I left my husband's home because his insecurities and jealousy crossed alll limits. He says he saw my ex around my workplace. He created chaos there multiple times. My ex's number was still in my phone after we began dating. He's insecure about that. He is insecure about my colleagues and makes me have to call and inform him even if i go to the atm for 10 minutes. He twisted my arm couple times. His parents complains about me having a job that sometimes makes me come home in the evening. (I'm a university lecturer ). Husband became jobless and now he's at home all day calling me and screaming why I'm not coming home in between classes. He says I'm cheating. During fights he says he'll smash my face and even tried to punch me. Every time he restricts himself. I've finally gone back to my parents because he told my mum my ex told him we're still seeing each other. He says mean things about my Mom and sister. I told his parents that he hurt me and I'm leaving but they say what will people say if you leave. Mother in law is leaving the contry for 2 weeks who will take care of the houses but they let me go because my parents came and took me.
Last time he made serious trouble I left him and we had a confrontation with our families present. he said sorry and that he'd never do it again. But he was very angry about that confrontation saying I ambushed him. After just one week he turned into that insecure man with violent tendencies. though he never hit me.
I said I'm divorcing him and he's gone into depression and anxiety. begging me, saying sorry, wanting to go to a doctor to get treated. He says he'll die without me. his family is getting sick from worry. that did I not love him at all that I'm leaving after only two times i faced problem. says he'll never make me do things i dont wanna. I'm never at peace at that house. They're really misogynistic and sexist. I don't want to raise kids in that household.
How do I stop feeling empathy for him? Do people like him change?
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Girl, with all my heart, DO not go back to that mu fucka he is trying to MANIPULATE you. He's a damn lie. he won't change, he's controlling, Threatens to hit you, constantly accuses you of shit. You don't even seem to get along too well with his parents. DO not go back.
Lemme ask you this buddy, do you GENUINELY feel safe around this dude? Are you GENUINELY happy with him? I'm not tryna say some fairy tale shit but marriage is supposed to be with someone who you would do anything for and they'd do anything for you. You're supposed to have eachothers backs. He ain't doing any of that shit. He's just tryna to guilt you into going back by saying he's going to go in to depression and he'll "die" he's already done it once and said he'll change and look what happened. He went back to how he was. Why would he all of a sudden change. Also. For the record. Fuck what other people think if you divorce him, they ain't married to him, it's not their life. Just do what makes you happy.
But I will say. That fool seems crazy as hell so just be cautious he don't do any crazy shit like kidnap yo ass
The way to stop feeling empathy for him is to think about how he treats you. Threatens to hit you? What kind of love is that booolllshietš¤ and no people like that don't change, they just keep lying till the person gets use to it
My empathy comes from the fact that he lost his job unfairly and his family treats him like shit too. He says I'm the only person he can call his own. Today he talked to me grabbed my hand begged for forgiveness and I said no. He says he has nothing to live for. This time I said I'm divorcing and he's saying he's realized his mistakes. Since I loved him genuinely, I still see that loving face I saw when we started being in love. And that face all that comes to my mind and then the violent face comes. I'm being tortured mentally by my own thoughts. He's probably paranoid schizophrenic and perhaps bipolar. Am I horrible to want to leave him? Should I stay and get him treated?
Also he's saying he'll get a lawyer and give it in writing that he's going to change. He's gonna let me do whatever I want go wherever I need to. He'll have no problem with my freedom. Is this believable?
Girl leave his ass, that little hope that it'll become perfect this time isn't going to play out how you think it is. I promise you it'll just go back to how it is. The dude is just saying whatever and anything he needs to say to get you to stay.
And hell no thats not believable, but hey do what you want I suppose