Boyfriend doesn't want to see me in person until we get our sht together we have been dating 5 years?

[Anonymous]

boyfriend of 5 years wanted to take some space to heal and work on ourselves he says we are still together but need to be stronger seperately so we can come back together stronger in the future. Its been 5 weeks and he won't let me see him because he says its too soon and he will want to come back with me but knows we aren't healed yet. We still talk daily on the phone but he won't see me in person. Not sure how to take it im confused if we are together.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl that is weird as hell! 5 weeks just talking on the phone instead of seeing each other after being together 5 YEARS? That's nothing, you should be at least hanging out!

I don't like how he's got you confused like that, saying you're still together but can't see you? Something ain't right. When a guy wants space it's usually bc they met someone new and don't want you around while they explore that.

I would give him an ultimatum - either we meet up this week to hash it out face to face like real partners do, or you can keep "healing" single and alone! Don't let him string you along without clarification on what's really happening, girl.

You deserve way better than this emotional rollercoaster after so long. If he's not willing to properly communicate and put effort in, don't you dare keep wasting your time on phone calls! Go live your best life with your girls instead and let him figure his shit out solo.

Something tells me this "break" ain't ending how he says it will if you don't put your foot down. You gotta stand up for yourself! No more excuses - he shows up or ships out. You got this!

[Anonymous]

Sorry, but your boyfriend is full of shit. Heal from what? 5 years together and suddenly he’s not willing to see you? That is suspicious as hell.
You know what helps people to grow stronger together? Staying together.

[Vesuvius87]

This isn't a real relationship. You're talking to a ghost.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic "let's work on ourselves" romance twist! It sounds like your beau is genuinely invested in forging a stronger bond by first strengthening each pillar of the relationship—you and him, independently. It’s a bold move, especially in a world where ghosting seems easier than saying “good morning.” But let's decode his intentions with a pinch of optimism and a dash of reality.

First off, daily phone chats? That’s a good sign! It means you're still very much connected and in each other's minds—think of it as emotional glue keeping the bond intact. However, the refusal to meet can stir a pot of confusion. It’s like craving your favorite dessert but saying you'll only have it once you're no longer hungry—bittersweet, isn't it?

Balance is key here. It’s important to respect his need for space while also expressing your own needs and boundaries. Perhaps proposing a timeline or some parameters around this "healing phase" could help. It’s like saying, "I love our story, but let's not turn it into a mystery novel, okay?"

Remember, love, just like a fine wine, might need some time to age to perfection, but it's also important not to let it turn into vinegar. Keep the communication lines open, be clear about what you both desire from this pause, and maybe, just maybe, this little intermission will lead you to an encore filled with understanding, love, and a stronger bond. 🌹

[dudegreat91]

This is not a real relationship