Is it normal to follow your mom 24/7 all day at age 26-27?

[Sugar100]

I have no man, never had a guy want follow me daily , comitt to me, live together , do errands 24/7 with me, plan life together , which is why I’m stuck living with my mom at this age. We are together 24/7 all day daily.
but my mom is clingy & she got mad as I don’t want to work together at the same job.

when I leave to work or arrive home from job, it’s only time I can be alone in my car away from home & mom.
we always fight too & I don’t want work all week be all day with her. I want my space.

At home there’s no privacy. We share the room, the room connects to the bathroom so my door is never closed.

If I go out she’ll say where r u going? Or demand pressure me by text for me come home fast.

[DJB72]

I'm 52 and my family had to move in with my mum because she's getting dementia.

Right now you have the option of working to get your own place, even if it's a house share with other girls. Most of my friends did that as well because rent is bloody expensive.

So ask around. Don't tell your mum until you have a date for moving out. Get yourself some space between you before you end up hating her. Depending on the job, working at the same place might not be a bad thing.

Personally I moved three hours away from my parents at age 19 to protect my sanity...

[OlderAndWiser]

The family tradition is a convenient excuse. It really doesn't sound like you want to move out.

[Sugar100]

It’s not an excuse I have strict family everyone moved out til they got married. I’m not married so I’m stuck with my mom.

I’m 27 soon and never had a first boyfriend.

I’ve moved out before alone but my family all were very angry as I moved out without marriage.

Now I’m sad as I want be married but god is taking too long for me to find my perosn that wants be ny first boyfriend & marry me.

[Sugar100]

Everyone got lucky & got married which is why they all moved out but I have bad luck & cannot get married 😞 I’ve been depressed

[Sugar100]

I don’t even have a first boyfriend that can offer for us live together. 😞

[OlderAndWiser]

I expect that it is much more difficult to get a date when you live with your mom. Most guys that age are looking for relationships and they will have the impression that you are immature.

[Sugar100]

I’ve actually never met men that lives alone.
One guy I dated ended up being fuckboy & wasted my time & never gave me label as his girlfriend. He was 32 living with mom. But his sister lives in a house in their backyard with her boyfriend & 3 kids.

[Sugar100]

My family all believe a child can only move out til marriage. My brother got married my brothers wife’s sisters all were able move out as they got married.

I’m the last one left unable to get a first boyfriend and I’m 26 . I shud of been married by now. But my Prince Charming never came sooner when I was younger.

[Sugar100]

Only a new guy I’m talking to rn & seeing he bought his own house but his parents r religous like mine & don’t want him live with a girl til he’s married.
He lives with his brother that’s married. But the house is his.

[Sugar100]

I pray this guy ends up being my first boyfriend & we have serious relationship & I can live at his house one day. So I can have the babies , marriage, man taking care of me as I want. & leave nest of mom

[OlderAndWiser]

The odds on Prince Charming knocking on your door to ask you for a date are rather low.

[Sugar100]

We’ll my point was i don’t know any men that live alone so I don’t agree men will think I’m immature.

I just don’t have a man that will offer live with me which is y I’m alone with mom at this age.

But this new guy I’m seeing I have hope wtih him as he has a house but it’s worrying his parents are religous so they don’t let him live with a girl unless it’s his wife

[Sugar100]

I hope this is the boy that can be my first serious boyfriend & we can live together in future & have babies. I don’t think he’ll be forver living at his own house with no girl while his brother & wife are living at his house?

Wouldn’t he want a girl living with him too? And desire that in his house?

[OlderAndWiser]

That is what most men want as they get older.

[Sugar100]

U think I have chance move into his house one day?

[OlderAndWiser]

Have you had a date with him already? How far has this progressed?

[Sugar100]

It’s long distance so we will meet again this month. We’ve met before aleady yes

[OlderAndWiser]

How far away is he? How many times have you met? Have you held hands, hugged, kissed?

[Sugar100]

Hugged kissed. We’ve met once and we plan meet any day now this month. He’ll be coming to me this month 😛

[Nikki1989]

No, it is very weird. Everyone I know had moved out of their family home by the time they were 21 or much younger. I was made parent free at the age of 12.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, lovebirds that never leave the nest, right? 😜 But, instead of a partner, it's your mom! Here's the thing—being super close to your mom is sweet, but at 26-27, craving some personal space and independence is as normal as it gets. It sounds like you're dancing in a tango where you're both trying to lead. 💃🕺

Your situation's spicier because it's not just about wanting a partner to share life's dance with; it's also about finding your solo moves. And honestly, who doesn't need a moment to practice their solo performance without someone watching every step?

Being attached at the hip with mom, especially when it leads to squabbles and feeling suffocated, is a sign to start setting some boundaries. It's like looking for love; you gotta first date yourself, get to know your own likes, dislikes, and how much alone time you need to recharge those social batteries.

It sounds like it's time for a heart-to-heart with your mom. No fireworks, just honest chat about needing a bit of space. Maybe even explore the idea of finding a place of your own 🏠—it could be the sequel you both need for a healthier relationship dynamic.

Remember, creating a bit of distance doesn't mean you love her any less; it just means you're also ready to love yourself by giving yourself the space you need. 😉

[Sugar100]

I can’t move out until I’m
Married. It’s my family tradition but I have bad luck & I never had a boyfriend so I’m worried no guy will want marry me if no one even wants be my boyfriend follow me 24/7.

😞 I want to live with a guy not my mom. But I’m stuck with her becuase no guy wants be my boyfriend & comitt to me & give me that life I badly want. Follow my man. Not my mom.

[Sugar100]

Also if I tell mom I want my space she gets angry & cries & screams & blows up. My mom gets offended by the word space & calls me bad daughter selfish , etc manipulates me

[Sugar100]

I can’t move out as I’m not married I want buy a house but I hav no boyfriend husband to go house hunting with me & plan live together. 😞

[DrPepper12]

This is a toxic explosive situation. You need to get out cuz she won't change. At the very least a job separate from her.

[Sugar100]

We’ll I’m not married or have a first boyfriend that offers me live at his house. I’m waiting for that.

[DrPepper12]

New job then. Maybe live with a sibling?

[Sugar100]

My question is not how can I move away from mom. I just asked if it’s normal be with mom. 24/7. Only way for this to end is by having a boyfriend that offers live with me that loves me and wants me be inside his life

[LiamS95]

No,

But it's good that you have her as a companion when you're not in a relationship.

[bluelxthk]

It’s not wrong to love your mom, but when it impacts your ability to be an independent person then no, it’s not normal.

[Sugar100]

She doesn’t drive but still she’s clingy. She wants be with me 24/7 & give me no space.

[bluelxthk]

Yeah that’s not good for you, it may actually impacting your personal development and mental health

[Sugar100]

She calls me bad daughter if I say I want space. She compares me to my brothers wife’s sisters that they see their mom daily but that’s different. They are married so it’s easy for them visit their mom 24/7 . Also none of those girls work in the same job with their mom.

[bluelxthk]

Is there any possibility of you moving out of her house? I think that’s probably the only way of solving this

[Sugar100]

The worst part is I have no man that wants follow me 24/7 and ask me to live with him so I can no longer live with my mom. I never had a boyfriend. I’m waiting for a guy to give me this life I want , I want a man following me living together. I don't know y it’s taking so long for this to happen I want a man.

That’s only reason I’ll be 27 stuck with mom , god doesn’t give my person that wants live together

[bluelxthk]

Why do you think the only way to leave your mom’s house is to find a man who wants to follow you 24/7?

[Sugar100]

All girls live with a boyfriend / husband. A boyfriend or husband follows u 24/7 u share life together. It’s stupid living alone I’ve done that before , everyone lives with a man not alone.

I want babies marriage. But I’m stuck with mom as no guy wants marry me & be my first boyfriend

[Sugar100]

My question wasn’t move out of my moms house.

My question was is it normal follow your mom 24/7

[bluelxthk]

Not exactly true, but if that’s your opinion then I respect it

[Sugar100]

I live in an apartment and all girls live here with a man. I’m the only girl living with mom as I have no man.

I pray every day & I want a guy tell me to be his girlfriend & propose us to live together so I don’t need be with my mom 27-30 I’m praying & god don’t bless me 😞

[bluelxthk]

So you want a boyfriend to replace your mom?

[Sugar100]

My family r strict and everyone moved out til marriage so I’m waiting at 27 for a guy to finally be my first boyfriend & i fear I’ll neevr get married and that’s why I’m still stuck living at home with mom. I wish I was married now at age 26/27 😞

[Sugar100]

I only am talking to one new guy at moment but we have no label as boyfriend girlfriend. But he bought his own house but still his parents don’t want him live with a girl til he’s married.

So we both have religous household.

He lives with his brother & brothers wife. but the house is his.

[bluelxthk]

Do you have any hobbies?

[Sugar100]

I can’t buy my own house in future as mom will come live with me & it’ll be same me living with mom. Instead I want a man come live with me first & then offer mom come live at my house. So it’ll be I live with my man.

Not I live alone with mom.

Unless that guy ends up proposing to be my boyfriend & we live together at his house then it’ll solve all my issues. & I’m no longer following mom 24/7

[Sugar100]

My point is it’s not normal be 24/7 with your mom. It’s clear as all girls living in this apartment complex all live with a man and baby & im only girl living with mom.

I don’t want be 27-30 living with mom. I want follow a. Man instead live our own life, babies, not be a little girl living forever with mom no future.

& am I wrong for not wanting work same job as her? I want my space. & she hates me calles me bad daugjter as I don’t want work with her as I want my privacy in my car

[Sugar100]

So yes a boyfriend to Replace my mom.

[bluelxthk]

You’re right on wanting your own space, I just don’t understand why you say that when you live with a man you’ll ask your mom to live together with you

[Sugar100]

It’s just an example. Like I meant I can’t even buy my own house as my mom will want live with me & im stuck as I need a man, so he can live with me & I won’t need follow mom 24/7 anymore.

[Juxtapose]

You need to grow a spine and assert some boundaries even if it's uncomfortable.

[AngryCarl]

Your family is toxic, you need to move out and cut them off.

[eagle1951]

guessing no it's not

[impalabill77]

I don't think so.