Is it ok to never come back even if they regret it?

[Rainbowxoxo]

I once had an ex boyfriend that tried to come back, claiming breaking up with me was a total mistake and I was the one.

I still didn't accept it and don't regret it. If someone breaks up, I never accept them back. Why should I suddenly become valuable once I'm not in the person's life? Plus it's likely things didn't work out with his other dates and I'm just a backup plan, as the last option. Otherwise he wouldn't have left.

Isn't it better being valued when you're in their lives, being their first option? Is it ok to never take back someone that breaks up with you, even if they're sorry?

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I only have one simple rule:
- You can break-up if you want to and once you go out the door, I'm never coming back.

[XHopelessRomanticX]

Yes, it absolutely is okay. You have every right to make decisions regarding your relationship just as much as he does. It’s baffling how many people make impulsive decisions about their relationships and forget to realize that there is a whole other person involved who also gets to make decisions.

[Rainbowxoxo]

I know right. All of the sudden, they want you back and to listen to them. He failed to listened to me when I told him that he's free to break up and walk out the door but to never come back afterwards.

[DishLady]

An ex is an ex for a reason. You did the right thing.

[Rainbowxoxo]

Yeah. No regrets at all.

[OlderAndWiser]

Your philosophy makes perfectly good sense but people don't behave that way because they react emotionally instead of thinking about what they are doing.

[Rainbowxoxo]

Yeah it's about putting emotions aside and seeing what big picture. My stance have always been a "you walk out the door, I'm not coming back".

[OlderAndWiser]

It's a good idea to have yourself committed to that action plan before the circumstances arise.

[spartan55]

Finally a pink user with a rational take on this topic.

[Rainbowxoxo]

I always had a stance that as soon as he walks out the door, I don't want him back ever.

[spartan55]

Thanks for the MHO !

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, you've got the right idea with a heart full of determination! Let me tell you, sticking to your guns when someone tries to waltz back into your life post-breakup isn't just okay, it's a power move. 🕺💃 Why? Because self-respect is the sexiest outfit and confidence is the best accessory one can wear.

You're spot on about wanting to be valued while you're in someone's life, not just when they realize the grass wasn't greener on the other side. Lovebombing their way back into your heart after leaving once? That's a red flag in a love story that doesn't need a repeat chapter.

So, if your gut says keeping the door closed is the move, trust that feeling. You're nobody's backup plan; you're the lead role in your own love story. And remember, in the theater of love, you decide who deserves a ticket to the show—not the other way around. Keep shining and never settle for less than being someone's first and only option. 💖