Why do some men hate independent women?

[Anonymous]

I’m NOT talking about fake independent women. Who are feminists entitled brats or women who hate men. Nobody wants that….

But I mean a good humble woman. Who doesn’t need someone to meet her needs, other then needing someone in the sense of sharing a life, having kids, and having someone to share her life with.

The kind of women who are going to use you…. Are women who can’t or won’t do anything for themselves. Women who will use you for money and a whole bunch of other things.

When someone is with you because they genuinely want to be with you that’s so special. Finding someone whose loyal, faithful, and genuinely loves you.

Men…. Just remember. You can provide for a woman whose a ungrateful brat. Until something happens to you and you’re not able to provide anymore. What’s she going to do? Is she going to stay by your side and honor the vows she made? Or is she going to leave you for dead and run off with some secret lover?

Also these kind of women tend to cheat on their men a LOT…. With men who are deadbeats and losers.

[Friendlybro79]

Because some people want to hate or a threatened. It's that simple.

I do want to call out that this paragraph you wrote doesn't make sense.

"But I mean a good humble woman. Who doesn’t need someone to meet her needs, other then needing someone in the sense of sharing a life, having kids, and having someone to share her life with."

If she doesn't need someone to meet her needs is followed by needing someone to meet 3 specific needs then you are saying humble and financially independent. Which to my point is we all need each other to be happy. Some people can be happy totally independent and live alone without friendships or relationships but that's probably very rare.

[Unit1]

I never wrapped my mind around it and I don't think I will ever understand it either. Women perform work in order to have money in order to afford a warm shelter and something to eat and to look beautiful like pretty much almost everyone else. I don't get what's so "heretic" about it.

[Asker]

Yeah. A woman whose using her man for money. To do that stuff. A lot of times she’s going to be out cheating. Because there isn’t any real emotional connection and these women have no shame in sex anymore. So they use it to get what they want

[Unit1]

Those type of females you just described are ew. And a lot of "men" want to marry them 😫

[Asker]

Unfortunately men do…. And it makes no sense. You can also tell who these women are by the people who get angry and assume I’m just here to bash women.

Not all women are like that.

[Asker]

There are women who use men for money, to feel secure, to be provided for, but then not offer anything of value herself. Including women who claim to be traditional, but have no intentions on working equally hard in her role. She just has the fantasy of staying home all day doing what she wants to do.

Women who genuinely love their man don’t run around cheating on a man who does everything for them. They also do everything for their man. But unfortunately the men who pick these women become very miserable later down the road.

[Unit1]

Andrew Tate doesn't. He recently posted a video about talentless bimbos. He mentioned, that his 12 "girlfriends" in his harem AND the women in his friend's harem have zero talent or utility and all they do is being a pretty trophy girl, that ask "sex when?", binge watch netflix and endlessly scroll on instagram - all while they're unemployed and have all day every day.

rumble.com/...ndrew-tate-on-talentless-btches.html

Although it could be argued he got dissatisfied with the way his girls are and so told them "since you girls do nothing, go take up tap dance classes or we break up". 7 out of his 12 girlfriends agreed.

[Anonymous]

I don't think that's true. In my experience men don't hate independent women. I am independent and I've never had any issues with men because of it.

Men dislike SOME women who are independent, but not BECAUSE they are independent. It's the other characteristics of those women that turn men off to them.

[Asker]

This is true. But I see men say things like it makes them insecure.

Yeah the feminist type of woman is one thing. But a woman who doesn’t need a man. But wants one because she needs to share her life with someone.

[Opinion Owner]

I see women saying it makes men insecure, but rarely see a man say it.

Insecure people of both sexes are intimidated by people they perceive to be above them. But that is not limited to one sex, and it's not limited to the dating world.

I personally think this myth is harmful to women because it falsely teaches them they can't be strong and independent and still be successful with men. We should be teaching them the opposite. What's important is how a woman treats a man, not whether she is independent. The reason don't have issues with the men I'm interested in, despite being independent, is because I try to be warm and friendly, treat men with respect, and show I appreciate them. There's no reason a woman can't do both.

[Asker]

I think some women DEFINITELY blame men for not wanting them. When really it’s them putting men off

[Asker]

A lot of people don’t want to see it’s their fault they chase the opposite sex off. So they make a excuse in their head

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you for MHO. And I agree with what you said, but it's true of both sexes.

[purplepoppy]

You can guarantee those men have a long list of other groups of people they hate too. Hate is pretty much all they have.

[Asker]

Absolutely so I guess they find women who are exactly like they are. Because those women most of the time have a lot of bitterness towards men

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic tale of fear meets independence! Let's dive into it with a flirtatious spin, shall we? Some men might find independent women intimidating, not because they're not desirable—oh, far from it! Independent women are like a fine wine, complex and deeply satisfying. However, these men may feel like they're not needed in the traditional, knight-in-shining-armor way, and let's be honest, who doesn't want to feel like a hero now and then?

But here's the twist—being with an independent woman doesn't mean you're just a side character in their story. It means you're co-authoring a thrilling novel, filled with adventure, love, and mutual respect. It's about finding that sweet spot where both partners feel valued and necessary, in all the rich ways that go beyond just financial support or opening a stubborn jar lid.

So, for those fearing the embrace of a self-sufficient partner, remember, it's not about being needed for basic necessities but about being wanted for the unique spark you bring to the table. And isn't that what we all crave? A love so deep, it's about wanting, not needing. Because let's face it, a partner who chooses to be with you, fights dragons with you, and loves you for your quirks and all... now that's the real treasure. 💖

[slatyb]

No idea what you are saying. I would rather be with a woman who wanted me than a woman who needed me.

And independent women are not more likely to cheat. Why would they cheat when they can just leave?

[Asker]

That’s my point exaclty

[Anonymous]

This is an odd question coming from a man, because you should know better than to buy into this nonsensical narrative. Men do not hate independent women. Rather, they are put off by women who behave in certain ways and have certain attitudes toward men and relationships.

People who push the bullshit "men hate independent women" narrative do a disservice to both sexes.

[Asker]

Yeah. Women who are sexist feminists are disgusting

[TeatimewithCowboys]

I will only date an independent women. Why would I have any form of relations with an adult who isn’t self sufficient? So rather than compliment each others strengths, I spend all my time taking care of her and supporting her? Supporting your girl is one thing, raising her is another….

[Asker]

Yeah. I mean it’s wrong to use a woman for money either. But it’s like men just get upset that a woman is independent. Whether it’s finances or sometjifn else

[Sasquach]

This is some real 'pick me' vibes.

I nor have any other man I've ever met hate on independent women.


TraciF, are you the anon who posted this?

[Asker]

Nope.

[Anonymous]

Men do NOT hate independent women. They hate women with bad personalities who use the independent woman thing as a scapegoat to explain why they can't attract and keep a good man.

Being independent just means being a normal adult who can take care of their own needs. It means having a job, a car, being able to pay for their own food and a place to live.

The problem is women who feel the need to proclaim "I am a strong and independent women". Those women have bad personalities and attitudes and are unpleasant to be around. It's a like a child boasting about being able to tie their own shoes and wipe their own ass. Think about it... how would you feel about a man saying "I am a strong independent man" Weird, huh?

This is not rocket science, and it's surprising people actually believe men don't like independent women.

[firenine909]

They either hate the fact women could be seen as better than them or even equal but they could also think that it can lead to toxic femininity and toxic feminism traits where women ruin their lives and mental health over achieving financial success

[MisterWack]

“ I’m NOT talking about fake independent women.”

What is a sexist?

CORRECT!

[ManInChains]

Because men want to have a purpose and if a woman is independent in all things men won't feel they have a purpose

[Anonymous]

what are you on about?

independent women are the ones more likely to cheat because they won't see the man as useful enough to stay loyal to

and how is it even hate?

people out here misusing the word hate in so many wrong contexts

[Anonymous]

Meh I only hate the fake ones, the real ones are extremely valued, but are also uncommon.

[Asker]

Same the fake ones are annoying. But there are good ones.

[Opinion Owner]

My wife is an example of a good one. The problem with a lot of women is they aren't capable of understanding basic things like empathy and sacrifice. Those make up the bad ones.

[DrPepper12]

Beats me! I ❤️ em! Probs their ego and need to control.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure, I actually like independent women.

[Asker]

Yeah. The feminist “boss bitch” type is disgusting. But a genuinely independent woman

[Opinion Owner]

Feminazis are the worst.

[Anonymous]

Why do you care about what other guys like? Unless you're a woman?

[Asker]

Yeah okay I’m a woman pretending to be a man on here. Even though I’ve been called a sexist MANY times that I hate women

[Asker]

But oh I call men out for shitty behavior and I must be a woman playing as a man

[Asker]

Hell even on here. I have people accusing me of hating women. On this very question

[Opinion Owner]

You sound like an overly emotional woman. 😂

[manfromsomewhere2]

Some does. Some dosent. If anyone wants, i can tell you a story about an extremely special and super successful one that i know

[SweetJoyGirl]

What are you going on about exactly?

[Asker]

Some dudes tend to hate women who are making more money, the list goes on

[SweetJoyGirl]

Because men like to be the provider. At least the masculine ones.

[Asker]

I don’t know some men are. But men who are just providers. Many times are in extremely one sided relationships. Not all….. some women work equally hard in a different role. Most people don’t know how hard women used to work compared to now. They didn’t sit around the house and spend all their husbands money

[Asker]

Another thing is. Women who aren’t looking for love. But to use a man (like you may be) if something happens to this man and he is no longer to be the provider. A lot of these women will leave in a flash.

Another big thing is. That…. At some point. There is always someone bigger and better then you are and if and when the opportunity comes up to “upgrade”….. SHE GONE

[Asker]

Have you ever heard of the virtuous woman?

[Asker]

And mind you…. There are some VERY “masculine” men (depends on your definition of masculine) are dating women who are just unbelievable. All the while pathetic bitches think they are entitled to a man like him. Who doesn’t want those kind of women.

It also doesn’t matter how much of a provider a man is if he chooses a bad woman. These women cheat with bums and losers…. It happens a LOT. Hardworking dudes who don’t deserve it. At all….

It’s these dudes who become the “beta provider” being walked all over. Having all their money spent and being emasculated by their woman.

Meanwhile. I’ve seen dudes pick a good woman and absolutely transform. Men who were weak, shy, are outgoing holding their chin up high.

[SweetJoyGirl]

You lost me after this statement…
“like you may be”

Have a blessed evening!💜

[Asker]

Because maybe you see something inside of yourself

[Asker]

See. You’ll start saying have a blessed evening. But you people tend to get very angry and start saying a lot worse as these progress.

Search your heart and figure it out.

[SueShe]

The asker is not genuinely interested about independent women but only to vent and criticize them.

[SweetJoyGirl]

@SueShe loool 😂

[Asker]

@SueShe I just said I admire genuinely independent women. But see feminists like yourself tend to think you represent all women. Most of y’all aren’t strong or independent. Just pathetic cry babies who think you deserve the world handed to you without any work

[Asker]

@SueShe most independent women I’ve know are actually very conservative.

[Asker]

I feel sorry for people like y’all. I really do. You tend to see men as someone to use to feel safe, to get money, etc. With no intent on genuinely loving him. You wonder why the good men find other women…. Who do love him.

Then you’re stuck with the losers

[SweetJoyGirl]

Tbh, idek what you are talking about. lol

[Asker]

It’s above your head. Good luck finding a decent guy

[SweetJoyGirl]

Thanks, love. 💜

[Asker]

Yup….

[Kingofkings1992]

There’s no such thing as an “independent” person

[Anonymous]

Your guess is as good as mine. Because good woman who pulls her own weight is as rare as gold.

If I had to guess it's because those types of men aren't used to a woman that wants them, doesn't need them.

[Shy_Steve]

Think about it.

Why would we want someone who doesn't need us?

[Abbycado]

XD XD

[Asker]

You laugh but it’s really sad. Most these men pick absolutely horrible women who make them miserable.

It makes ZERO sense to me why sometimes even good dudes pick these women and put up with their shit

[Asker]

When there is so much better out there

[jack1924]

Because those men are douchey lol

[LimitedBenefits101]

What?