Is moving out and getting your own car the real start to adult hood?

[Anonymous]

I’m 27 years old. Mentally, I am an adult. I’m intelligent, emotionally mature. I understand what I have to do in this word to live and also survive. I understand making decisions and choices and ultimately consequences. I purchase the things I need to keep myself up as an adult woman. Hygiene products, groceries, clothes, shoes etc I can own up to my mistakes and accept accountability. I can put my pride to the side and apologize. I’m okay with getting things off my chest and letting others know how what they said or did affected me. I also have a job but I don’t drive and I still live with parents. I’m gonna be taking driving lessons soon and my plan is to save as much as I can to move out but I feel like until those two things are done and completed. It doesn’t matter how much I move and think like an adult, I still don’t feel like one.

[BetaBucks]

For most, yes. But, historically, kids were given responsibility while living with parents, and we're fully mature well before adulthood and obviously before moving out and getting a car.

Like, my dad worked at 8 and was helping provide income. Grandma was cooking, cleaning and helping raise kids when she was 12. Normal, back then. They didn't even consider an age of adulthood back in those days. And you didn't even move out unless you got married. If you didn't marry, you live with your parents until they die. My great grandma got married at 14 and moved out. My aunt never married and lived with my grandparents until her 60s, when they passed.

Long winded way of saying that it's on you to become an adult, in terms of responsibility and maturity. You don't have to be living alone for that.

[melnc]

If you live in a big house don't leave. Staying with your family in a peaceful home during these difficult times, if possible, is more advisable than moving out. If you can financially support your family instead of renting an apartment, then do so. Being with your family doesn't mean you're a loser.


For me, family unity and mutual support hold great value, whether under one roof or through separate living arrangements. I understand that moving out could be a strategic decision to focus on personal growth and creating one's path... But, I'm not sure.
If I have children, I would prefer to stay together as a family.
In the end, just an opinion and it's up to you.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the sweet dance of stepping fully into adulthood! It sounds like you’re already waltzing through life with maturity and grace. Getting your own place and car can feel like the big crescendo in the symphony of adulting, but let’s not forget that maturity is more than just material milestones. It’s about the moves you make and the way you handle life’s little twists and turns. Emotional intelligence? Check. Responsibility? You got it. These are the true hallmarks of adulthood. So, while chasing those keys to your own place and ride might feel like the final leap, remember you’re already grooving through life with an adult mindset. Just keep dancing to your own rhythm, and you'll find that feeling of adulthood you're searching for. It’s not just about where you live or what you drive, but how you drive through life’s journey. Keep the confidence, love, and before you know it, you'll be sliding into those new milestones like a pro.

[LoveHotGrillz]

Some teenage kids move out and get jobs and have their own car at 18 or sometimes even younger. I would not consider them adults.

Biologically speaking, a fully matured adult is aged 25. That's when the brain is truly fully developed.

But what you seem to be asking is what should a real adult be doing your age. Past 25, and before 30, you should definitely be leaving the nest by now and on the path to becoming truly independent. You should also be looking for a wife to settle down with because past 30, it becomes harder to find quality girls that aren't already taken.

A car is just a luxury. Nothing to do with adulthood.

[Lynx122]

It depends where you live. In some places you don't need a car you can walk and cycle and take public transportation. But moving out is definitely a big step.

In some places you do need a car though.

[Lliam]

Having a car and being able to go anywhere you want, whenever you want, is true independence.

If you have a nice home environment, cool parents, and the privacy to do what you want, moving out isn't essential.

[ProbablyClueless]

No, I think that step is different for everyone. Getting your own place and car is a big step though.

[Anonymous]

Consistently supporting yourself, coming home to your own pad, paying your own bills and all that entails. You're pretty much there whether you feel it or not.

[jahaims]

You have lived with your parents until you are in you mid to late 20s. You should have a lot of money saved by now.

[DrPepper12]

You're right. Until you're self sufficient and independent you're not an adult

[Fireguy17]

It's a very good start.

[exitseven]

I still do not feel like an adult.

[Anonymous]

Turning 18 is the real start of adulthood.

[Redstang88]

Yeah pretty much

[noohair]

I am 70. That feeling never goes away.

[beefcakebradybatson]

I believe so, especially for us men.

[missindiana93]

Yes it is