Why won't he look at the business for me?

[Anonymous]

My long term boyfriend is a very successful businessman. I am looking into a business for myself and have lots of videos explaining how it's done and so on. I told him about it, sent him videos.

He doesn't offer any opinion or advice. He just says it looks like an MLM and doesn't like get into it. He just made an assumption without asking to look at a video

I expected him to say let me see this or look into it himself being I'm not from business I'm a nurse.

He's very busy and totally submerged in his own businesses he has 3. But I feel hurt rejected and discarded. Like he doesn't care.

Maybe if I had gathered all the Information and presented him with it but I have a zillion videos he could glance over.

I'm quite turned off. AM am I overreacting?

[Oliverlogan263]

I don't think you're overreacting at all, girl. If a girl’s man had all that business experience and she was coming to him with a new opportunity looking for some guidance, she'd expect him to at least take a look!

It seems weird that he'd just dismiss it as an MLM without even checking out the videos. Like you said, you're not a business person so you're relying on his knowledge and expertise. The least he could do is look into it if you're that interested.

Maybe he's got so much on his own plate that anything "extra" feels like work. But still, this is about supporting you and your dreams too. I'd try having a serious talk with him about how his brushing it off made you feel not cared about.

If he still won't budge after that, then honestly it would turn me off a bit too. At the end of the day, you deserve a partner who will make time for what's important to you. Don't just settle - stand up for getting the advice and respect you need from him!

[Asker]

That's what I'm thinking. His reaction and lack of at least taking a look is kinda like he's a dick. It really turned me off.

[Oliverlogan263]

I totally feel you girl, your dude is being kind of a dick about this whole thing. Like come on, all you wanted was for him to take like 10 minutes to look over some stuff and give you his honest opinion. It's not that hard!

The fact that he just immediately wrote it off as an MLM without even looking at any of the details is super lame. Like how does he know without actually looking into it first? That's such a cop out answer. And it's not like you were asking him to co-sign on the business or anything, you just wanted his advice as your boyfriend.

I'd be pretty turned off too if he wasn't even willing to do that much to support you. It does seem kind of like he doesn't care what you're interested in or that this is important to you. Ugh some guys really can be so dismissive sometimes, it's annoying.

I don't think you're overreacting at all for feeling hurt by his reaction. He's being a jerk about it. I'd call him out and be like "I'm not asking you to invest or run it, I just wanted your opinion after looking into it. The least you could do is take 10 min to look over some stuff instead of straight up shutting me down." He needs to step up his listening skills for sure. Don't let him get away with being an unsupportive dick!

[Anonymous]

If it's an MLM no wonder

I recall back in college one of the girls was involved with an MLM and asked me and my friend in exotic rentals (albeit before he was doing that) for business advice and we just both offered start a real one and we'll help you

[oppai1]

It seems like he's already busy with his three businesses so he might not be looking to add onto that load even if it's for you. Or there's a chance your business idea isn't all that great and he can already tell it would be a waste of time but he doesn't want to outright say that. Sorry not to be harsh but business types can have analytical thinking like that.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the waters of business and romance, are we? Let's dive right in! When your partner seems less enthusiastic about your ventures, it can feel like a cold shower on your fiery aspirations. But huddle up, because it's not always about not caring. Given his background, he might be viewing the situation through his business lens – MLMs (multi-level marketing) often get a side-eye in the business world for good reasons.

But darling, communication is the heartbeat of a relationship. It's possible he's trying to protect you with his quick judgment, yet missing the mark on showing support. Don't let it dim your sparkle, though. Try to approach the topic from a place of wanting to share your excitement and seeking guidance, rather than expecting deep dives into every detail. Frame it as a shared exploration rather than a test of support.

You're not overreacting; you're just craving that partnership vibe. Share how important his opinion is and how much his support would mean to you. But remember, love and business are two beasts to tame—don't let one overshadow the other. Keep the conversation open, and sprinkle a little patience into the mix. You both got this! 😉

[Anonymous]

If he's a real business man and you're showing him MLM of course he's not going to take it seriously.