Is it cheating if I go out on a date to the movies?

[Anonymous]

Even if nothing happens, is it cheating if you're going out on a date to the movies? There was nothing physical, no intimacy, no sex, nothing. Just a date to the movies.

Note: I'm actually checking out. Though I understood that cheating is actually when there is any type of physical contact.

[DannyUk2017]

Well put it this way... We are together... And i'm working in a office building... and i get invited by a female colleague to have a beer... Its nice and sunny, and we finished work..🤷‍♂️
Is it cheating? (I don't know, or i pretend to don't know)
Is just an innocent beer after work...
Could i have come home? Yes.
Could i have come home and Take You Out for a beer? Yes.
Could i have come home with a few beers and drink together? Yes...
Why i don't/didn't Do It? because my colleague she's a person that I don't know very well, she's new in my mind, makes me curious, she's entertaining, funny, so i pay her attention... Where are You all this Time? (In the back of my mind)... i can get home later..(even if you waited for me with a hot meal and maybe a beer), with my female colleague is more interesting...

So i let you DECIDE, if I "cheated or not", even though we didn't touch each other...

Some people don't understand that The Attention, The Thinking towards ANOTHER person can be Much more Hurtfull than the Physical Action Itself!, because that means there is no... Trust... Attention, Loyality, Interest in other person/partner At All...🤷‍♂️

[Finchie40]

It’s only cheating, if you are already in a relationship with someone else , and your partner doesn’t approve of it , or if you do it , without telling your partner about it, Always think how you would feel if your partner was doing things like that to you behind your back?

[HollyK21]

Definitely yes. Cheating does not always pertain to physical intimacy but emotional too. You’re building a connection with that person to even consider going on date, and that’s crossing so many inappropriate boundaries while in a relationship. If people want the freedoms that single people have, like going on dates, then rejoin their ranks. Let your partner go find someone who is fully committed, and you’ll also be free to pursue your curiosities.

[Asker]

yeah I've been thinking of checking out for several months because there are several times I'm realizing we're not even compatible with and the spark isn't there anymore. I'm just trying to find the right timing to end it.

[HollyK21]

Honestly, there’s never going to be a right time, like it’s not gonna suck any less because you chose the perfect day, place or moment. Telling yourself otherwise, that there will be a right moment, is just an excuse to prolong this because you have doubts and fears.

I think the biggest fear will always be the unknown, the what-ifs, etc., but the truth of it all is that unless we have crystal balls to foresee the future, then there’s no way to know if this is ultimately the right choice. That’s why we have to base our decisions on what we DO have: the here and now. In present time you know you’re unhappy, and you know that you’d like to explore your options again due to incompatibility and that’s completely fine. However, he should be free to explore his options as well.

It isn’t fair for you to test the waters with someone else (aka a date) before pulling out of a relationship, and you wouldn’t appreciate your partner doing that to you as well.

[avery58]

If you have a crush on the person you're going with then it counts as emotionally cheating to some degree. If you don't like him at all but went one on one without telling your boyfriend, it's not cheating, but it's sketchy for you to do things behind his back.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the dazzling and sometimes murky waters of relationships, the term "cheating" can be quite the slippery fish. The main course isn't always physical intimacy; sometimes, the appetizer of emotional connection or the mere act of seeking romantic company outside your committed relationship can spice things up in the not-so-right way. If your heart is fluttering for someone else on a moonlit movie outing, you might want to ask yourself, "Is this something I'd want my partner doing with someone else?" It’s all about the vibes you're sharing. Are you sneaking popcorn together in the dark while your significant other thinks you're out with pals? If yes, that might be a recipe for a sour love soup. Remember, trust and transparency are the secret ingredients for a lasting relationship. Keep it spicy, but keep it honest!

[Miristheiss]

Huh?

I take it you mean you are committed to one man. You have a boyfriend or fiance, and then you turn around and go out with some other man to the movies?

Of course it is cheating. Such a woman is no good and the guy should immediately dump her.

[Asker]

The thing is I've been thinking of leaving the relationship lately, even before going out on that date.

[Miristheiss]

So.
Break up then.
Then you are free to go out with any man.
If you sneak behind their back while pretending to be loyal then you are dishonorable.

[TommyMountainFigure]

My wife took one of her colleagues to a pantomime as he had never been to one, at Christmas one year. I never saw that as cheating. I did know in advance though.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It all depends on what your partner views as cheating.

[boggboss]

Cheating is any action u need to hide from your partner this is definitely classed as cheating if u are already checked out just end the relationship

[OtterMan68]

If you can't or don't tell your boyfriend, it's cheating. May only be emotionally, but why hide it?

If it's a friend, and your boyfriend knows of it and has no problem with it, it's not cheating

[HawkPerception]

You called it a date. Enough said... It definitely is cheating

[HawkPerception]

Do you think that being in a relationship means you're free to date as you wish? You can't be that dense...

[avery58]

Damn how did I miss that lol

[HawkPerception]

@avery58 We tend to skim when we see all of these nonsense questions on this site 😂

[Kaneki05]

Easy way to know. Can you tell your partner?

[OhLongJohnsoning]

Only if you've discussed being exclusive with your man

[Serkee]

Exclusivity is implied, that's the default. Not having discussed it beforehand is no excuse to date someone else. That's cheating.

[OhLongJohnsoning]

@Serkee Nope. You can't assume anything. That makes an ass out of you and me

If you have talked about exclusivity, then it's cheating

[Serkee]

If you can't assume anything, you can't assume that your partner is okay with it. If you don't discuss it with them beforehand, it's cheating. Don't try to look for loopholes to justify cheating on a technicality.

[DrPepper12]

If you did it furtively or with expectations then yes.

Technically you're right but wouldn't you be betrayed and angry if it was reversed?

[Twalli]

If it's a date it's cheating. Going to a movie with a friend is not cheating.

[RavVid]

I would dump you for just questioning this.

[Abbycado]

Never heard of emotional cheating, eh?

[Asker]

True I've heard of it. I also heard that men are generally less affected by emotional cheating. The thing is I'm actually thinking of checking out and trying to leave on the right timing.

[Abbycado]

I wouldn't do this if it were me. I consider this cheating, personally. Does your boyfriend or husband know about it? If the answer to that is "no", then it is definitely cheating.

[Asker]

No but honestly, I've lost my motivation to invest more into the relationship. My boyfriend and I have grown apart and we're not compatible on several things.

[Abbycado]

That is sad to hear. Sorry it isn't going well. Honestly, you should end it first and then date. No worries or guilt that way.

[HighValue]

Yes, that is cheating.

[jahaims]

Obviously that's cheating. What a moron

[Asker]

Though I'm planning to break-up. I just want a good timing to do it.

[Yannae]

Yeah, it's a date.

[noohair]

Are you married?

[Asker]

Nope

[noohair]

Then how is it cheating?