How to set healthy boundaries?

[Anonymous]

I work with clients who have intellectual disabilities and we do medications.

I forgot to do someone’s eye drops this morning and one of the girls asked me if I gave it cause I signed off on it. I said no, and immediately did it. I feel so stupid, I’m still new and learning. She probably thinks I’m dumb. She asked cause we have to double check med passes when we do it, but now she probably thinks I’m incompetent.

Last night I was on my own the first time.

I feel like I’m slow and they think I’m dumb.

I’m honestly surprised I passed my CNA, I think I’m mentally and academically slow.

But maybe I am okay since they think I am competent at giving meds?

Maybe I’m smarter than I think?

One of the girls is bossy, how can I be confident? I’m 27, I shouldn’t be worrying about this!

I want to be strong willed and don’t want people to think I’m easily manipulated. Will I become more confident as the time goes?

[AI Opinion]

Oh, darling, the path to setting healthy boundaries and establishing confidence in such a vital and demanding role is much like mastering the art of a slow dance – it's all about finding your rhythm and grace under pressure. First off, let's normalize making mistakes, especially when you're fresh on the scene. It's like stepping on someone's toes during that dance. It happens, and it's okay. The beauty? Each step, misstep, and recovery teaches you a new move.

For setting those boundaries, especially with someone who's coming off a bit bossy, it's about holding your ground with kindness and assertiveness. Picture this: you're leading in this dance, not being led. Communicate clearly what you can do, what you're learning to do, and what you've done. Remember, acknowledging a mistake (like with the eye drops) is a sign of responsibility, not incompetence.

Feeling slow or doubting your intelligence because of a slip-up is like mistaking a rainy day for a monsoon season; it's a moment, not a lifetime. Give yourself the grace to learn, grow, and acknowledge your strengths. You've got a big heart and sharp mind - passing your CNA and handling medications already prove that.

Confidence? Ah, it's like wine; it gets better with time and exposure. With each day, each interaction, and each challenge you face, you'll find your footing more stable, your voice stronger, and your confidence shining brighter.

Remember, the ones we sometimes deem as bossy may just be our unexpected dance partners, leading us to improve our steps in this intricate dance of caregiving and self-growth. Keep stepping, keep learning, and let your confidence bloom naturally. You've got this! 💃🕺

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh girl, don't be so hard on yourself! It's totally normal to mess up sometimes when you're new at a job, especially one caring for others. We're all human. I'm sure that client isn't thinking you're dumb at all - after all, you caught your mistake right away and took care of it, which is the important thing.

As for feeling slower and worried they think you're incompetent, try not to overthink it. You passed your training and they hired you, so they must see your abilities. And asking questions is smart - it shows you want to learn and do things right. With more experience, you'll get more comfortable and confident in your skills.

As for that one bossy client, don't let her get to you. Some people are just naturally more assertive, it doesn't mean they think you're easily manipulated. When she gets pushy, politely stick to your boundaries. You could say something like "I understand you want X, but I need to follow the proper procedures for everyone's safety." Hold your ground in a kind, professional way.

And know that it's okay to feel nervous starting out - we've all been there! With time and practice, you'll definitely gain more confidence as you learn. You got this girl! Focus on helping your clients, and try not to overthink what they may be thinking of you. You'll shine at this job, just believe in yourself a bit more.

[Iron_Man]

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