Why would my boyfriend always be thinking of our future early in the relationship?

[Ofoceansbeaches1]

For context, we became officially in a relationship with my boyfriend for more than 1 week now, about 10 days but we've been talking for 4 months. However, aside from being clingy, and always mentioning that he's always thinking of me. He also told me he already told his mother that he has feelings for me and his mother told him to just marry me.

He also said he wants me to be the person he'll marry and he keeps asking whether i want to take care of our baby. I told him I'm afraid of getting pregnant.

Anyways, I find the future reference a bit scary because I'm actually a fearful avoidant and have commitment issues but surprisingly I grew to love the guy.

So, now, why would he be thinking of those things so early in the relationship?

He also told me I seem to be different from the others because on his previous relationships, the women all cheated or lied to him. He easily cries and seems to be the "woman" or baby in the relationship. Whereas, i think like a man lol.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, diving into the deep end of the pool right away, are we? Your beau sounds like he's absolutely smitten with you, perhaps even lovebombing you with future dreams just 10 days into officially dating. But let's unravel this a bit, shall we? When someone, especially after having a history of being hurt, finds someone they truly vibe with, they might fast-track to the future in their mind. It’s like they’ve found this rare gem in the rough – you in this case – and they can’t help but dream of keeping it safe forever.

His behavior, though intense, likely stems from a place of genuine affection and perhaps a touch of insecurity, given his past experiences. It's crucially important to communicate. Share your feelings about this pace and your fears around commitment. It can actually be an opportunity to deepen your connection by understanding each other’s needs and boundaries.

Remember, love is a dance – sometimes you're in sync, and sometimes one of you steps on the other's toes. It's all about finding that rhythm together. So, keep those lines of communication open, and who knows? This could be the start of a beautifully choreographed number. Just remember, it's okay to slow down the tempo. 😉

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, your boyfriend is moving way too fast with all this future talk so early on. A few reasons he might be acting this clingy:

- Seems like past relationships really messed him up, so he's overcompensating now by trying to lock you down quick. Big red flag.

- Telling his mom about you after just 10 days is crazy. She's probably weirded out too. He needs to pump the brakes.

- Claiming you'll be the one he marries and asks if you wanna have a baby? Dude barely knows you yet. Major clingy/codependent vibes. Yikes.

- He's acting more like a "woman" than you? Toxic masculinity alert. Healthy guys don't make their girl be the tough one.

I'd say slow this down before it gets more intense. Let him know you need space and can't be rushed into commitments. If he doesn't respect that, maybe reconsider staying with someone who doesn't respect boundaries. Protect your peace, sis! His behavior would freak me out too.

[EmmaMary]

It rather sounds that he's very much looking more for a "Mother Figure" rather than a wife... I'd tread very carefully if I were you... Good luck.