Why is my guy best friend such an asshole sometimes?

[Kashloveskash]

My guy best friend is literally such a dick to me sometimes and says the most hurtful things to me. It’s hard to describe bc we are very close and we do have a lot of good memories together we’re he has been nice but sometimes he calls me out of my name and throws personal things in my face but he doesn’t admit to it. A lot of my other friends say I shouldn’t be friends with him n others say he likes me but Ik 100% he has no romantic feelings towards me. In the past he’s told me I’m his first closet’s female friend he’s ever had n the reason he’s mean is bc he sees me like a little sister but sometimes he’s mean attitude is very over board to the point where we we’re stop talking but we always make up and Ik u might think I’m sensitive but I swear I’m not the thing about it is that he never talks to our other male’s friends that way only me but why only me?

[MLBHct1P]

in my opinion a lot of guys struggle being emotionally vulnerable and can sometimes react in mean ways instead of, you know, showing emotion.

Another possible reason is that he’s got feelings for you but doesn’t know how to deal with them and just lashes out. My guess is that it comes down to emotional inexperience.

My advice would be to tell him that he can be really hurtful with the stuff he says sometimes and ask if he can not tease you as much, may not work first few times but if you make sure he knows you’re serious and that it’s really affecting your friendship with him then he might change his tune

[Kashloveskash]

I have told him before and he just ignores me majority of the time but there has been those some rare times where he’s been like ok I’m sorry I lashes out but he still continues to do it

[Skywalker43]

Remember he's your friend not your boy friend. He doesn't seeing as a girl that's his friends he just sees you as his friends so he treats you like he would treat his guy friends. And guys are total jerks to each other all the tine especially if they're friends. But you can always talk to him about howyou feel about him beung a jerk to you. Honestly he doesn't even realize he's being a jerk. But remember you're just friends until one of you or both of you decide to change the dynamic of your relationship with eachither

[Kashloveskash]

Ya that’s the thing I’ve talked to him before and he doesn’t really say anything like all he is that he treats me like one of the guys but he’s deadass cussed me out till I’ve cried and he’s never treated one of them that way yk

[_deeznuts]

I have no idea why he's picking on you in peticular, but this guy clearly has some issues. If you confront him about the teasing/bullying and he doesn't want to admit it or apoligize, this is an abusive relationship babes. U should listen to your friends and break it off.

I'm so sorry you have to go through this <33

[Waldoe]

his feelings are "conflicted" ... sorry.. "Men" almost ALWAYS develop sexual feelings for a girl they are close to, it is Not Love, it is basically a "Need to Breed" (God's design) sorry, some say we are all PIGS... sadly, we are just men... We can learn to "behave", but we really do NOT want to... "Men" can't live with them, can't live without them...

[Anonymous]

Part of it is the age group that he is in. (Assuming he is around your age.) Hasn't learned to talk to people appropriately yet. Plus he's got to have some issues going on. One approach would be to calmly tell him that he is saying hurtful things.

[Kashloveskash]

Ya he as told me it’s hard for him to show his feeling bc in his house old men can’t cry and he tends to get anger fast but he gets very aggressive and it kinda scares bc I kinda have a little ptsd with people being like towards me (he’s not physical just verbal) and I understand where he’s coming from but I still feels it’s not ok

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

Because he's your guy best friend, and he knows you in and out

[SeekingVirginWife]

I am a asshole too, I am racist, sexist, and violent. Problem?

[driven159]

Because there is an asshole born every minute

[In_Trance]

You'd have to ask him why

[Anonymous]

Pretty simple. You allow it.

[RuthlessAggression]

Is he gay?

[Kashloveskash]

No he’s not

[PatriceONeal]

Beacuae you allow it