How do I handle falling in love with my wife's best friend?

[Woodsman2753]

I've been with my wife for 10 years now & married for 2. Her best friend, call her Meg, has always been flirty and considered herself to be the third wheel of our 'tricycle'. Meg hasn't had any boyfriend last and is tanking a break from dating. She jokes if anything happens to one of us, she'd marry the other. Meg even talks about what our baby could be like since my wife might not want kids and I do. Even Her mother refers to us as the theeesome and that we'll always be together.
What's hard is I love my wife, but I'm finding myself thinking about Meg more and more. She's always making more eye contact, trying to sit next to me, more touchy with me, jokingly holds my hand while my wife holds my other, and hangs on my shoulder. The same stuff my wife did when we started dating. All her body language has gotten more frequent and noticeable. I think I'm falling in love with her.
When my wife and I are havin sex, she fantasizes having a threesome with Meg and I play along. My wife can be jealous, she hates my female coworkers, and talking about Meg having my children. When we go out or friends come over, my wife has me walk Meg to her door or car, but no one else, we live in a good area.
We had a party with a bunch of GFs from HS. They claimed the couches, guest bed, and said Meg should sleep with us. My wife and Meg said I gotta sleep in the middle calling me a 'true manwich'. All clothed and just cuddled. I never slept better in my life.
What the hell do I do? I love my wife, and making her happy. I feel great when Meg is around and seeing them happy together. I hate hearing Meg put herself down cause she can't find 'a guy like me'. I'm not special, I just try to make everyone happy. A threesome with them would be amazing, but I don't want to risk my marriage or friendship.
Do I tell my wife I'm falling for Meg? Do I suggest we actually have a three way? Any suggestions on a successful three way? Can bigamy work outside the law? I'm lost and don't know who to ask.

Updates

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So having been limited by characters, there is a bit more. Meh has always referred to me as her 'twin' because of how similar we are and she has used me as such to get out of bad dates. I'm also not 100% certain of her feelings towards me as she is usually VERY introverted. I'm also respectful of my wife/chicken shit to talk to her outside of group texts or group environments. There have only been a few times where we were 'unsupervised' and we just awkwardly bullshat like nervous little kids.

[DizzyAster]

Looks like it's time for a threesome.
Tell your wife, and if she asks why your friend, the reason is because you rather have sex with someone you can trust than some random, which is true.

But that's not the REAL reason. The act is to see if you are really into her or just want to be IN her!!!
If you still think of her afterwards, then you have to make a choice if you want to still be with your wife.

in my opinion, no kids is a deal breaker for me.

[Woodsman2753]

Her opinion on kids swings like a pendulum. She looses her shit when babies cry, but is a freaking pro when it comes to playing with and explaining things to them. There was almost a year when her newborn nephew would shriek if anyone held him but her sister (his mother) or randomly, myself. Not even his father. Rough year for everyone. She melts whenever I hold a baby (we have a few other niblings), but goes nuts in public when kids misbehave. She has literally said "no fuckin way I'm having kids, fuck that" and "you WILL be the best father ever, our kids will be soo goddamn lucky" in the same weekend. We have two cats and figured we'd dry run, so we got a puppy. He's great, but when he gets sick, she shuts down if she's not feeling well (like PMS not well) sometimes but she loves the hell out of him. and other days she can't get far away enough from him when he's being a puppy and following her everywhere (bathroom, couch, shower, bed, kitchen, etc.) she has to go to her mothers.

[DizzyAster]

Most people don't like misbehaved or crying babies. I don't think anyone does, which is why you try and make them happy. I think that's a biological thing. lol

Personally, I don't think any parent like their kids. lol

It seems like she wants kids but not the burden that comes with kids. If you do have kids, then have things like daycare and baby sitters at the ready. It's a LOT of pressure on a mom handling children even if that's all she wanted in life!!

Maybe she wants your friend to have your kids. lol!!!

[WiseTurtle]

If you're wife isn't bothered with all what's going on around you she has no right to feel betrayed if something happens between you and Meg, yet you will have a big part of responsibility if that will have to come. So my advice for you is to talk to your wife first about this then based on what's her thoughts are you proceed further

[LousyLoudMusic]

Sounds like your wife is giving big hints that she wants this threesom or maybe poly relationship things herself

[DizzyAster]

I just said the same thing!!!
High Five!!

[bytes]

That's really mean. Not only did you fall in love... but with her best friend?

[Woodsman2753]

I've always said and still believe that people who cheat on their boyfriend/girlfirend, fiancé or spouse are the lowest of the low. Whether physically or emotionally. And this is why I feel like a piece of shit. I still love my wife, more than anything, but it's just this new 'Deja Vu' emotion that's killing me.

[bytes]

Good philosophy

[wankiam]

if you suggest a threeway to your wife she may be interested right up until the point you tell her you have feelings for meg. one thing to have some fun but a threat to her marriage will not be welcomed. tread very carefully

[leobar]

No, don't tell her you are falling for Meg, and yes try having a three way but indirectly get into it, try to be more relaxed and if you don't want to risk your marriage or friendship, just try to spend more time with your wife away from Meg, I know you might be thinking about her, but keep it on the low for a while, just see how it turns out

[Intraluminal]

Something is funny here... not quite sure what though. I'd tell Meg to seduce your wife and see what happens.

[iamloxley]

Be honest with your wife but either way someone is going to get emotionally hurt

[Malik00]

I say have it out in the open now, cause the longer you wait the worse this is gonna end up.

[improbablypossible]

sounds like all systems are a go