What does he mean by this?

[Anonymous]

he texted me and told me that he’s not leaving his wife. he said “so the last shall be first”.”you and the other girl kept trying to make me block one another, but it was neither of y'all that I’m in love with. My wife wasn’t a secret. You passed around lies about me saying I was in love with you both. In reality I loved my wife through all of you because I knew neither one of you could amount to her. I want to give my wife her first child, our first child. I wasn’t in love with you and I continuously told you this. You and another woman kept fighting over me but in reality I was just waiting on my wife to get back home. She wasn’t a secret and I wasn’t staying with nobody. I wasn’t staying with you or the women that wanted to take me from my wife”. “Again, the last shall be first and the first last”

he told me not to contact him again

[Anonymous]

The man's text message conveys several key points:

He reaffirms his commitment to his wife and clarifies that he wasn't romantically involved with you or the other woman.

He claims you both spread rumors about him being in love with you while his wife was always his priority.

The quote "the last shall be first" emphasizes that his wife remained his true love throughout, despite any external pressures.

It's important to recognize that his perspective might be biased. The situation is complex and it's best to avoid getting entangled in their marital issues. Move forward by focusing on your own well-being and emotional healing.

[Fireguy17]

Pretty much thank you for letting me doink you, but I will no longer be needing your services any longer.
I'm sorry that happened to you.
I think part of it was to justify what he did in his mind was ok.

[privateperson]

It means not to contact him again and to stop "competing" for a married man that clearly used you for an ego boost and does not care about you. Go find someone that does care about you. He is out there.

[Fatoumamoud]

He meant what he meant. Stay away from him and his marriage. Have some respect for yourself too. Good luck!

[Asker]

I found out about her though after he left for deployment but I knew there was something more to the story. He was bouncing back and forth between us but didn’t stay long anywhere

[Fatoumamoud]

You should followed your feelings. If you something feels off for you then investigate the situation or leave it completely. I feel bad for you still. Hopefully you get over this shit.

[Billlewis]

It sounds like a Dest John letter, meaning he's through.

[Asker]

I still don’t understand why the wife was a secret though.. then that’s when he told me “the last should be first and first shall be last”

[Billlewis]

When married guys sneak around, the wife is almost always kept hidden until he decides that getting the other woman into bed is going to be too difficult or expensive, and when he makes that decision, he pulls out the wife and says, 'I can't do it anymore -- see? I'm married '

[Asker]

Oooh that make sense! He always asked for money and etc. he always made people think he loved me dearly but I see now that was a lie

[Billlewis]

Yeah, we're a bunch of low down, disgusting pigs -- that's one reason why I've never gotten married.

[ProbablyClueless]

Seems pretty cut and dry. He's telling you that he thinks you and this other woman were playing games and causing chaos. He has decided to end things with both of you and focus on rebuilding his marriage with his wife.