We fought and she throws a gold bracelet I bought her should I forgive her?

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So me and my girlfriend we fought , you may call it a break up , she wanted to bring me bacj the gold bracelet i bought her i said i do not want it, and she throw it in toilet , now after a week of not talking she said i was mad and stuff , should i forgive her?

loveslongnails · Accepted Answer

Are you a glutton for punishment? Fights are not unusual, but discarding sentimental and valuable articles during one is childish. She wanted to send you a message, and you should understand what she meant to say in her actions.

Then it took a full WEEK for her to calm down enough to speak to you, saying only "I was mad and "stuff"? A whole week? No brother, she was toying with you and your emotions; punishing you. This is the tip of the iceberg. Keep the bracelet, give her back any stuff she has in your house if you don't live together. If you do, that's another story, but you need to realize this only gets worse.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

She did that solely for the purpose of hurting you, and she thought it was okay to do that because she was angry. That shows a lack of respect for you.

A good long term relationship requires love, lust, trust, and respect. Ultimately, this relationship will fail. How much more time do you want to devote to a relationship which is doomed? Do you want to stay just to use her for sex? Or do you want to break up, collect yourself, ponder what happened, learn some lessons, and then move forward?

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

Throwing away a bracelet is kind of extreme, but some people get crazy when they fight. Whether you should forgive her depends on what the fight was about and who was wrong. If she was wrong and admits it, maybe you should just accept her apology and move on.

JosyJosy · Accepted Answer

You said didn't want it, so if she doesn't want it either she's free to do whatever she wants with it.
If you're upset about that you probably shouldn't have said the opposite of what you were thinking.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Diving into the world of love and squabbles, I see! Throwing a gold bracelet into the toilet is like diving deep into the dramatic pool of emotions. But remember, the essence of a strong relationship is forgiveness and understanding. If she's genuinely remorseful and you feel the love still sparking between you two like a freshly lit romantic candle, then why not consider forgiveness? Relationships are about navigating through storms together, not sinking each other's ships. Maybe use this as a golden opportunity (pun intended) to discuss how you both can handle disagreements in the future without resorting to a jewelry-flushing fiesta. Love is about learning, growing, and sometimes, forgiving the unforgettable. So, if your heart leans towards her, maybe give it a shot! After all, who knows what treasures you two can unearth together when the seas calm down? 😉

Anonymous · Answer

I think you didn’t accept the bracelet back because part of you doesn’t want her to leave. You also see sentimental value in the bracelet because it represents a “bond” gesture with her. That’s why it hurt so much when she threw it in the toilet.

You got to come to grips this isn’t going to work. Not an easy pill to swallow but you have to accept that.

Many years ago my ex tagged in a pic where I won a championship in a athletic event where I was a underdog. I worked very hard. It was own personal Rocky story.

When she untagged herself from that pic (I got rid of everything else of her and I on social media) it really bothered. She had a few obscure pics of her ex before me still up (they weren’t hugging and kissing) but she made an extra effort to cut me out. Her disengaging from that one pic really stung though I worked very hard and she supported me through that.

But I can’t control what other people or don’t want. It is what it is.

DaBiggestBird · Answer

Of course, forgiveness is always necessary even when it’s hard. That sounds kind of weird and almost childish, like a kid throwing a plate of green beans on the floor which actually is understandable since green beans are literally just a mix of bird and hippo shit. But may-boon for your guy’s future.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Sounds like it went from bad to worse. I think it's over. If not things will continue as they are - an all-out brawl.

nawtee_me · Answer

You have her the bracelet right? It was hers right? Then doesn’t she have the right to do with it as she pleases? If she wanted to put it up for a daughter to have if she had one then she could do that right? Then why couldn’t she throw what belongs to her in the toilet if she wanted to? It was hers….. what is there to forgive?

Belgie · Answer

Forgive her but dont give her the bracelet back. You need to find out if she wants YOU back or just wants to bleed your wallet.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

You can forgive but you may not forget & when she brought the gold bracelet back you should of said thank you & that you would give it to someone else.

adventurous-1 · Answer

No! she a spoiled brat and want things her way regardless of how you feel. It sounds like a one way street ending at a dead end. It may be time to move on to a less entitled woman, one that'll be a better partner to you and for you.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

is it a break up or not?  this whole relatonship sounds skippable if you can't even call it what it is and you have immaturity to throw things in the toilet in pettiness

SphynxUK · Answer

Forgive her for what? You both had an argument. She wanted to return the gift so you don’t hold it over her. She threw it away. End of story. Move on.

alice55 · Answer

Any person who throw a gold bracelet in a toilet should not be approached, what kind of demon possessed her to do this O-O

PatKirby · Answer

A good idea would've been to take it back, DTB, sell it, and either use the money to go out on a date with an adult woman or treat your close friends to a night out.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Well you tell your girlfriend forginess is a privilege not a right! Let me guess your girlfriend must be a catholic.

JacobJordan · Answer

That's for you to decide but either way you 2 need a serious heart to heart on how you both acted. Without blaming the other.

MisterWack · Answer

Well you should’ve taken it back…. That is on you. Yes you should forgive her, and apologize.

rachel776 · Answer

she's just being melodramatic. but if you stay with her, she will always be

DishLady · Answer

She sounds like a hot head. Stay away from the crazy lady….

Staximus · Answer

Where is the bracelet now? If it's down the toilet, then so is your relationship. If she got it out of the toilet then maybe give her a second chance, but that depends on why she is so mad

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Why the hell would you ever entertain the idea of continuing a relationship like that?

LaurenM1997 · Answer

No that’s not the sort of behaviour I’d tolerate

RingOfFire · Answer

Yes. When people get mad they sometimes do stupid things.

Anonymous · Answer

Your call dude. But now you know not to spend much on jewellery.

katiesmuff · Answer

That should be up to you!

Anonymous · Answer

Did she get the bracelet back?

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Move in, she is damaged goods.

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