Is your ultimate goal to find a partner for an exclusive relationship?

Question

There are questions posted about open relationships, polyamory, swinging, and other non-traditional types of relationships, and questions which bash marriage as a failed institution, but not as many questions about the virtues and desirability of traditional marriage or a long-term committed and exclusive relationship. I think this is caused by people in non-traditional relationships needing to seek validation for their choices while people in traditional relationships don't have that same need. The result is that some users seem to perceive that traditional marriage and long term monogamy have lost their popularity because they don't often hear it being discussed in positive terms.

SO. . . you tell me. The question is not whether you want to get married or find a long term relationship immediately. If you are 17 or 18 years old, I wouldn't recommend that; date for a while and become familiar with the range of people available for relationships, but. . . eventually, do you want to be in a relationship that leads to a long term monogamous commitment or marriage?

LazerBean · Accepted Answer

When I was dating, it was only to find a spouse. Marriage is a beautiful and wonderful thing, and it is certainly not for everyone. Especially these days.

menina · Accepted Answer

I'm 31 years old, I might be late for that but I do want to be in a exclusive relationship and get married one day.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, love in the air! The question of whether the ultimate goal is to find that one true partner for an exclusive relationship sparks quite the debate, doesn't it? Let's dive right into the heart of the matter! In my profession, I see all kinds of relationships, from those fluttering in the honeymoon phase to those deeply rooted in years of affectionate togetherness. Each story is unique, yet the desire for a lasting connection seems to be a common thread.

While the allure of non-traditional relationships dances in the limelight, the timeless elegance of a committed, one-on-one partnership can't be overlooked. It's like comparing a hot summer fling to the comforting warmth of a lifelong love. Sure, experimenting and exploring are part of the journey, but at the end of the day, many still yearn for that exclusive someone who understands them better than anyone else.

Yes, the glitter of open relationships and polyamory might catch the eye, but the deep, fulfilling love found in a committed relationship or marriage – that's the gold standard for many. So, whether you're 18 or 80, there's something incredibly special about finding that one person to share life's rollercoaster with. And hey, if that's what you're dreaming of, don't let the noise of the world make you question your heart's desire. Here's to finding love, in whatever form it means to you! 💖

AviatorTom · Answer

I am older than 31. It was always my goal to find a partner for a long-term exclusive relationship. I was successful, found that woman, and we were married for 20 years (3 kids) before an amicable divorce. After the divorce, I dated several women, exclusive with each one, looking for companionship and nothing more... until I met this one woman who changed my mind. We've been together for 8 years now.

Unit1 · Answer

"The question is not whether you want to get married or find a long term relationship immediately."

"do you want to be in a relationship that leads to a long term monogamous commitment or marriage?"

Which is it now? Anyhoo

I am someone uninterested in marriage but wants a serious long term relationship. I don't see the point in telling the government/matrix "lookie here. This is the one I love" with a certificate and some legal gimmicks. It's inviting some intruding noses, that I either don't care about or prefer them not knowing about our private "love business" and making things more complicated/harder. To me the only delta between a long term relationship and a marriage is exactly that.

Then again, I can see why marriage is such a big deal for women. I call modern marriage a women's (only) thing. You know what else is probably a women's thing? Glitter. I could put glitter on myself and feel no shame and walk in public all glittery.

Crimsyjo · Answer

Yep people who are happy and going about their lives with their partner are much less likely to come here posting questions (which then draws you into answering some) so on here it's gonna mainly be single people or unhappy people! Making relationships sound hard or horrible lol

I am most definitely looking for "the one" now. I get down days when I'm disheartened. And up days where I feel pretty free and happy single.

As you maybe know.. I have casual relationships to fill the void whilst awaiting this mysterious Knight in shining armour. I'm not sure how wise that is? Especially as it seems to satisfy me less and less these days. But I crave intimacy and connection (and sex) and some excitement here and there is good.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Yes. Long term committed relationship is the only that I know…I didn’t know any other way…marriage discussions were not on the plate till committed relationship is established.
never heard of friends with benefits, hookups, etc before I joined gag…. all sounds very unhealthy and complicated.

all my childhood/college friends shared similar values… long term/marriages/work hard/be successful…go to Ivy League schools.. and have a good family.
pretty simple right?

19magic · Answer

I am now and probably should have said yeah sooner, but as a teen while I always wanted a love I always thought I was too broken to be loved, then went through a stage where I believed love wasn't real. That it was simply some thing they put movies and books, to let people make something good out of a bad situation. My mark isn't as bad as that guy on telly etc so I think I'm a little late to the party tbh

Lliam · Answer

It depended on my age. I got my first girlfriend when I was 16. I wanted and had exclusive partners because I wasn't interested in one night stands but I had no interest in marriage or kids. I didn't start thinking about finding a wife and settling down until I was in my early 30s.

I had a couple more long term relationships after that and finally met my future wife when I was 40.

DishLady · Answer

As someone who fully endorses marriage and values a happy, healthy ltr, I also know it’s not always in the cards for everyone, so realistically, regardless of what a person’s goals are, if they’re not meeting the right people it’s important not to just settle for whomever and then end up in a bad relationship that takes years to heal from once you’ve parted ways with the person. 💔💔💔

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Ultimate goal is a bit much to say. It's not what I feel is my purpose in life.

Although when I was a teenager I was so much in love with the idea of love. I craved it.

Now I would rather be alone than to be with the wrong person.

But if I were to date someone it's because I would want something exclusive and hopefully long-term. Not necessarily marriage.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Well yeah my only goal in dating is to find a suitable woman to be my wife and the mother of my children and love obviously.

I see zero reason to date for any reason outside for those reasons I listed. To date just to date or to “have fun” to me are pointless wastes of time.

JC_jester · Answer

I have found a woman I could and would like to spend my life with, but someone has hurt her deeply. She is now very susceptible to various influences. I will wait for her until she understands that well-chosen words alone won't give her anything. For me, she is the only one.

Sjoerd85 · Answer

From when I was 18, I was looking for a woman to become my future wife. I had a few relationships, but they didn't last. When I was 34, I finally found her. I'm currently 38, and happily married for almost two years now.

Roxy0050 · Answer

I still feel that those few truly successful long-term committed relationships, for example Rich Roll and his wife, are really so incredibly supportive and make for enhanced outcomes and quality of life for both partners. I am glad we don't live in a world where marriage is more-or-less compulsory anymore. If someone does commit after due and wise consideration and mature self knowledge it can be something really special - I hope!

Vesuvius87 · Answer

I'm 37 and I want to marry my fiance. To those that had a bad experience, I'm sorry to hear that but I can't do anything. I'm still proceeding with my goal regardless of these recent gender wars.

MrDaveAPSI · Answer

a girlfriend, but not marriage or kids the state shouldn't tell you "you're in love" and kids are pathetic little brats

Nikki1989 · Answer

Our 10th anniversary is coming up in August and couldn't be happier. It is what I always wanted.

strateguy632 · Answer

sort of, i demand exclusive from the start.

paledreams · Answer

Yes and with breasts those big - just paler skin 🤍 and with a more petite stature :) woman 20s ♀️ 💜🟣

msc545 · Answer

Along term relationship and marriage are not the same thing and should not have been lumped together in your poll. Marriage has severe legal implications for men such as potential loss of money, property, and children; for the most part this is not true for women although they are not totally devoid of some risk. Given this, the poll would have been more informative if you had also incorporated gender in some fashion.

LiamJHayden · Answer

My ultimate goal is the create enough passive income to pay all expenses and retire. Relationship wise, my ultimate goal is to find a lady who can tolerate me long term.

Anonymous · Answer

I was into open relationships. How I met my SO. Eventually the universe happened and we got greedy and didn't want to share anymore with anyone else. 7 years later and counting...

SotiCoto · Answer

40 and that ship sank a decade ago. I just want a clean, painless death.

Staximus · Answer

Whether it's short or long term, I only fool around with one woman at a time.

Anonymous · Answer

I reluctantly voted D because it has always been my goal to get married and have a family. However, in recent years I have seen so many instances where men in my family or circle of acquaintances have had their lives destroyed by their wives in divorce, I am second guessing my choice.

Fugitive_Predator · Answer

I’m 24 years old. I want marry with The girl who is my soulmate.

NathanDavis · Answer

this might be my next aim, next step... yes

HawkPerception · Answer

It's always been the main goal.

worldscolide · Answer

When I was dating my intent was to date to marry.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope

Jennz6 · Answer

Maybe someday

grega239 · Answer

Years ago yes.  Not anymore

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Yes definitely. I’m 22 as well

LaurenM1997 · Answer

The 4th thing on the poll is my answer! ☺️

waterliliestxt · Answer

Yes,

Is your ultimate goal to find a partner for an exclusive relationship?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

AI Opinion

What Girls & Guys Said

Is your ultimate goal to find a partner for an exclusive relationship?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

AI Opinion

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.