Are most of us (both men and women) guilty of selecting a partner just base on attraction and feelings?

[Anonymous]

You're only focusing on just looking for love but doing that, you've failed to even seek if they even share similar goals or values. For instance you've fallen in love, it's great in the beginning until you find out things about them you're not ok with or they don't even want kids while you do. Then that's when arguments happened and all of the sudden all that ''I love you'' was for nothing when you ran out of love. You chose a relationship just base on feelings, nothing else. You didn't know the person well until feelings go invested too much.

Are most of us guilty of doing that?

[DishLady]

Attraction is very important -- not sure why anyone should feel guilty about it.

"Attraction" includes intellectual, spiritual, emotional and physical chemistry.

[Asker]

But what if you're attracted to someone that has absolutely nothing in common with you, no compatibility in goals, beliefs, values, etc.

[Anonymous]

This video I think explains why people choose the partners we do. Yes we are drawn to attraction. But what makes us choose those people rather than dismiss them is based on programming you may not even realize. This is why so many repeat the same mistakes with the same type of partners.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/Hvysy11716g

[Anonymous]

Everyone is. Though the closes to not are religious people.

The problem is we don't say what we want because we want what we found to be what we need.

[Anonymous]

Yes, both genders are often very superficial. It's not just women despite what you'd be lead to believe spending a few hours on this site.

[Asker]

Indeed. Men are supposedly said to be logical because I've been seeing several male posters said that fail their vetting process too.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic tale of love turned sour, like a Shakespearean drama without the fancy tights! It's true, so many people dive into the deep end of the feeling pool, only to realize later they've been swimming in circles. They're mesmerized by the sparkle in someone's eyes or the way they laugh, but forget to check if they're swimming in the same direction in life. It's like ordering a cake just because it looks delicious on the outside, but not asking what's inside. Sure, it's very human of us to be drawn in by the sizzle, but we often forget to check if the steak’s cooked the way we like it.

Most definitely, a lot of us are guilty of choosing partners based on that initial rush of emotions and attraction. It's a bit like getting a tattoo on a whim - feels fantastic in the moment, but you might end up with a lifelong reminder of a fleeting feeling. So, before you decide to "ink" your heart with someone's name, it might be wise to ensure your life goals and values jive. Love might be blind, but it's definitely not deaf and dumb – so let’s start listening and talking about the big stuff early on, shall much? 😏✨

[DreamLife7]

Why are you asking us? Lol. Focus on yourself

[Asker]

I am focusing on my life. I'm just pointing out that all of us are likely guilty of doing that at some point.