My boyfriend and I have been together almost 4 years now. I am 31 and he's about to turn 33 later this month. I've talked to him in the past about how much I like kids, the idea of marriage etc. He is aware of the fact that I want to get married one day and have a family since this is important to me. However, I never really heard him express how much he would want the same - or even what his future entails.
Over the summer, I thought I would ask him directly whether or not he wanted to get married at some point and what his plans were for the future. He became very defensive and stand-offish, taking almost a day to reply back to me. He said he would like to get married one day but that it is not a priority for him at the moment. I felt quite hurt by his reaction and started questioning whether or not staying with him was the right thing to do since he didn't give me a time for when or if marriage and children would happen in the next 2-3 years or so.
However, several months have passed since then and the topic has not been brought up again. Should I bring up the topic again or just leave it? Staying quiet about it is really bothering me, especially since I've been with this man for the last 4 years now and not sure if marriage or kids will ever be a priority for my boyfriend.
My boyfriend avoids talking about the future. What should I do?
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