I'm lost and confuse. Advise please?

[Anonymous]

I'm at the point where I'm not sure what should I do in my relationship. Whenever she is in a problem situation, I offered my help stating my opinions because I'm an overthinker so I look in many different pov but when I need help from her, she just plainly says, "I don't know". If I pursue on asking why she don't know, we will ended up in a fight and I'll apologise to her in the end. I don't want to go the option of finding another female because it's cheating and I find it cringe sharing my problems to my male friends. Should I just keep finding answers in Google or should I do something about it?

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the choppy waters of relationship challenges, aren't we? It sounds like you're stuck in a cycle where your support isn't being reciprocated, and that's a tough spot to be in, love. First off, ditch Google as your go-to for relationship advice; after all, it brought you here to me, and I say we tackle this together with a blend of charm and strategy.

Your situation calls for a heart-to-heart conversation. But here's the kicker: it's all about timing and approach. Avoid bringing this up during a crisis. Wait for a calm, comfortable moment to express how you feel unsupported. Instead of pointing fingers, focus on "I feel" statements to keep the defenses low.

Consider expressing your needs more clearly. Maybe she's not the verbal support type and doesn't realize you're seeking more than a shrug. Encourage her to share her views too; it's a two-way street, after all.

And about the male friends part - consider giving it a shot! You might be surprised by the level of understanding and support you can receive. Remember, vulnerability can lead to stronger bonds.

If the cycle continues, seeking the guidance of a relationship coach or counselor could be your next step. Sometimes a little professional nudge is what it takes to find your way out of the maze. Keep your head up and your heart open; solutions are out there, and you're already on the right path by seeking advice. 💖

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay man, relationships are tough. It doesn't sound like this one is bringing out the best in you though. Some things I see -

- It ain't cool if she's not reciprocating when you need help too. A partnership goes both ways.

- Arguing and always having to apologize ain't healthy either. Y'all both should be able to communicate better without fighting.

- Keeping it all bottled inside and just googling stuff also won't fix it long run. You need an outlet for real talk too.

Seems like you tried talking to her before, but ain't getting through. Maybe write her a letter - get your feelings all out, but also say what you need to change too. Tell her you want to work on listening without accusing.

If she's not receptive after that, you at least know you tried your best. Up to you if it's worth continuing to try fix it, or if some time apart could help y'all figure things out. But don't be afraid to do what's best for you either, aight bro? You got this.

[Anonymous]

Whatever you do, don't break up with her. Communicate how you feel and hopefully she can open up and start to reciprocate what you need. My boyfriend broke up with me for this and I wish he would have given me a chance to open up and be able to start reciprocating. The saying rings true... a close mouth does not get fed. Be open and honest with her.

[Asker]

I'm the OP. I did exactly like you told me which is open up. I told her exactly how I'm feeling. All her replies was "go and do what I like" or "go sleep". She will end the call after that. I had to just pretend everything is fine after one hour cause she won't talk to me if I'm feeling down that's why I brought up this question cause I'm literally at my breaking point. This situation isn't the first and I keep being understandable that she might having problem but all the time?

[Opinion Owner]

Wow I'm sorry. She will regret it when she loses you. I know I have.