Guys, Is he falling in love? or is it all in my head? am I just a place holder? wtf is actually going on?

[Anonymous]

I (f21) met this guy (m22) from school. We talked fairly a lot for 3 months but it was always about school. We hardly ever talked about anything personal. After the class we were taking was over, we started talking more about various things. He is very big on morals and conscientiousness. He is empathetic, soft, kind, and very respectful. One time he told me he "runs away from relationships" and i told him he has commitment issues. he denied it saying he is perfectly capable of getting into a relationship, he just hasn't found a "mature and honest" girl yet. Weeks go by and we are talking every hour of every day. He is showing interest, attention, affection, and sexual/mental/emotional attraction. He always compliments how honest, mature, and straightforward i am. He says he will never find anyone like me, that all of the girls he met before are "trash" compared to me. We started meeting up a lot. 2-4 times a week. He asks to see me every chance he gets. Sometimes we even sit in the car together and not do anything specific. Just enjoying each other's presence. Sometimes we would get touchy but not necessarily in a sexual way. We hold hands/cuddle/etc. Things did get sexual sometimes but I never felt that sex was the center of what we had+we never did it. I started having feelings for him - cause how tf can i not? and i told him that. He shut me down. Not in a rude way. He just made it clear that we are just friends. I tried to cut him off after but he insisted we stayed friends. I agreed. But i asked that he stops treating me like i am more. He promised he will do everything in his power to not ruin us. And he has been very "just friends" ever since. I can't help but have hope that eventually he will fall for me. But honestly I know better. My only question is: is he feeling things for me? Or is it all in my head? Could he be playing games? Could he just be looking for a good time? What is it? Because I don't understand how after all this he feels nothing.

[JakeS00]

I don't think he's playing games. He was upfront about being only friends. He didn't want to commit to you hence, running from relationships. So friends are a good option for not hurting you.

[Asker]

I get that he is most likely not playing games but why is he keeping me so close if he wants nothing but friendship? why talk to me all the time? why the goodmorning/goodnight texts? why freak out when i disappear? why care what im doing, where im at, and who im with? recently i even noticed he would keep tabs on me and ask "you have been online more than usual lately, is it the new guy?" type of questions. When I playfully ask if he's jealous he says lol no and changes the subject.
Also, if he describes me the way he describes the girl of his dreams, does that mean anything at all? or am I just looking for anything to tell me he likes me that way?

[JakeS00]

I think he's curious. I don't think there is anything wrong with keeping someone close with friendship and nothing further. If it's mutual it shouldn't matter. I can have good morning/goodnight texts with good friends that are girls and it doesn't translate into anything except saying that. What do you mean exactly on "if he describes me the way he describes the girl of his dreams, does that mean anything at all"? I think he's expressing that because he wants to confide in you.

[Asker]

Got it. It makes sense. Thank you.

[Guy13]

Wow... you're so introspective... Macro and micro... like talented !! Give me a second...

[Guy13]

Act 1: Introspective and Warm Heart Girl encounters Grounded emotional but not gay Man.
Act 2: Hmm, Judge is out (1st 5 sentences).. before Compliment.
Act 3: Guy Risks... in a depth kind of thing that she's just not into... believes.
Act 4: Princess Risks.
act 5: Man drops Gonads... no Body Count.. Notch... you don't want my email/phone to throw in penny chair for secondary "Body Count" administration?
Cont. Act 5 to 6: I'm a Virgin, you know?(GUESS).-This is important.

Editor Summation, Final Thoughts, and Review: Damn-anyone, including but not limited too, "females with Men package" would marry this Guy... And, there is a "reality TV book" evolving. Stat tuned to Reserved Rights :)

[Asker]

Dude... what?

[Guy13]

I let you into the guys mind. I broke your running paragraph down into eatable Pieces. The rest is on you or perhaps, ask your Momma with Below data set?

[bean2k21]

Could you provide bullet points? This is difficult to read.

[Asker]

1. He runs away from relationships
2. Treats me like his girlfriend
3. I caught feelings-he said he we are just friends

Question: is he having feelings or is he just enjoying having someone while not having to commit?

p. s. i think details are kind of important but that sums it up.

[Avicenna]

If he had feelings, he wouldn't say you're just friends

[Ithink_igoodperson]

i don't know