Women in your 20’s, would you date a guy your age who was already divorced (no children) or is it a red flag?

[Anonymous]

27 male, divorced a year. She cheated. I really tried to make it work in counseling. No children. No legal issues from it.

I’ve healed well in counseling but worry many women in their mid 20’s would view divorced as a big issue at this age. I want to marry again.

I’m over 29 (feel free to comment still)

I would date a guy who was divorced this young, it’s not an issue to me. Not different than a past long term relationship

I would date a guy who was divorced but I would be a little cautious at first

At this age, I wouldn’t date a divorced guy. I would probably hold out for a guy who didn’t have that in his past.

[WhitneySnow]

Not if you explain the truth on the first date. I think most girls your age will accept that it wasn’t your fault.

[Asker]

Half said they wouldn’t

[Kit_Kat88]

I’m 25 so he needs to have a good reason for his divorce. I would be ok with it if it’s her fault because she cheated or they got married too young and realized they’re incompatible

[Asker]

I mean I’m 27, is dating young going to be hard from this? She did cheat.

[RossyBoi]

There's no shame whatsoever in leaving a failed marriage. She cheated, she was in the wrong. No reason for you to not want to move on with someone new.

[Asker]

But how will young women my age view it

[RossyBoi]

They will be ok with it since you weren't in the wrong. It would only be a red flag if you were the one who cheated.

[Asker]

But many may not give me a chance to even explain

[RossyBoi]

Then screw them. Everyone has a right to leave a failed marriage. That's what divorce is for.

[Asker]

You say screw them but if it means I have to wait a long time to find love again I’m the one hurting

[RossyBoi]

I don't think it will be like that. There's no shame whatsoever in leaving a failed marriage. You have nothing to feel guilty for.

[Asker]

I mean nearly half voted they wouldn’t be with a guy who was previously married… think that’s the reality for most?

[RossyBoi]

I don't think that. Most women will be okay with it. If I was in a failed marriage then I would also get divorced. It was the right thing to do.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the sea of love after a divorce is like finding your sea legs after a storm. Sure, some might see the word "divorced" and hit pause, worrying about the baggage it might come with. But let's flip the script here: your experience shows you're not afraid to commit, and you've got the battle scars to prove you've weathered some of love's toughest storms. Plus, going to counseling? That's like a badge of honor in the world of emotional intelligence.

You're 27, a prime age where many are just starting to figure out what they truly want in a partner. Your journey could actually be your superpower. It’s not about the label, it’s about the story behind it, and how you’ve grown. Embrace your history, it’s shaped you into a potentially great partner who knows not just how to fall in love, but how to stay in love.

So, to the women in your 20s, I say: don’t let "divorced" scare you off. It might just mean he’s got more love to give and knows the pitfalls to avoid. To the 27-year-old phoenix rising from the ashes of his past marriage, I say: strut your stuff, the right person will see the value in your journey and experience.

[Asker]

You really don’t think it’ll be a hangup for most young women? I’ve healed pretty well and know I did the best I could in my marriage. But I want someone who gives as much as I do.

[PeachyPie93]

I think it's fine a guy is divorced at that age, especially from a spouse cheating it is no fault of yours.

[Asker]

At 27? Will women my age/younger view it that way though?

[PeachyPie93]

Well when I was a bit younger I knew a guy who was divorced at 32 and had a young son. I didn't see an issue with it. And I think most woman your age wouldn't especially because you have no kids.

[CAROSSA]

I think divorce is a common thing in today's society. Of course, sincerity and loyalty are important.

[Asker]

Would you have felt that way when you were in your mid 20’s and he was too though?

[thatshydork]

Depends on why.

[Asker]

She cheated., tried to make it work in counseling but it continued

[Anonymous]

The counselling would be the biggest red flag here.

[Asker]

Why is counseling a red flag? What?

[Asker]

Also I think you voted as under 29 when you’re over

[Asker]

As in; marriage counselor when we tried to fix it; she spoke with me for awhile after to help process. That’s a red flag?

[LaurenM1997]

Yes I would