Is it cheating if you go to the movies with another guy?

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is it cheating if you go on a date with someone if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend because my friend wants to hook me up with her friend because apparently he likes me after just having one conversation with him and my friend wants me to go to the movies with him would that be considered a date and if so do you think I should or shouldn't he is a really sweet and nice guy but I have a boyfriend I told him I do but he still wants to go to the movies with me should I or not?

GoodManDave · Accepted Answer

Does the person who might have a crush on you know you've got a boyfriend?

In general, I would say that if you're absolutely clear about your intentions, and if you let your boyfriend know, and there's no kissing, etc, then it's not really a date, though the word "date" sometimes has different meanings.

Assuming I had a girlfriend, and a new female friend and I wanted to go to a movie, I would try to get a few other people to go (how about the mutual friend who is "setting you up?"); I'd also say that I was seeing someone, we could hang out as friends. I'd also let my girlfriend know, or I might even invite her, depending on how jealous a person I felt she was and if she didn't act on the jealousy. She would know about it either way, though.

If you DO have to go it alone, make sure the intentions are clear, make sure you're not too close to the guy, and if you let him walk you to your car, then make sure it's quick. If you can, go during the day, and make sure you're not going to be "alone" with him for very long.

Good luck.

geronimojoesaephus · Accepted Answer

It's technically not cheating if you don't kiss or anything. But if it would go nowhere with the guy, you'd be wasting more time that you could spend with your boyfriend.

Furthermore, this guy will get the impression that you're saying "we should just be friends" because you're playing hard to get or that you really do like him but don't want to hurt your boyfriend. This is dangerous for you because he'll feel that you're interested in him and may try to force himself upon you. You'd be leading him on if you went to the movies alone with him. This is the kinda of thing that leads to confusion on both ends and possible date rape because the girl doesn't have the courage to firmly say NO. So, the guy thinks that she really wants him.

Nannao · Accepted Answer

considering the updates you've posted you have clearly come to the same conclusion the rest of us have that yes it IS cheating lol but I would suggest you take a couple things into consideration the next time a situation like this comes up. 1) how would you feel if your boyfriend told you "so there's this chick that likes me and wants to go out to the movies would you like to go with us?" and 2) if you are in a situation where you don't know which one of two people that you want to date ALWAYS pick the second person because the fact that you have to think about it means you don't love or care enough about the first person otherwise the second person would never be a consideration.

Braelyn · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't. That is opening a door to endless problems and arguments that could be provoked between you and your boyfriend, your boyfriend and your "date", and your "date" and yourself.

Would you want your boyfriend going on a date with some other girl? I sure wouldn't, and I'm sure he wouldn't want you to either.

ChickenBear · Accepted Answer

I don't quite understand why anyone would want to go out with a guy when she knows he's interested in her and she's happy with her boyfriend. If you're doing this behind your boyfriend's back you're abusing his trust, hence it can be classified as cheating. How would you feel if he went out with a girl who's into him?

Quadrophonic84 · Answer

Anything that you would not do in front of your significant other with the person in question is cheating. You say it's not a date because that's not your intention. However, your friend told you this guy DOES consider a date since he likes you. By meeting up with him now you're implicitly approving his understanding of the arrangement. You're basically going on a date with a guy and making it all his responsibility.

Anyway, it's much simpler than this. How would you feel if your boyfriend went out with a girl that one of his friends set him up with whom he doesn't already know who made it clear she likes him? Just the two of them? Yeah.

ryanrhino · Answer

If you are going out with someone who wants to be romantically involved with you, while you are already romantically involved with someone else, and that person is upfront about it and you are tempted to feel romantically about the this person who is encroaching...yes, it's cheating...

JustChris · Answer

It would be considered a date because the other guy really likes you. If you were just friends (both of you know that you are only just friends) then hey, by all means go for it. It won't bite to hangout plus everyone needs some friend love once in awhile.

htowngeorge · Answer

That all depends. Does your boyfriend know about it? And are there any serious feelings between each other? If no and yes then yes it's cheating. If yes and no then it's not. But never the less bottom line your boyfriend should know about it at a minimum.

iwish46 · Answer

I like that you are going to tell your boyfriend, but why not take it one step further and see if your boyfriend would like to come with you and this other guy and your friend?  (just a thought) I actually went through a similar situation where I went to the movies with a girl who had a boyfriend. I'm not proud of it, but I really liked her and I knew her relationship with her boyfriend was just a temporary thing.

arashmenalagha · Answer

a lot of guys would be jumpy and over protective if, word on the street is "that you're going out with another guy to the movies."

but those guys are always worried, about SOMETHING.

no it's not cheating unless you go to the back of the row and start riding him naked.

Brando · Answer

Are you going BECAUSE he likes you? Or are you going simply for the movie? I think this situation has the potential to cause you some drama, so I'd either sit it out or take friends with you. If it's not a date, then he won't mind you bringing friends. But if he's trying to get you on a date, and your friend is talking about hooking you two up when she should know that you're already taken then I think it might be a little bit inappropriate and inconsiderate of your boyfriend.

Impex · Answer

Why are you not considering spending this free time you have with your boyfriend? And hey if he is busy I understand, I wouldn't care if my girl went to the movies with friends but if I found out that she went with a guy that she knew liked her than I would be a little irritated with the carelssness..Not saying you would do anything but that he might.

SixStringSeal · Answer

Would you mind if your boyfriend went out to a movie with a girl that was really into him one on one?

And it doesn't matter how you see him. To guys, what matters is how others look at their girlfriend.

MyNameIsJonas · Answer

It sounds inappropriate for you to be going out somewhere alone with another guy that is interested in you. Imagine if your boyfriend was doing the same thing. Would you be OK It?

I don't know if you two have a open relationship. I think it demeans what a monogamous relationship stands for.

imjustadude · Answer

you aren't married yet... go for it.  just realize that cheating is  all about hurting the one you love's feelings.  it all depends on how much you think that will happen.  I wouldn't lead this other guy on either.  he sounds like he wants to be more than just a friend with you.  if your boyfriend is a scum bag then maybe that's a good thing.

Anonymous · Answer

Your friend wants to hook you up with a guy even though you have a boyfriend? I guess it is safe to say that she doesn't like him. I wouldn't do it. If it was a male friend of yours, I think it would be okay. This guy, however, is a guy that is interested in you and you apparently don't know very well.

Prof_Don · Answer

You already knows this guy's intentions are beyond platonic friendship...and you STILL want to go out with him one-on-one? I can't see ANYTHING good coming out of this situation.

Most guys won't want others guys to go out with their gf.

Usemyname · Answer

You're right to make it a group hangout kind of thing. If it was just you and him, and you knew he liked you and your boyfriend didn't know this is just sketchy. Not cool. Even if he did know and it was just you two.

Anonymous · Answer

Idk if it is technically cheating if you don't do anything, but if I were your boyfriend, I would personally be mad, especially if you didn't tell me. So, you should tell your boyfriend, or not go on the date, to avoid a fight.

cavmanier · Answer

You would probably like the guy if the boyfriend is gone I bet. Your probably just gonna try and be his friend cause you love attention or so you can keep him "on deck" so when you break up you have an F buddy. Guys don't normally go after friendships with girls unless they have romantic intentions, don't fool yourself.

AllDay · Answer

I think it depends on your intentions of the hang out like if you want it to turn our more than a friend type thing then it would be cheating but if. Your intentions are to just hang out with him then it's a different story

pezzonovante88 · Answer

It's not 'cheating' if you don't do anything like kissing etc.  But, if you go out of your way to avoid telling your boyfriend that you're going to the movies with this guy, then you may want to reconsider your relationship with him.

Yeahhbro · Answer

I have a question for you:  Is it OK for your boyfriend to go to the movies with another girl, in the same conditions?

htowngeorge · Answer

Sounds like you worked it out. It's all is on the up and up :)

Anonymous · Answer

So she's wanting to hook you up with someone else..even though you're IN a relationship already ..? Don't do it..you could really hurt your boyfriend, and I'm sure you don't wanna do that...right?

Anonymous · Answer

If you were going as friends there would be no problem. The fact that you are meeting new guys and dating them, when you are already in a relationship makes it cheating. Why would you think otherwise?

TouchTheSky · Answer

Love is not love anymore who care? No one know how to love no one know what  is right and what is not. Do what ever your heart wants.

Anonymous · Answer

yes. I wouldn't want my boyfriend to go to the movies with another girl.

Rashad · Answer

If its like a date then yeah. You're giving another guy a chance

Anonymous · Answer

"Is it cheating if you go on a date with someone if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?" I think you just answered your own question.

Anonymous · Answer

If you tell your boyfriend about it and he's not pissed off, then I don't see the problem.  If you DON'T tell him about it because you think he WOULD be pissed off, then yes--it's cheating.

Dom163 · Answer

Think of it this way would you have a problem with your Boyfriend Going to the movies wIth another girl?

Anonymous · Answer

wow what a hottie you are! id totally GONAN to the movies with you. then I'd bring you home (to my house)...

Anonymous · Answer

no you should give him a blow job and then tongue your boyfriend afterward when you get home

Iamnobody · Answer

would you like your boyfriend to go out with another girl who's crazy for his d*ck?

markallen · Answer

...Yea, that's cheating. Sorry, but are you stupid? Take as long as you need to come up with an answer.

Anonymous · Answer

hell no, you have a boyfriend why would you go to the movies with him.

hippychick21 · Answer

if you have to ask, don't go

cyrus7 · Answer

I'm terrified of ending up with a girl like you

kaitlovesyou · Answer

no date no date yes

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