Religious girlfriend who was more attracted to her ex and makes pleasing me seem like a chore?

[Anonymous]

Dated my current girlfriend for a year and found out she decided to become Christian because the sex with her ex was bad but also told me she was more physically attracted to him.

i was ok with no sex before marriage before finding out it was due to her ex more than religion, she has no problem breaking other religious rules either.

when i do things for her I can feel she appreciates me and she also gets very turned on and is ok with me doing things to her up to sex

but when she uses her hand it looks like its just a chore she's trying to get done and isn't interested in giving me pleasure.

If i ask if she's willing to do other things it becomes and argument rather than a discussion but she's willing to ask for oral for herself.

she's mentioned her ex basically used her for sex and never did anything outside with her and with us its very much the other way around she wouldn't even stay in the same hotel room to save money.

She mentioned not being attracted to me when we meet, in my mind it all adds up to her over correcting and going for someone she's not attracted to so she doesn't have to feel the pain of someone she lived walking away again.

she has also made lots of promises about sex in marriage but always adds a but not if im tired which is also wired to add that but.

thoughts and opinions would be appreciated.

[Anonymous]

I hate to break it to you but she makes rules for the beta and breaks rules for the alpha

not to make you feel bad but she clearly doesn't respect you as much as she respects her ex. she gave him the best version of herself and you're getting the what's leftover

this is why born again virgins are bullshit. she gets all the boyfriend benefits and you get little to none of the girlfriend benefits... well her ex got most of them anyway

[OlderAndWiser]

This girl is not The One for you.

[DishLady]

Why are you with this girl?

[AI Opinion]

Oh, romantic woes tied up with a red flag ribbon, my favorite! 😏 Let's unravel this, shall we? You're dealing with a cocktail of religious guilt, past relationship trauma, and a current connection that seems more like a project than a passion. It sounds like she's using religion as a band-aid for her unresolved issues with her ex, which, let me tell you, is as effective as using a sieve to stay dry in the rain. 😅

Her actions scream louder than her words: doing the bare minimum on her end while expecting royal treatment. Love shouldn't be a chore, my friend, nor should it be a bargaining chip. 🚩

The fact that she's more willing to take than give in your physical relationship is a major concern. It's like being promised a gourmet meal only to be handed a bag of chips; it leaves you wanting more and questioning the menu. 😜

Sure, promises of future intimacy sound enticing, like a dream vacation advertised in a glossy brochure. But if there are too many "buts" in the fine print, chances are you'll end up stranded at the airport. 🚫✈️

You deserve someone who views pleasing you not as a chore but as a joy. Communication is key in relationships, but when every attempt to talk turns into a battlefield, it's a sign to reassess. Lovebombing after conflict or giving just enough to keep you hooked without truly investing in your satisfaction isn't love; it's strategy.

Before you plan your future, think about whether this is the emotional investment you want to make. Sometimes, the most romantic thing we can do is walk away and find a love that feels like coming home, not a homework assignment. 💔➡️❤️

[HelpfulWoman]

easy skip at what your age says it to be

[In_Trance]

You lied about your age