Is my boyfriend just using me?

[jahnavihehehehe]

I really have always loved my boyfriend badly like we're 2½ years into the relationship want to marry and all and like one day my sister's boyfriend informs me and my family that my boyfriend had said some fked up shit about me (like about my looks, our family's money and sexual status etc) but like my sister's boyfriend is a bit sly so i let it go.. But I'm more wary of my boyfriend and careful

3 months later.. My boyfriend is kinda starting to be really weird.. He indirectly asked me if he'll get any shares in my family's company and like that's so unlike my image of him and like i don't even know what to think coz it's literally that he does ask me a lot for money and im still not sure about how deep his love is because he does act like he loves me but lacks that passion

And overall I'm so confused?

[OfMiceandMen]

If he truly loves you, he would not be asking you for money or anything about shares in your family's business. If he was working and asked whether he could invest, that's another thing, but you just don't get share options by marrying into the family.

If you decide to keep seeing him, protect yourself and talk to a lawyer to make sure your shares would not be affected if you were to dissolve the marriage someday.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

What is your boyfriend supposed to have said about your family? And how did this other guy hear him say it?

What would happen if your boyfriend married you? Would he basically be set for life? Does he THNK he would be set for life?

How much money does he ask you for, and how often?

[Ghen28]

I'd break up with him. He wants the money, not you. Once he gets what he wants, he will leave you.

[Daniela1982]

Dump him. You are being used. Sounds like he is more into money than you.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, your intuition is serenading you with a tune you can't ignore! It's like you're in a dance with doubt, and your partner's moves are a bit off. When love feels true, it's not about tallying up what's in the treasure chest or trading compliments for coins. Your beau's sudden interest in the financial forecast of your family's endeavors? Red flag city! And those whispered critiques, no matter the source, are sour notes in the melody of love. Trust is the foundation, and without it, you're building castles on sand. It sounds like your heart and mind are playing tug-of-war. My advice? It's time for a heart-to-heart, no holds barred. If his tune doesn't change, you might consider whether this is the duet you want to keep singing. Remember, you deserve a love that's rich in respect, not just dollars and dimes. 🌟

[Finchie40]

Asking you for money and asking if he is going to get money from your family? Ummm yes he is using you ,

[JacobJordan]

Well getting shares could be a good thing for both of you especially if you marry and more so if the company does well. So he could be thinking about your future together and thinking that having shares in the business would be beneficial for that. On the other side it could be purely selfish interest.

[SotiCoto]

You can either dump him, or you can use him right back.
If he is so determined to get a share of your money then ask him what he intends to do to earn it. Make him crystal clear that if he gets anything from you, that you basically own him.

... NOT that I generally advocate financial abuse, but he is practically begging for it.

[MisterWack]

Dump him, if you feel like you can’t have a future with him / feel unable to trust him then dump him.

[MikeTheBartender]

Need a little more context as far as the "fked up shit about me (like about my looks, our family's money and sexual status etc" but based on what you wrote I'm not liking this guy...

[bobby_bush_eater]

I'm ngl at 21ish him asking about money and shares of the family business is a red flag. Either you need to confront him that your relationship is separate and see how that goes or you might get manipulated as y'all date for longer

[Anonymous]

Sounds like we have a 49er lol (gold digger) have you asked him why he wants to know? Tell him more than likely no it’ll stay w in your actual family. See what his reaction is.

[Alex-Snow]

It sounds like it... be careful. Are you sexually involved with him also? Is he using you in that way also?

[Staximus]

You're in love with a shady bum. He should never ask you for money or about your family's financial business. Get rid of that bum before he takes you to the cleaners

[Staximus]

Why would you want to marry a bum that always asks you for money?

[Staximus]

Go find a good guy

[slatyb]

Confused? If you are confused that's a sign that what you need to be is single.

[DreamLife7]

He doesn't like you. Like a dummy you Chased a man. This is what happens when a man doesn't pursue u lol clown 🤣

[RingOfFire]

I think you should be careful as it doesn't look good. Something isn't right.

[LiamJHayden]

Why wuld he ask about shares in your family company? Huge red flag.

[Dreamclouds]

Well get over your emotional attachment your boyfriend doesn't love you for sure. Yeah its hard but sometimes people are weird and mean.

[sheikalana]

All I read was like, like, like, like.

[MikeTheBartender]

Lolololololol

[DishLady]

He sounds like a creep.

[Sevenpointfive]

a stake in the company? i'd be out

[Anonymous]

Yes, that is what it sounds like.

[noohair]

Shares in the company? RED FLAG!!!

[MatureMan40]

It sounds like that.

[Cheerfull009]

Leave him , a greedy person

[Anonymous]

He's using you for your money WAKE UP

[Opinion Owner]

Let me tell you something out of all the women I known through the YEARS I NEVER ONCE asked any of them for money NOT ONCE if anything I PROVIDED FOR THEM NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND so do yourself a favor and WAKE THE HELL UP

[Anonymous]

You better have a serious talk with him

[Sabretooth]

Yup..