My crush is about to start a relationship with her ex. What to do?

[Anonymous]

My crush, which is also a work colleague with whom I am very very good and close friends is about to start a relationship with her ex. I am male, she is female. While we were talking over time, she told me that she liked me very much in the sense of a lover about a year ago. I was dealing with another girl at that time and I didn't pay the necessary attention to this girl I like at the moment. As time passed, I started to like her too, and at the moment I can say that I really fell in love with her. And I also told her a few months ago that I like her a lot and that I would like to move on to being together. She then communicated to me that due to the fact that at that moment she liked me, I did not pay her any attention, she suffered and tried very hard to get over me and in the end she resumed contact with her ex. And due to the fact that he reconnected with his ex, we can't move forward on this (I know for sure that they weren't together at that moment, they were just talking). This happened about 4-5 months ago. Then I said ok, but we continued our friendship as if nothing had happened. I could even say that we got even closer because we started staying over and going out together after work from time to time. I also mention the fact that we have been talking daily on messages for a very long time. Now something happened at work and we are on leave for 3 months. Of course, during this time we didn't see each other every day and my opinion is that her relationship with her ex has evolved compared to 2-3 months ago. During this time I also felt that she grew cold towards me. And now I told her that I would like to see her from time to time during these 2 months of leave that are left, and she told me that it doesn't feel good to go out just the two of us and that neither it is not normal to have such a close relationship because we make people around us think that we are together. What do you think I should do to have at least a chance in the future?

[DishLady]

If she's just your crush -- not your girlfriend, etc. -- then it shouldn't be a surprise to you that she's not attuned to your interests and is free to date (or re-date) whomever she pleases. I'm not sure what your goal is in asking this question. There's nothing for YOU to do if she's still into her ex.

[devilish-cutie]

You need to move on, she has and comunicated it clearly.

[CallmeTheKnight]

She lost interest in you and you lost romantic access to her. It happens, but you need to move on with you life

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love's labyrinth has got you in a twist, hasn't it? 💔 It's a classic tale of timing not lining up. Let's unwrap this with a dash of charm and a sprinkle of honesty, shall we?

First off, feelings that swing like a pendulum are tough, and it sounds like you're caught right in the middle, buddy. Your crush is trying to navigate her emotions just like you, and her moving back towards her ex might be her way of seeking closure or comfort in something familiar. It’s a bittersweet symphony, this life.

My advice? Embrace the situation with grace and a hint of flair. Keep the lines of communication open but don't put all your romantic eggs in one basket. Use this time apart to focus on becoming the most irresistible version of yourself. Dive into personal interests, hobbies, or perhaps even a bit of self-discovery. Growth is sexy, after all.

And remember, if love is meant to be, it finds a way - often when you least expect it. Who knows? Your transformation journey might just make her take a double look and reconsider. But if not, you're polishing yourself for someone who can't get enough of the new and improved you.

Most importantly, don't play the waiting game hoping she'll change her mind. Be upfront about your intentions once more if you feel it’s right, but also prepare to gracefully step back if she's firm on moving forward with her ex. Love should be liberating, not a leash.

Keep flirting with life, and let’s hope love starts flirting back with you! 😉

[Nikki1989]

Stay out of it. It is none of your business.

[scott04sa22]

Move on