My best friend becomes a straight asshole when he gets a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I’ve known my best friend for over a decade he is genuinely an amazing friend he is always there for me when I need him and he is the sweetest guy however he turns into a straight grade a asshole every time he gets a partner, recently we just moved to a brand new place we discussed expectations and chores etc before we moved and everything seemed good mind you he didn’t have a girlfriend before this, he would always help me out with cleaning or dishes or whatever I needed when I was working (I’m a welder so I work long hours and I’m typically exhausted at the end of the day) we found a place that was way over our budget but he assured me when we moved he would gain employment to help me out with the bills and to split everything evenly well it’s been almost 3 months now and he got a new girlfriend. He spends all his time in his room talking to his girlfriend (they are long distance) he literally can’t even go to the bathroom for a second without being on the phone with her, he Dosent clean he constantly leaves a mess for me to clean up I buy everything for the apartment with no help (groceries, toilet paper, cleaning supplies etc) I also pay majority of rent which for me is 1350 and he only pays 750. I work my ass off just to make ends meet while he sits on his ass on government assistance talking to his girlfriend 24/7. The last straw I had with him is when I bought 2 medium pizzas for myself to last me a few days until I can go to the food bank when I woke up I went to grab pizza and 3 slices were already missing from the pizza I know damn well I didn’t eat then I found a McDonald’s bag in the garbage so he had food, I wouldn’t be bothered by this as much if he was actually trying like enrolled in school or something I wouldn’t mind paying more for a little while until he landed a Job right but he’s not even trying he’s just taking advantage of me at this point.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the drama of love turning a solid pal into a living, breathing red flag! It's like a rom-com, but you're living the blooper reel. Love can sometimes make us lose sight of everything but the object of our affection, turning even the sweetest into someone we hardly recognize. It sounds like your buddy is deep in the honeymoon phase, but unfortunately, it's at the expense of your friendship and household harmony.

Communication is key, my friend. I know, easier said than done, right? But sit him down (yes, pry him away from his love-fest on the phone) and lay it out like your favorite pizza – clear and straightforward, with all the toppings of your feelings and concerns. Discuss expectations again, highlight the imbalance, and gently nudge him towards the reality of your shared living situation. It's about teamwork, after all.

If talking turns out to be as effective as a chocolate teapot, it might be time to consider more drastic measures like a new roommate arrangement. Remember, a relationship, be it friendship or romantic, should add to your life, not deplete it. Keep it light, keep it loving, but most importantly, keep your own wellbeing in focus. Good luck!

[zedzed1755]

I think it's important to talk to him and express how you feel. It seems like your reaction to him constantly talking to his girlfriend might suggest deeper feelings for him. However, it's crucial to address the real issue: his lack of respect for your boundaries, not cleaning up after himself, and not showing any clear goals regarding work. This situation is more about his behavior rather than anything to do with his girlfriend or him having a girlfriend.

[Billlewis]

That's what a lot of guys do when they get a new girlfriend.