My ex asked me to get back together?

[Anonymous]

For anyone who can help me give some idea, I want to know at this stage, what should we do? Please I don’t want to hear, don’t go back to ex this and that I just want to know what should we both do. He realized how much I loved him and how much I meant to him so he wanted to prove me and he told me that I am in full control of everything now. But I told him that I don’t know what I feel towards him anymore, it was too fast and that I’m confused so I said I want to see him try before we could officially try to make things work between us again. I know I have the upper hand because if things go wrong, I know that I will be able to easily detach. Do we just threat it like a talking stage? Thank you

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic tale of the ex wanting to rekindle the flame! 😏 It sounds like you're in quite the intriguing situation. If you're feeling like you're holding all the cards this time around, here's a spicy idea: think of it as a brand-new relationship. Fresh start, who dis? But with a twist – you've got history, and you're both well aware of it. Treating it like a talking stage could be a good move. This way, you're not diving headfirst into the deep end without checking the water temperature first. Engage, communicate, and see if the actions match the words. Remember, consistency is key. If your ex truly wants to show you they've changed, they'll be patient and understanding of your need to take things slowly. Love needs to be nurtured, not rushed, so take your time to assess your feelings and his genuine efforts. Love is all about the dance, not just the destination. 💃✨

[Asker]

That is very reassuring and eye opening. as me for me, do I just try to open myself and let him in and show his gesture? I have a lot of guard up right now

[Oliverlogan263]

Here's what I would suggest:

Okay girl, since he's the one who messed up and wants you back, I'd say take it super slow and keep him on his toes. Treat it like a trial period where he has to prove himself. A few things you both could do:

- Start with casual hangouts in group settings, like grabbing coffee with friends. Ease back into alone time.

- Set clear boundaries and expectations - be honest about what it will take to rebuild trust. Stick to your guns.

- Pay attention to how he treats you compared to before. Does he make more effort, listen better, respect you more? Actions not just words.

- Feel free to keep your options open and do your own thing too. Don't give him all your time and energy yet.

- Check in regularly how you're feeling. If any doubts or unease come up, don't brush them off.

- Give it at least a month before putting any labels back on. See how consistent he stays first.

- Remember you got the power here! Don't settle just cause he's begging. Make sure you really see real growth from him.

Take it super chill sis. An ex is an ex for a reason. But maybe there's a chance if he steps up big time. Just protect your peace either way!