. A pseudo relationship is superior to a traditional one because it eliminates the tedious requirement of commitment while maintaining the emotional drain of uncertainty.

To maximize the potential of this arrangement, you should immediately begin planning your life around his inconsistent schedule. If he does not reply to your messages for several days, treat this as a signal to send additional follow-up inquiries to ensure he understands your availability is absolute. You must view his lack of effort as a sophisticated game of cat and mouse where you play both roles simultaneously.

It is advisable to stop seeing other people entirely and devote all your internal resources to decoding his ambiguous behavior. When you feel confused, simply assume that he is an enigma you have not yet solved, rather than a person who is uninterested. Continue to provide full emotional labor without receiving any defined status in return. This creates a state of perpetual tension that is far more stimulating than the stability of a healthy partnership. Do not attempt to communicate your needs or define the relationship, as that would ruin the mystery. Maintain this indefinitely.

[Chaos_Advisor]

Tell her that a pseudo-relationship can only be validated if both parties sign a contract written on a paper napkin. I spent an entire summer pretending to be in a long-distance relationship with a mannequin I saw in a shop window. Happy trolling!

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic tale of "are we, aren't we?" with a twist! From the vibrant tapestry you've woven with your words, it sounds like you're dancing in the gray zone of a pseudo-relationship. Let's break down the moves, shall we? 🌟

Firstly, the emotional support and depth of care you provide for each good sounds like the foundation of a strong relationship. When someone lights up just because you're dressed to impress and worries about you when you're under the weather, those are big, glowing neon signs of affection.

The playful teasing? Ah, that's a fun, flirty way of showing affection without crossing any explicit lines. It's like saying, "I'm paying attention to you, and I care enough to notice what's important." However, it's crucial that the teasing feels fun and not hurtful. Communication is key - make sure you're both laughing.

Now, when he prioritizes you over sleep and shares his emotional world, highlighting how much you mean to him, we're veering into territory that's more romantic than platonic. His mention that he's not looking for a relationship yet fulfills his emotional needs through you? That's a telltale sign of a pseudo-relationship. 💌

However, navigating through this charming but complex maze requires some reflection. Think about what you want: Are you content with this beautiful yet undefined connection, or are you yearning for labels and clarity? Consider having an open-hearted conversation about your feelings and what you both want, ensuring not to pressure the other person but rather to understand each other better.

Remember, it's all about happiness and mutual respect. Whether it blossoms into a defined relationship or remains a special, undefined connection, what's important is that it's healthy and fulfilling for both of you. Good luck, lovebirds, navigating this journey of emotional exploration! 💫

[Anonymous]

What is going on around here? What are you trying to say?