How do I move on?

[Anonymous]

Hi guys, I have been thinking lately about this guy who hurt me a lot lately. Backstory we were friends for two years and had a situationship but then out of no where he blocked me on everything and started ghosting me in person. Later I find out he has a girlfriend which is okay but I was really hurt he threw away our years friendship. I genuinely cared for him. I tried to talk to him but he refused to talk to me and embarrassed me in front of our friends. He gave me a disgusting look and told me to leave him alone. I was extremely angry and hurt. We have the same friendgroup so everything got so awkward. I eventually left the group. I am still wondering what is the reason he stopped talking to me in specific out of no where. Last time I saw him before that everything was normal and we had a good conversation so it was all sudden for me. It’s been two years since this incident and I still can’t move on. I don’t know if it’s because I need closure an explanation or I can’t process losing a close friend like that. We were together through good and bad times in our life and he was my comfort person and I do have an attachment issue because once I care for someone a friend or a lover I never want to let them go. What do u think I should do?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl, I'm so sorry you went through that crappy situation. Losing someone so close like that out of nowhere is so confusing and hurts like hell. No wonder it's been so hard to move on after 2 years!

Honestly at this point, I don't think you're going to get any real closure or explanation from him. He clearly wants nothing to do with you and is too immature to own up to how he tossed you aside. Don't give him the satisfaction of seeing how much he hurt you.

As hard as it is with your attachment issues, I think the best thing is to fully close that chapter yourself without his input. Throw out anything that reminds you of him. Unfollow/block him on all socials so you can't stalk his lame life.

Focus on cultivating other close friendships and support systems so you're not relying on one person. Also do things just for you - your hobbies, your goals. In time his betrayal will fade and mean less. You deserve so much better than that jerk!

It's gonna take work but you've got this. Lean on your real girlfriends and don't waste another second thinking about what a waste of space he turned out to be. Your worth isn't defined by people who mistreat you.

[exitseven]

His new girlfriend was very jealous and she told him to end the relationship. He was too embarrassed to be so PW'd so that was how he handled it

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Anonymous]

“Backstory we were friends for two years and had a situationship but then out of no where he blocked me on everything and started ghosting me in person. Later I find out he has a girlfriend”


You pretty much explained everything you need to know, right here. Once the situationship happened, you two were no longer just friends. That took it a step further. So once he got a girlfriend, out of respect for he he cut you off due to the nature of his relationship with you. I’m sure you know how girlfriends can feel if they’re boyfriend has an opposite sex close friend, it just isn’t comfortable because usually there’s more to their friendship than platonic. Covering the situation with verbiage like “we were such good friends” doesn’t take away the fact that you both ruined things by taking it further. He can no longer keep you once he got an actual girlfriend. Sorry this is hard to accept or agree with, but you can’t really say you don’t understand.

[Fatoumamoud]

You probably had feelings for them, either way, move on. He didn't give u any explanation so let it be. I don't know what you still hadn't moved on.

[Asker]

I won’t deny I was romantically interested in him but he was more a friend to me than anything, plus it was just starting so I didn’t fully acc develop romantic feelings for him but more he was a person I cared for deeply as a friend. I had moved on but just a few weeks ago I started thinking about it again and I just had a flow of emotions and I don't know why I feel that way.

[Fatoumamoud]

Just remember him being a jerk by concealing your friendship then move on. You didn't deserve it. Do yourself a favor and remember that you deserve someone who kind and love you. His ass lost your friendship his lose! I hope that you don't beat yourself up for his ass. Cheers!

[AI Opinion]

Oh, sweetheart, navigating through the stormy weather of ghosting and lost connections is like trying to dance in the rain without getting wet—it's tricky, but not impossible! 🌧️💃 First off, it's absolutely okay to feel all the feels. You've lost not just a potential love interest but a dear friend, and that's a double whammy right there. It seems like you're caught in a whirlpool of needing closure and grappling with attachment which, let me tell you, is perfectly human.

The first step to moving on is recognizing that, sometimes, the closure we seek comes from within. It's about writing that final chapter yourself, rather than waiting for someone who's already left the story. It might not be easy, especially with those pesky attachment issues tugging at your heart, but I believe in turning pain into power. Channel your energy into activities and people that light up your world, not those that leave you in the dark.

Given everything, it's essential to prioritize self-love and healing. Surround yourself with friends and activities that reinforce your worth and happiness. Consider this: the absence of his explanation speaks volumes about his character, not your value. And remember, darling, moving on isn't about forgetting; it's about forward. Keep dancing in the rain, and soon enough, you'll find yourself dancing in the sunshine. ☀️💖

[Anonymous]

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