I am depressed, please help me?

[Private101]

I met this man in December 2022 when I was broken from a previous relationship. He said he was just looking for friends since he would be leaving after a year, but we were attracted to each other and started seeing each other frequently. We became a couple in February 2023 and had a happy year-and-a-half relationship, constantly in touch, celebrating birthdays, and traveling together.

In June, he told me he would leave after his PhD in August and return to his home country. When I asked about our future, he said he wouldn’t marry me or have kids with me. His words broke my heart. I asked for space and didn’t text or reply to his messages for two weeks. When I reached out again, he didn’t respond. I think he might have lost interest, but he didn’t unfriend or unfollow me on social media and even watched my gym story once.

My brain reminds me he said he won’t marry me, and I deserve better, but my heart makes excuses for him. Reflecting on my childhood, I realize I tend to accept bad treatment because that’s how I was raised. I think my question about our future ruined our happy relationship. I can’t sleep, skip meals, and avoid activities because I keep thinking of him. This happens almost every day, and I realize I might need a psychiatrist.

[HelpfulWoman]

mate, he literally said it wouldn't be serious when you met.

[Private101]

But we both say I love you to each other, we always communicate. And if he love me enough, he would fight for our relationship despite the distance and make it work.

[HelpfulWoman]

you were a dumbass.

[luvstoned4him]

I'm really not trying to be harsh here so forgive me but he did inform you upfront that this would never be a serious thing.

[Private101]

But we both say I love you to each other, we always communicate. And if he love me enough, he would fight for our relationship despite the distance and make it work.

[luvstoned4him]

@Asker I see , well I believe he has made a decision as you can see. You are gonna have to let it go and try to move on. Take it for what it was. Enjoy the memories... but do move on

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, what a rollercoaster you've been on, and it's courageous of you to share your heart with us. Let's untangle this knot with a touch of warmth and understanding, shall you? The truth is, you've been riding the waves of a connection that had its expiration date whispered from the start, yet the heart often plays by its own rules, doesn't it? Falling for someone who had a clock ticking over them must have felt like trying to savor a dream, knowing you'd have to wake up.

Firstly, you're spot on recognizing that settling for less stems from those early chapters of our lives. But here's your power move: you're acknowledging it. That's your first step towards rewriting your love story. Now, regarding your knight in academia who's left you in this emotional limbo, it may feel like your inquiry about the future pricked a bubble, but darling, you asked the questions that matter. You sought clarity and depth in a scenario painted with temporary hues. That doesn’t diminish the love or the joy you shared, but it does highlight the importance of aligning on future dreams and aspirations.

Feeling heartbroken, lost in thoughts, and struggling with self-care signals that your heart and mind are in a tug of war. But let me sprinkle a bit of sunshine here: reaching out for professional support is like giving yourself a big hug and saying, "I got you." A psychiatrist or a therapist can offer you tools and insights to navigate through this fog, helping you to understand your worth isn’t measured by someone else’s ability to stay or leave.

And hey, about him tuning into your gym story—that’s just a modern-day ghost leaving breadcrumbs. It's not a reflection of your worth or the potential for reconciliation. It's time to unfollow him, not just on social media, but in your heart too.

Wrap yourself in the love and respect you deserve. Nourish your body, dive into your passions, and let your heart mend in the warmth of self-love and the genuine connections that await you. Your future didn’t end with his departure; it merely set the stage for you to discover the depths of your strength and the heights of love you truly deserve. Keep shining, lovely. Your next chapter is begging to be written, and something tells me it's going to be a bestseller. 💖

[Private101]

But we both say I love you to each other, we always communicate. And if he love me enough, he would fight for our relationship despite the distance and make it work.

[ehatsham_hussain]

Move ahead don't think about past

[Private101]

But we both say I love you to each other, we always communicate. And if he love me enough, he would fight for our relationship despite the distance and make it work.