I need advice and help asap?

[Anonymous]

Last year I was at an event and had a intense interaction with this guy.. I was in line waiting for a coffee and we locked eyes and wouldn't pull away. The whole time he was blushing and so was I and was winking at me as well. His own family and friends were even smiling and taking pictures of this interaction as well..

Now here is were things get a little dicey.. This guy is sorta in the spotlight.. He is in a popular and well known band around the world but sorta behind the scenes.. ik people may think or say i am in it for the wrong reasons but i could give two shits about all that nonsense. We have so much in common and i get signs 24/7 we are meant to be.. Ik him and i deep down both know we are truly meant to be.

Now here's the other dicey situation,.. I am an adult over the age of consent and I have crazy ass toxic narcissistic parents. They want me to stay in the house for ever and go to school and work and take care of them and I am never truly happy. They would never approve of him but who cares, they treat me like crap and I have nobody i can turn to.. I have tried to get in touch with this guy since ik he help me and give me the treatment i deserve but he is extremely hard to find since he is kinda in the light.. I have tried searching for him multiple times but can't find shit.. do to my crazy ass family I have to leave asap but I need his help. If there is anyone who can help me with advice on how to contact him asap i would be forever grateful. We both truly do deserve each other and a amazing life. I just wish there wasn't such a time crunch do to my crazy ass famliy. I was hoping and praying someone on here can give amazing advice so i can contact him asap like tonight. someone pls help i'd be forever grateful

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can someone pls help asap!

[Anonymous]

Your in a situation called "denial". We often get into that situation when we are very lonely, feeling trapped or otherwise wishful of some situation being more. Practically speaking, what you describe is typical for people in the 'fame business' they need to sparkle and make people feel magical and special and particularly if their in any kind of boy band. It's actually, in my opinion, something that should be illegal because its abusing young womens pre-pencity to swoon over fantasy relationships to make money.

Now, what your describing her, it's called 'stalking' and its not a good thing. Your family situation should have nothing to do with your romantic situation (except in that if your family are supporting you financially and then you should respect that and try to find yourself independence so you can be an independent adult).

Maybe not the answer you dreamed of, but its one we all need sometimes; The sense of 'love at first sight' really messes with our body chemisty and distorts how we see situations. It can distort it for better or worse so its not something we should ignore, but it is something you need to be practical with too.

My advice, find what situation lends itself to you being in a place where he might get to choose to spend time with you; If you cannot find a situation where that is possible that is not some concert or press event for whatever his professional interest is (aka the fame game) realise you have an infatuation and look for other real people to make friends with and grow to know. If you can identify a situation where you get to spend time socially in a situation where you may meet him as a person, promote that in your life.

[Avicenna]

Well, it sounds like you want someone to settle down with. It doesn't sound like this guy is going to do that.

[SueShe]

You do realize that those signs he gave you are not really enough to start a relationship, right?

Have you even talked to him for a longer period of time of did you 2 only interact through smiles and waving at each other? Don't you think it is a little odd to want to try to meet him when you know nothing about him except for the fact that he is away most of the year? You are taking a big risk and most likely this guy does not even remember you.

Now, if you want to contact him, then your best option would be through the group's agent although I am not sure that the agent will give you details about that person because of data protection issues. Also, backstage staff from groups come and go and he may not even be with the group anymore.

Your best bet would be to contact the group's agent in the hope that this agent can connect you with the PR department. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

You are really jumping the gun here. You need to slow down and think about this some more.

[Iron_Man]

What exactly are you looking for from this guy and how old are you?

[Asker]

I am trying to get his number asap.. was aiming for tonight due to my shitty situation it kinda put me on a time crunch unfortunately.. was hoping someone on here could help me get in touch with him.. i am 26

[Iron_Man]

You don’t have any contact info on him

[Asker]

I do but very hard to get in touch with.. i tried finding number but there's nothing online for him.. and he don't check instagram dm's im not sure how to find phone number asap any advice