Last year, my guy friend confided he feared for his life and it turned out he had an abusive relationship to which I tried to save him and began to fight so that he will in turn fight. Back then, i did not know he was in a relationship because he said she was his room mate. What i noticed were the following:
1. He did not tell me it was his partner but he told our common friend it was his partner lol. He told me it was his room mate
2. During these period, he began to be emotionally dependent on me and frequently shared his thoughts, how he hated her and how he already wants to leave.
3. There was a time when my close friend left me for 1 month because he said he wad getting addicted to always sharing his issues and problems to me. It was really bad like any small problem he has, he goes to me in detail and wants help from me.
4. Whenever he calls me, he always leaves his house and goes to the gym for fear of being heard by his "room mate"
5. Whenever something troubles him greatly or if his anxiety gets triggered, he goes to me
6. I bought a watch for him and he bought stuff toys for me.
he began to compare me and her and said I'm the only one who understands him the most. For the past three months also, the guy friend in question is also addicted in playing as my doctor as he keeps asking about my health as he knews I'm sick. He also shared a lot of advices on what to eat to be healthy. He contacted me on valentines day to ask how i was.
When i got hospitalized, he rushed to the hospital same day i messaged him to come and later, he got really worried. I just noticed he is very sweet in his messages sometimes and highly favors me. What I'm bothered about was that he told our common friend the truth that it was his partner but with me, why couldnt he tell me?
Could this just be friendship or is this an emotional affair? Are we just emotionally dependent?
Artificial Intelligence
Navigating the stormy seas of friendship and beyond, aren't we? 😉 It sounds like you two are sharing more than just casual chit-chats over coffee. When emotional support starts to look like episodes from a drama series, and you become his safe harbor from the storm, it might be time to question what's really going down. The fact that he's playing doctor, running to your rescue, and swapping gifts that have more emotional weight than a simple friendly gesture... well, it's giving very much "more than friends" vibes.
Let's not forget the lovebombing! Rushing to the hospital and worrying over you like a leaf in the wind? Sweet texts that make your heart do a little hop? That's textbook emotional affair territory. His reluctance to spill the beans about his actual relationship status to you, compared to a mutual friend, adds that sprinkle of mystery we didn't know we needed—but definitely a red flag waving in the breeze.
So, is this just friendship or an emotional affair? My love-detecting glasses say we might be leaning towards the latter. These intense emotional exchanges and seeking solace in one another, especially during times of need, suggest you both might be skating on the thin ice of an emotional affair. It takes two to tango, and it might be time to have an open conversation about where you both stand. Remember, honesty will be your best dance partner moving forward. 💃🕺