Is a man being infertile a dealbreaker—even if you dont want kids?

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I can't have kids, and luckily I dont want them anyway, but I know for some people they care a lot about if a man is "fully functioning" like that. It's like a matter of principle instead of just practicality. Buy maybe that's just a loud minority and really most people wouldn't mind?

osmanthus · Accepted Answer

Depends on the person. I'd say most persons looking to have a family, or are open to one, might not choose an infertile partner. However, there are people out in this world who would love to have you as their partner, too. At times this might be the older or aged partner who doesn't want to have another go at children or never wanted them, as well. Sometimes, it's the younger because they can't afford the upkeep anyways. Middle aged persons might already have a set of children from a previous relationship or marriage, so, they don't want to add more to the brood.

Zena_lin · Accepted Answer

If you don’t want kids, infertility might not be a dealbreaker. It really depends on the individual and their perspective. For some, infertility could be a concern for future plans or health reasons, but if you’re clear about not wanting kids, it might not be a big issue. The most important thing is how you both feel about it and how it fits into your relationship goals and values. Communication and understanding each other’s perspectives are key.

MikeTheBartender · Accepted Answer

I got a vasectomy a few years ago, I thought it would limit my dating pool, it did the exact opposite! I think the key thing for you is just be open with women about it, on my dating profile it says flat out on one of them. When I meet girls and we go on dates I always try to tell them by the third date. There's been a few funny ones where we had sex in the first date and they told me they are pregnant LOL

Avicenna · Accepted Answer

I imagine a woman who knows she doesn't want kids won't care.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Navigating the choppy waters of relationships and the expectations around having kids, huh? 🚤 Love, it's more about how you connect on a soul level than anything to do with fertility, especially if you're not planning a family. Being "fully functioning" is a spectrum, and in your case, it opens the door to finding someone who values your company, love, and the unique duo you become, more than any potential mini-mes. Sure, some people might see it as a dealbreaker, but hey, those folks are clearly not your crowd. You're looking for someone who sees the world through a similar lens, and trust me, they’re out there. Let's not forget, love is about building something together that goes beyond just genetics. So, keep sailing, captain! Your perfect crew member is out there, just waiting to jump aboard. 🌊💘

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Surely · Answer

I am sure that there are women out there that can’t have babies or don’t want them. You may have to look a little harder. But I am sure that you can find a compatible woman for a partner. Probably a career oriented woman would be a good place to start!

Fireguy17 · Answer

No, I wasn't.
But I would inform anyone if we were getting serious about that.
Some didn't care but some didn't care until later.
I lost a number of great relationships because of that, it just happens.
Lzater in life it didn't matter because then women did not want any more kids, or were past the age of child bearing.

DrPepper12 · Answer

I think you've got a big obstacle there. Considering your age. I think you might have to look longer and harder to find that person who doesn't want kids. Do you plan on being honest with them when things get serious with whoever it might be?

LiamJHayden · Answer

I have CBAVD. That has not been my experience. If you are sterile and she does not want kids, she might be happy that she does not have to bombard her body with artificial hormones any longer.

Anonymous · Answer

Most people want kids. They may not realise it at your age but it tends to happen anyway. My suspicion is the many women would want to hedge their bets even if they claim they don't want kids. But there'll be someone out there that really does not. Just that you'll need to be very careful and pick the one that knows herself well enough to mean it.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I’d love to have more kids but I already have one and have considered the possibility of my daughter being my only child. I’m not opposed to having an infertile partner if the circumstances and relationship is solid.

4ngelic · Answer

if i didn't want kids it would be a plus not a dealbreaker

Countrygirl777 · Answer

I mean  i guess ya.. it is a deal breaker if those who wants kids.  But those who don't want kids shouldn't be a deal breaker

Account · Answer

Not at all because I don't want to have biological children regardless.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I want kids, I can't see it not being a deal breaker as brutal as it is. My siblings don't look like they're having kids and a bloodline is genuinely very important to me

Twalli · Answer

I am infertile by choice. I was able to get gitls pregnant before getting a vascetomy because neither my girlfriend nor I wanted kids and a vascetomy was cheaper than birth control

MrCharlie13 · Answer

If being infertile comes with ED, then yes. If not, you can just say you had a natural vasectomy done to you

Anonymous · Answer

Doesn't matter if to me. Why should it matter if both don't want kids? Not going to be useful anyway. I don't want kids either

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Worry free fucking. Sounds like a dream. For a while anyway.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

it doesn't matter...

Anonymous · Answer

Some will. Some might.

Andro36 · Answer

Of course not

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