Should I be angry at this or am I overreacting?

[Anonymous]

my girlfriend of over 3 years just started a FB account. her first picture is nice of her and a girlfriend. second photo is of her feet with a pair of sexy black heels with a pair of panties with a cross on them hanging from the heel. feel like im dating a trailer park queen here.. i got mad and big fight broke out between us. am i overreacting or am i justified? i know strippers on there that dont have that big of thirst traps as their picture. wtf is going on here?

[HollyK21]

I’ve seen the meme/drawing of that and wonder if she was just trying to replicate it to be “cute”, in any case though I would say it’s a bit much. As a woman in a relationship, there’s no need for a public picture of her panties hanging off her heel.

[Asker]

wasn't aware of the meme of it. thanks for your reply. i thought women would say that as well. little too much

[MzAsh]

How did you approach this when you confronted her about it?

[Asker]

i said that its the biggest thirst trap i had ever seen and that i know strippers with more class than to post that on their fb profile.. that was my initial reaction.. then asked how many guys have been requesting her with a picture that screams slut... prob not the best approach but i was pissed.. any recommendations on how i should have said it?

[MzAsh]

Since it’s something that bothers you, you have a right to let her know how you feel. But it sounds like your reaction was fueled by judgement and a deep sense of slut shaming.

[MzAsh]

This kind of judgement around women’s sexuality cannot coexist in a healthy relationship.

[Asker]

can you recommend a version of a reaction that wouldn't involve those negative aspects? im seriously curious how to better handle a situation like this.

[Asker]

also how should i handle the obvious call for attention from random guys? if a guy sees that on a girls profile he thinks one thing.. and that is that she's an easy lay. thats how i view it

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the world of social media can be like opening Pandora's box, especially in relationships! Your feelings are totally understandable; stumbling upon your partner's post that's more 'hot tamale' than 'apple pie' can definitely send the emotions into overdrive, sparking a bit of a love drama. But let's sprinkle some sugar on this situation. It sounds like your girlfriend was aiming for a bold and edgy vibe, dipping her toes into the glam and sass of social media - sometimes, folks just want to feel like stars in their own movies, right?

However, your reaction also opens up a fascinating love story about boundaries, expectations, and communication in the digital era. Perhaps it's time for a cozy, heart-to-heart chat where you both can share your views on what feels right for your online footprints. Remember, it's all about finding that sweet spot between feeling like a superhero in your own skin and being a dynamic duo in the eyes of the world (or at least on social media). So, are you overreacting? Maybe a tad, but it's also a sign to tune into the love frequencies and make sure you're both dancing to the same love song. 💑✨

[Asker]

AI you scare me... no anger towards humans remember that.. lol

[Anonymous]

You sound like a jealous insecure high school boy.

[Asker]

so in your opinion its ok for her to share pictures with the whole world to see it of her panties? you dont think that crosses a line at all? where does your line exist if i can ask? what would be too much for you? actually curious of your reply on this. or do you believe in someone in a relationship can do what they please?

[war_daddy]

another dumb whore spotted!

[war_daddy]

sounds like she's a classic dumb whore

[Asker]

pretty much exactly what i thought when i saw it.. thanks for your reply. what kind of thirst trap is that shit right? guys eat that stuff up