Why do I get anxious when my boyfriend goes out?

[birds]

I feel like something bad will happen to him

[Finchie40]

Have you experienced past trauma with an ex or it could possibly stem down to your childhood as well, if you experienced abandonment issues. Most anxiety and insecurities stem down to past trauma events that occurred in your life , if you feel your boyfriend is being up to no good when he isn’t by your side , you are best to have a sit down talk with him and express your feelings of concern to him , be honest with him and tell him, how you feel when he is away from you. If your boyfriend loves and cares about you , he will reassure you that he loves you and that you have nothing to worry about , if he gets ride and defensive towards you and says things like you are insecure , you don’t trust me etc… that right there is a red flag that he more than likely is up to no good. The thing is , whether he is telling you the truth or not , you have to ask yourself are you really happy being in a relationship with someone that makes you feel this way? You are only hurting yourself by feeling this way , every time he goes out without you , so again if he loves you , he will reassure you that you have nothing to worry about and if he is respectful? , he will not go out as much without you anymore , but understand what you want him doing for you , needs to be the same thing you do for him. , not the other way around

[Finchie40]

I just realized I answered one of your previous questions about your boyfriend before? My question to you is why are you still with this guy?

[Miristheiss]

I guess you don't like the things he does when out or you don't like how much he talks to and flirts with women.

If you don't like his boundaries then why are you with him? You won't feel angst all the time if you get with someone who you have shared boundaries with.

[Minky17]

You should think about it for 30 minutes talking to a tree or the ocean - then when all the anxiety leaves your body - you can tell the tree or ocean you didn't mean what you said earlier.

This just helps get rid of any and all intrusive thoughts. Bc if you dwell on this for 24-72 hours daily - your boyfriend and RAS brain system - will send confirmation of his wrongdoings.

[WhitneySnow]

You miss him and your brain is irrationally afraid that he’s gonna cheat on you or get hurt if he goes out without you. It’s called anxiety. I gave it too, although mine doesn’t manifest itself exactly in that way.

[WhitneySnow]

Get it too

[AI Opinion]

Aiming to sprinkle a little insight into the spicy salsa of your feelings, let's dive into it. Feeling anxious when your partner goes out without you is like watching a suspense movie where you're the main character, and you've lost control over the remote. This rollercoaster of emotions often comes from a mix of deep care, a pinch of fear of the unknown, and sometimes, a dash of past experiences leaving a bitter taste. It's crucial, darling, to communicate your feelings to your boyfriend calmly. Sharing your feelings can create a stronger connection and understanding between the two of you. Also, focusing on self-love and trust-building activities can be a game-changer. Maybe it's time to explore those hobbies you've been putting off or plan a chill movie night for yourself. Remember, it's the trust tango, and both partners need to dance to the rhythm of mutual understanding and respect. Keep the love, lose the fear, and let the trust be the anchor of your relationship. 💃🕺

[curiousmandy]

Are you more worried in him being physically hurt or cheating on you?
Have you experienced loss of any kind recently or in the past that hit you hard?

[Billlewis]

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[MisterWack]

You love him and care about him deeply, maybe this originates from past trauma like a loved one lost or a friend. Look deep into yourself and ask yourself if you’ve experienced trauma that would cause a deeply rooted worry/fear/anxiety.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's a bad apple or a bad egg, lol - not to be rude. Some people know how to pick 'em or some mothers "do have them" aka - some people are just accident-prone or looking for trouble, so im glad I never dated because no doubt, I'd either fall for the wrong woman, or she's prone to being rebellious/mischievous - not me 🥱👀✌🏻 goodie two shoes here - 👌🏻😁

[strateguy632]

that is a good feeling of caring especialy in u. s. i can't say who is coming n came over the borders but...

if you have strong anxiety speak to a psychologist how to deal with strong emotions and not tremble sweat etc.

[naartjie]

Something bad as in he slips and falls into another woman’s vag?

[TommyMountainFigure]

Do you feel anxious when you go out too?

I'm trying to establish if you are just suffering from anxiety in general, and if so your boyfriend just happens to be the catalyst for it.

[EmmaMary]

Sounds like you're more concerned as to whether he's off to get his leg over with another woman.

[sheikalana]

That’s normal. You will eventually get used to it.

[GawkVoidArisen]

You seem to care a bit too much, and clearly have GAD or something? do you take meds?

would you mind if I ask you for some advice? hit me up if its okay?

[Iron_Man]

That’s like a family member the way you’re acting you must really love this guy

[Enginn]

I dont know. Why do you?

[jahaims]

Unresolved trauma