My best friends fiance said he needed space?

[Anonymous]

My best friends (30f) fiancee (37m), they have been together for 3 years. He told her he needed space. I don't know how to make her feel better she's freaking out! Men please help me gain some insight to what he might be thinking? They were great just last week and he was saying how he wanted her to tell her dad about the engagement. In our culture elders are sent to the women's house so that parents can approve. Everything is planned. Everything was great. They were planning a future. He bought the ring. Now he says he " needs space to think about their future together and will let her know". I know him he was excited. What could be going through his mind?

[DishLady]

It means... he needs space. Why is the space thing such a common question? SPACE is good. Guys take a while to process some stuff. Better to take space and process than to simply settle and stay with you for the wrong reasons, right? Right...

[worldscolide]

It depends on the kind of space he is asking for.

See my example in my own comment for what I mean by it.

But if he wants space, as in to take a break from the relationship, it means he may be trying to determine if he wants to break up. Or he could be after wanting to sleep with someone else.

[DishLady]

@worldscolide True, but that's basically just keeping the girl on the hook till he figures out if he can do better. It's hardly fair to her. Imagine --> "Hey honey, you're a great person and all that, but I need space (to go sleep around and then see if I'll still come back to you or go with someone else and leave you high and dry)." (?)

[worldscolide]

Preaching to the choir here

[DishLady]

@worldscolide Lol. I know. :)

[worldscolide]

What did he mean by saying he wanted space.. Does he mean that he wants to not see you for a while? Or is he saying he needs alone time in his home.

I've said this game thing to my wife, but it's code for "give me an hour so I can game and blow off steam"

If he wants a "break" that's different.

More context required

[Asker]

He said he needs a break to think about their future. After he bought the ring! He kind of snapped during a conversation over a phone call that wasn't even a big of a deal.

[DrPepper12]

Just be there. she's processing and needs a shoulder.

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the deep end of relationship quirks, let's swim through the murky waters of the "I need space" statement. 🏊‍♂️ It can be a real heart-racer, right? Imagine you're in his shoes: the commitment of engagement, the cultural pressures, and the big reveal to the families. Phew, that's enough to make anyone's head spin faster than a carnival ride. 🎡

Perhaps he's feeling the weight of what's ahead and just needs a moment to catch his breath. It's like when you're about to dive into a pool for the first time of the season; you know you love swimming, but that initial shock of cold water can make you hesitate. He's probably just dipping his toes, making sure the water's right.

For your friend, remind her it's okay to feel anxious, but encourage her to give him that space, making it clear she's there when he's ready to talk. The key here is communication; it's the bridge over troubled water. Tell her to keep it open, honest, and heartfelt. And who knows? Giving him that breathing room might just be the thing that makes him swim back stronger than ever! 🏊‍♂️❤️

[Asker]

Yes I encouraged her to give him space. I told her she will not get the reaction she wants from him. It will only Push him further away.

[worldscolide]

Asker the Ai bot won't respond. His response was auto generated.

[Fireguy17]

he met someone

[Asker]

Why do you say that?

[Fireguy17]

because that happened more than once to people.