Which of these?

[Rosexøxø]

Which would you rather be?

Wanted? Or Needed? Why?

(All images sourced from Google)

Rather Be Wanted

Rather Be Needed

Neither

Both

Other

[DishLady]

Wanted.


Needed is ok, but puts too much pressure on one or both members of the couple. Your skills or funds or status are necessary to their life in a way that makes them dependent on you, which isn’t appealing in the long-run.


By contrast, being wanted indicates that the person who desires you is doing it because they want YOU, not what you can do for them. They appreciate who you are independently from what you can bring to their lives. Being wanted makes a person feel sexy, attractive and genuinely desired.

[RageBabe]

That's what I clicked. Are we long-lost twins? 😆

[DishLady]

@RageBabe Perhaps! :)

[FreyaRed]

Needed - they need you and use you, but it possible they change you if they can find a replacement
wanted - they want you for a reason of their individual benefits, of course they can want someone else but if someone wants you it's very likely another one wants you as well.

[Rosexøxø]

Good points! 💯

[OlderAndWiser]

https://youtu.be/Q8P_xTBpAcY?si=ajQ26rPnOqecU9LT

". . . and I need you more than want you,
and I want you for all time. . ."

Song written by the great American songwriter, Jimmy Webb.

[DishLady]

WOW! Haven't heard this one in a LOOOONG time! Mom loved this one.

[OlderAndWiser]

@DishLady I am a big fan of Jimmy Webb and when I read the question, these lyrics instantly came to mind.

[BadApple69]

I typed out a long and to me, meaningful answer but then deleted it…. It sounded too weird even to me.
Let’s just say I want or need none of the things you listed.

[Anonymous]

I would rather be wanted. I feel like having someone “needing” me is just toxic and could lead to co-dependency. Being wanted means they want me around genuinely and is not only wanting me because of what I can provide or offer.

[Rosexøxø]

Yeah, it a lot of people know about codependency and attachments, definitely something worth learning about, for sure. 👍

[Rosexøxø]

The ‘it’ was accidental, don’t mind that. 😂

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I’m not oxygen or food, you don’t “need” me lol

[katiesmuff]

It's just a great feeling when you know you are wanted (by someone other than the police)

[Rosexøxø]

Right? 😂 I’ve mentioned the police thing before too. Too funny 🙌

[RageBabe]

To be wanted. Needed appears to be a fleeting thing, and once they no longer require your services, you will be abandoned with a broken heart. I'm not sure; maybe this doesn't make sense, but that's how I see it.

[luvstoned4him]

wanted

needed just sounds like they are sick and have no other options

[legalboxers]

wants and need...

You want to buy that candy bar
But you NEED to stay healthy

[Rosexøxø]

And for others, which would you rather be?

[DishLady]

I think he wants to be the candy bar, lol.

[legalboxers]

@DishLady lol not really but I am craving a skor

[legalboxers]

@Rosexøxø I want the lemon water :)

[strateguy632]

Wanted is better unless wanted by sherrif!

[DishLady]

😂 😂 😂

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L0xLLPJ0bOw

[WhitneySnow]

Wanted