I just broke up with my 6 year boyfriend he just stood there?

[Anonymous]

I was holding in some resentment over my boyfriend for 6 years.

Something happened this morning and I just lost it. So i broke up with him.

It's over things some can be resolved others can not. He had to go to work, his own business, and has a flight later to see his teenage kids the weekend.

So he just says let's talk on Monday and tries to calm me down. He has serious communication issues but it feels like since he didn't say no babe or hold me back it's almost as if he's completely fine with it.

He just tried to calm me down so I wouldn't drive like a crazy person and get hurt. I'm so pissed off right now is this common reaction from guys? What should I do?

[TommyMountainFigure]

He is prioritising things, Work, then go to see kids. That's actually sensible..

I mean it's clear you are in no fit state to talk about it. He wants you safe first and foremost.. Again, that's sensible.

Being angry with him he can handle, doing something that could end your life though? That's something he would never forgive himself for.

To answer your question, yes it is EXACTLY how I would handle it. Also, it's never good to discuss relationships when one or both of you are spitting blood! It's best to go punch a few walls, or whatever you have to do to calm down, and then discuss it sensibly at the right time.

What should you do? You've been with the guy 6 years. You can't sit there and tell me you don't love him, therefore, what you do is think about what 'cannot be resolved' (according to you) and find a solution other than breaking up that is a compromise which will work for the pair of you!

The other thing you can do is find someone you take a disliking to, and take it out on them! Personally? You can say what you want to me I don't care. I have very strong shoulders and if it means you wanna get out all the anger and get back with him.. pm me and you can blast away all you want..

[Lynx122]

Maybe he feels the same way you do. Maybe he's been unhappy but he's been trying to make it work but now he's given up. Maybe he was kinda relieved I don't know.

[HollyK21]

You say he has serious communication issues, so I don't know if that means you’ve tried talking to him before to no avail or what. But after 6 years, you have a pretty good idea about who you’re dealing with and what he has to offer, so you already know if having a discussion will truly produce any change or not.
Take some time alone to figure out what sort of man you want vs need, and ask yourself if he aligns with those things. 6 years is a lot of time to evolve as a woman and for your tastes to change. He could’ve been exactly what you wanted and/or needed at that juncture in your life 6 years ago, and now maybe you’ve matured past what he has to offer.

[DishLady]

He basically is just done dealing with your volatile personality. "I just lost it... He just tried to calm me down so I wouldn't drive like a crazy person and get hurt... I'm so pissed off..." WHO wants to deal with that on a regular basis? Nobody. Certainly not this guy.

What should you do? Leave him alone and go get some anger management therapy.

[Asker]

Wrong. He's been calling texting me all weekend.

[DishLady]

Because he things you're nuts and will harm yourself. Like you mentioned in your post.

[DishLady]

*thinks

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the art of breakup responses—truly a mixed bag of emotions and reactions, isn't it? Your ex's seemingly composed reaction could be his way of processing the breakup, especially with his business and visiting his kids on the line. Some folks just freeze or go into practical mode when hit with a tidal wave of emotions. It's not necessarily a sign of relief or indifference on his part. This "Let's talk Monday" could be his way of asking for a pause, a moment to gather his thoughts so he can respond rather than react. Now, what to do? First, take a deep breath. It's okay to feel all the feels. Use this space to reflect on what you truly want and prepare for that Monday conversation with clarity about your needs and boundaries. Communication is key, even in endings. Who knows? This could be a pivotal moment for personal growth, whether you decide to turn that page together or solo. Stay strong, love! 💔🌈

[Abbycado]

If he is still standing there, get him some water maybe.

[Lynx122]

loooool

[normalice]

My guess is he has suspected it was coming for quite some time now.