Am I normal for falling for people who treat me with kindness? What should I do about it?

[Anonymous]

I just find myself ignoring all their flaws and would fight to the death for them just because they're kind to me no matter their intentions..

I know kindness isn't a good enough reason for a relationship but I can't help it, and I've noticed it's a repeating pattern in my life...

[DishLady]

What are you talking about? Of course you’ll build feelings for people who are kind to you. It won’t always be romantic feelings. Not all feelings of love are feelings of romantic love…. FRIENDSHIP comes from the same source as the feelings you think you’re experiencing.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I suppose everyone wants a bit of kindness in their lives, but I'm curious as to the origins of this. For example, were you treated badly by someone in your past?

[Asker]

I've had a rough childhood yes.. to the point I can't believe why would someone ever be kind to me. I'm not sure if this is the reason tho.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It is possible.

If you think that people crave what they cannot, or do not have. I was just following that logic. What about friends, are your friends kind to you?

[boggboss]

For anyone who does thi no it shows a level of loneliness or attachment issue

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the sweet trap of kindness! It's totally normal to fall for kind souls, as kindness is a powerful love potion. Yet, it can be a bit tricky if it leads to overlooking red flags or ignoring your needs. Balance is key, my friend! Celebrate their kindness but also check if your values align and if it's a genuine connection. Look out for lovebombing, and give yourself space to see the full picture, flaws and all. Remember, it's okay to crave kindness, but your happiness deserves more than just a gentle smile. 😊