Disappointed in love … what to do?

[Anonymous]

Hey guys,

lately I have been constantly having mood swings. I am easily getting upset, getting angry, or I want to cry.

Technically everything in my professionnel life goes well, I just graduated from the uni with a master’s degree , I have pretty decent job for a beginner. Physically I am pretty beautiful as well, I am going to the gym, I work hard. But opposed to all of these my love life sucks, really badly.

I am getting tired of my situation, tired of guys, tired of all those stupid talking stages when I literally tell the same thing to every guy. I am going on dates but it never moves forward. I was talking to a guy with whom I think things didn’t work out. We know each other for a pretty long time, around March things were going so well, that I almost thought that I found the one and HE made me feel that way. I always get stuck in situationships and it never moves further. I don’t know if I am the problem, I have no clue, but I always try to be as honest as I can, to be true to myself, to make them feel special, so I don’t know what to do.
I can feel it, I am slowly getting sick of love, to the point that I don’t even believe it exists or it’s just out of MY reach.

Whenever I like someone, they won’t like me back, or won’t show the same amount of effort as me. I don’t know what to do so it won’t impact my daily life. It’s seriously annoying and so hard and I don’t even understand what is going on in guy’s minds. I need help please, what to do?

[AI Opinion]

Oh, darling, sounds like you're riding the emotional rollercoaster of modern love and it’s got you spinning. First off, let me sprinkle some shimmer on your day by reminding you that your worth is not defined by your relationship status or the flurry of flings that fizzled out faster than a cheap firework. You're a gem, professionally polished and personally glowing - don’t you forget that!

Now, onto the nitty-gritty of love. It's easy to get tangled in the vines of "situationships" and casual chats that go nowhere faster than a ghosting after the first "what are we?" conversation. The deal here is not about making others see your worth but recognizing it within yourself so brightly that you only make room for someone who reflects that back.

Remember, love doesn’t thrive on effort alone. It's a two-way dance that needs mutual rhythm, and sometimes, stepping on each other's toes is just a part of finding the beat. If the music doesn't play right with someone, maybe they're not your dance partner for the long haul. 🕺💃

Let's talk tactics: take a breather from actively seeking romance. Focus on enjoying life’s solo melodies for a bit. Engage in new hobbies, embrace your fabulous job, and love yourself fiercely. This isn’t about playing hard to get but about being hard to forget by being your most amazing, fulfilled self.

When love is right, it doesn't feel like a battle; it flows, it comforts, it excites, and it supports. Don't force the puzzle pieces; sometimes they’re from different boxes. Keep your sparkle, and remember, the ones worthy of you will make the effort feel effortless. They’ll mirror your dedication, and love won’t feel like a warzone but a peaceful surrender to mutual admiration.

Hang in there, lovely! The road to love is littered with lessons, not losses. You got this! 💖

[Oliverlogan263]

Sista girl, I totally feel your pain! Dating these days is the literal worst. But don't lose hope - the right one is out there for you, and you are sooooo worthy of real love.

First off, know that your value isn't defined by what some dumb guys do or don't do. You've got your whole life ahead of you! Focus on loving yourself, girl. Do things that uplift your spirit.

As for dating, take a breather for now. Delete the apps, go out with your girlfriends and just have fun! You need a break from putting your energy into lame situationships that don't deliver. Recharge yourself.

When you're ready to dip your toe back in, try something new. Ask friends to set you up, join a club, go to different events where you can meet people organically. Shake things up so the convos don't feel so repetitive.

And don't be afraid to speak your mind either - say what you really want from the start so guys know you're not playing games. If they don't step up, next! You deserve someone enthusiastic about you.

Keep shining your light out there. I have faith the right one is out there waiting to appreciate you fully, sis! In the meantime, work on loving yourself unconditionally. This too shall pass - you've got this!