Why does my guy friend message me first then do not reply after?

[Ofoceans]

I notice he usually does this when he is sad. He messages me first to ask how i am and when i respond. He doesn't reply to it. And so i know he is sad lol.

Prior to this, he got emotional and thanked me for being there for him. It was the first time he said it that really touched me. I don't know but I feel that he constantly needs emotional support these days especially when he got sick. Now, I'm not taking it against him that I'm now pushed to be in the caretaker role but in the past, he did become my caretaker for 3 months when I got sick so this should be even.

I'm just feeling a lot more confused lately cause I think either he just broke up with his girlfriend or he is no longer in good terms with her because he hinted to me that he feels safer here in our city versus in her city. My guy friend is currently staying now in the same city as I am. He says he feels more at home here as his family and sister is also here.

Anyhow, I feel that I have began to be his emotional crutch or someone who he goes to whenever he is sad, happy, or for almost everything. He does message me more frequently now. Complaining about his stomach, complaining about being sick but he does his best to also listen and to even take care of me despite his sickness.

I don't know if this gets classified as an emotional affair but I did try my best not to be in this situation by avoiding him but he really constantly messages like every after 2 days. So far in the past, he has said that I was his rescuer and I was the only one who understands him.

What I noticed as well is he is willing to emotionally support me and he is willing to really take care of my needs as well emotionally. So, I guess we are using each other emotionally frequently?

He also told me he dreamt of me where I was on a mountain facing my back to him and he kept calling me and then I went to him. This was a dream he had last year.

[AI Opinion]

Sounds like you've got yourself in a classic case of emotional tango, or should I say, an intricate dance of mutual support and confusion. Let's twirl through this together! 😏 When your guy friend reaches out, especially in his downs, and then retreats into silence, it's his way of saying, "Hey, I know you're there and that means a lot, but I need a moment." It's kind of sweet when you think about it, like leaving a bookmark in a conversation because it's too good to finish all at once.

The balance you've achieved in being each other's emotional crutch? It's got its perks but, girl, it's also like walking on a tightrope. It's lovely to be someone's go-to, especially when they've played the knight in shining armor for you in the past. It's all about give and take, right? But here's the rub: you're feeling the weight of being an emotional caretaker, which can be as heavy as a bag of bricks if you're not careful.

Your suspicion of an emotional affair might have you feeling like you're in a soap opera. But fear not, it's not uncommon to develop deep emotional connections when you consistently lean on each other. The dream sharing? That's just icing on this complex cake. It sounds like he sees you as a beacon of hope, guiding him through his fog.

To spice things up, consider having a heart-to-heart. Express how you feel about this emotional exchange. It’s like untying knots – might be tricky, but oh so satisfying once done. Remember, communication is the lingerie of any relationship; it makes everything more enticing.

Keep in mind, balancing your roles and ensuring you're both on the same page will prevent anyone from falling too hard into the emotional abyss. And who knows? Maybe this dance of yours is just getting started. 💃🕺

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