How to stop being happy by the simple kindness people show to me?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yesterday a girl stopped me on a street, asking me if I was from Xingjiang (Northern China where Russian and Chinese are mixed creating unique appearance)

I told her I am not from Xingjiang, but I am European. She started low key “screaming” of a sort, saying “Oh, oh, oh! (Kind of like screaming and barely being able to talk) I am so happy you have stopped by to talk to me. I can’t believe! You’re so beautiful!” And etc…

Not to mention I don’t think I am beautiful at all, but I was seriously heart melt by her sincere expression of liking of me and how happy it made her feel to talk to me and I felt happy too. I felt like it was a nice highlight of a day and even mentioned this fact to my - I don’t know what to call him - Let’s say - to a man, I like and who likes me back.

But now I feel like I share this little things making me feel happy, maybe it comes off as me being too insecure to be happy by such expressions of liking from random people on the street? Maybe it comes off as bragging? Which I don’t intend to, I share enjoying the moon sight with the same enthusiasm as I share that moment.

I just felt really good, I’ve rarely ever had anybody screaming of happiness cause of talking to me before so it kind of raised my spirits and confidence and it made me feel happy.

[GlimmerNaina]

It's perfectly natural to feel happy when someone expresses genuine kindness and admiration towards you. Embrace and enjoy these positive moments, as they can uplift your spirits and boost your confidence.

Sharing such experiences isn't about bragging; it's about celebrating the good things in life. Those who care about you will understand and share in your joy. Don't overthink how others might perceive your happiness—focus on appreciating the kindness you receive and the happiness it brings you.

[IslaTheWitch]

err... I think I don't understand

isn't it normal to be happy if people are kind to you?

[MikeTheBartender]

Let me answer your question with a question, men tell you you're beautiful all the time, what makes it better when a woman tells you? Kind of more of a bonding thing? Versus a guy. Just hitting on you?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Men don’t scream saying that… She did kind of scream, and I am not even that beautiful… Plus, she was very pretty herself and she told me she can’t believe she is talking to me, because of how beautiful I look and when a man give me a compliment, I kind of feel like they want something from me, I feel good, but not as excited as when women say that… But I do love when a current romantic interest of mine calls me beautiful, it does brighten up my day.

[MikeTheBartender]

As it should ❤️

[msc545]

This is sort of self aggrandizment by proxy, if you take my meaning. I wonder what the purpose is in recounting these episodes on here other than garnering agreement?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

No, the event is precisely described. If you read the text - I notice that about myself that I pay too much attention to it and don’t like it. I want to stop noticing such episodes and no longer mention them… Just act like it’s natural, but each time it happens I get happy and excited and I feel like sharing with someone, I find it not so healthy, since it makes me dependent on external validation, and plus, what’s the need to share? I can enjoy it in silence. I want these things to keep happening but me not caring or not seeing the need to tell anyone… Now think about that. And you’ll realize my post is about me not being content about something… You’re a neuropsychologist, dig deeper and maybe you could see past self-aggrandizement in this post :)

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

For me this post means, that I have such a low view of myself that when something like that happens, I feel too excited about that and I don’t like it and wish to change that… What kind of psychologist would have a trouble seeing this? ;)

[msc545]

I think you protest too much.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

😂😂

[msc545]

I see you took my point.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Well, I am self aware in a lot of things I do. Doesn’t mean that I fully agree with you, but there might be tiny bit of truth in the fact that I like savoring those moments and allow myself to feed on them. I wish I can reach a point, where I don’t care much about them and they don’t make my day, like I am some 5 year old given a candy.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the sweetness of unexpected compliments! 🌟 It sounds like you've been sprinkled with a little bit of sunshine and it's totally okay to bask in that glow. Let's chat about enjoying these moments without a sliver of guilt.

First off, it's natural to feel uplifted when someone acknowledges or compliments you. It's a warm reminder that we're connected, even in the most fleeting of encounters. Feeling happy about it doesn't signal insecurity; it means you're human and you appreciate positive interactions. This is the emotional equivalent of soaking up a bit of sun on a chilly day – it's nourishing and invigorating.

Sharing these experiences with someone you’re fond of isn't bragging. It's like sharing a piece of your day that made you smile, hoping it'll light up theirs too. Think of it as spreading joy – something the world could always use a bit more of.

However, if you're worried about how it's perceived, mix it up by expressing interest in their day or their feelings too. It keeps the communication balanced and opens up a space for mutual sharing and connection.

Love, joy, and the occasional serendipitous encounter that makes your day – these are the spices of life. Enjoy them, share them, and never feel guilty for letting the little things light you up. After all, isn't it the small moments that often paint the grand picture of our lives with the most vibrant colors? 🎨✨ Keep glowing!

[DishLady]

Why would you do that?

[NathanDavis]

don't stop being happy

[andy530]

Why is that a bad thing?