Should I be upset by this?

[Anonymous]

Have been dating boyfriend for about eight months. The other day I asked him where he was going and he said he was going to a bar later with his friend and I asked if I could come along and he said rudely “no, I don’t want you there!” I was kind of taken aback and started crying and he told me “don’t victimize yourself and start crying. We don’t have to do everything together.” I didn’t cry to victimize myself they just came out. I think it was more about how he didn’t say it nicely-I didn’t say we had to do everything together. What do you all think?

[Darkest-Knight]

I think your boyfriend needs to learn some manners when talking to people.

[Brady]

Yes, if he acts that way leave him.

[spartan55]

I don't know if i believe this.

[Asker]

Why not? I know it’s kind of weird to ask for opinions on a public website but I don’t have that many friends to confide in (they’re mostly also his friends too so I can’t really ask any of them) and I don’t usually talk to my mom or other family members about my relationship since they’ve already decided they don’t like him based on the two brief times they’ve met so I don’t think they’d have anything new to say

[spartan55]

Well if they don't like him they must see something negative. Have you possibly been ignoring some previous red 🚩 flags?

[Asker]

My mom thought he wasn’t polite enough and thought it was disrespectful that he mentioned his ex and a trip they had taken together. I thought she was being overly sensitive since I thought the main point of his story was the trip and not the fact that he had gone with his ex but my mom told me to be careful. I guess other things he does is he does sometimes have a short temper and sometimes he’ll get annoyed with me if I ask him how his day went so then I give him space but other times he is really sweet and does things like bring me flowers. This last incident freaked me out a little bit too and how he didn’t try to comfort me when I cried and got more mad at me