How would you design a "relationship survival kit" for handling difficult periods?

[HawkPerception]

Ignore the rainbow stuff... AI image creation didn't seem to understand "do not include rainbows".

[ohsheeT]

No matter what happens in life. It's not. What happened is how you handle it after it happened..

There's positives and there's negatives if you point the fingers if you blame it's just going to take 10 times longer to get through it.
But if you acknowledge it if you're honest about it with no bullshit you can find the positive to make it work to make it easier to deal with.

So many different types of scenarios that you could be talking about and none of them are going to be easy
But one of the hardest things to do is for one person to say I was wrong I blew it so you have to acknowledge things you have to be honest and you can't blame anybody for whatever one person might have done or you might have done there is no blame except for yourself. . And if it was the other person they know what they did wrong you don't have to keep poking it in their face it takes two grown-up people to get through things and if you're not grown up it's going to be difficult but it's the end result that you're looking for and how you get there is everybody's choice either you're going to take the long way are you going to take the best way

[BadApple69]

First off mine would have a coupon book that in times of trouble I could hand her with several different coupons like: “Free full body massage from me (no strings attached)”, “apology anytime you ask for one”, “I will go away for an hour (to give you space)” this coupon can be ganged up with other coupons to increase the number of hours you want me to go away!
It must have a bottle of her favorite wine.
A thumb drive which can be viewed on any smart tv or pc with documentaries on it…. She can be easily distracted by true stories of celebrities or athletes.
Distraction is a number one survival tool.
The last item is a box of Teuscher Champagne Truffles (chocolates).
You might have noticed that all the items here are to make her happy…. For me, as long as she is happy then so am I.

[DizzyDesii]

For Him- If i’m dating a gamer (which i really hope to not date another) , I’d buy him a new headset/controller/game/console or whatever to shut him up. If he's into sports, I’d get us some good nba/mlb/nfl/etc seats. I like guys who have good shoe game so i’d buy him a pair of whatever to make him forget. I’d cook his favorite meal or whatever. Lastly, i’d bring out the sex dice. Those really came in handy in my relationship earlier this year. We got pretty kinky but now I don't know where they are. I wonder if i left them at my exes school dorm lol.
For me- He better take me to the nearest music store, skateboard shop, or to the movie aisle in the grocery store and let me go wild shopping 😂 I’d also like a couples massage/spa day. And a trip to the casino please and thank you. And don’t forget the strawberries, whip cream and sex dice. And he better fck me in public somewhere, preferably on the massage table! Oh yea and after I go wild on the movie aisle, he must agree to watch 2 movies a day with me for the next 7 days. Lastly, take me to Olive Garden for some spaghetti lol

[HawkPerception]

Sounds like ya gotta get on those sex dice lol

[DizzyDesii]

I’ll order more from amazon lol.

[DishLady]

It's really more about building resilience both together and as individuals.

[hahahmm]

To me this is like asking how to design something that keeps you inside a house. But more importantly one should be thinking about: Is this house safe? Before you ever go into that house. Then when you're in there, if the house catches fire what do you do? Fight the fire or leave? Depends, right? Also matters if it's legally YOUR house or is it just a place 10 different dudes are using as a urinal? Makes a difference.

Anyhow, what you need is: Trust, loyalty, respect. These things can't all be had all at once or upfront. Not in a mutually way anyhow. You can't just demand them. This stuff is earned and it takes time to really get there but in our fast food world, people think if it all isn't there on day 1 or month 1 or year 1 there's a problem. And yes, I think in the old days it was easier to get there but standards have fallen so low and so many people are experts in failed relationships & experts in LOOKING FOR NEW partners that it's much more difficult now.

[HawkPerception]

Wasn't asking for traits that make a strong relationship.

Was asking for a creative kit like a gift basket with stuff like food, games, date ideas, couple therapy, etc.

[hahahmm]

Lol, you should have said physical gift set/box. The only stuff to put in such a box doesn't actually help. However, women love gift boxes of 'comforting' feel good stuff like mini spa treatment stuff, tea, coffee mugs. So ANY RANDOM gift box will do. They have them on the internet for various occasions like "sympathy", "get well", "happy birthday".

[Angelo75]

- Counsel
- Chain to tie both their ankles together
- A room to be locked in together while the key is in hands of somebody else. They don't come out of the room until they truly talk to each other.
- Some kinda sex game. Or multiple.
- Some alcohol but for them ONLY to get tipsy on. Not to get drunk.

[DizzyDesii]

Amazing minus the alcohol!

[Angelo75]

@DizzyDesii well if they're on the point of breaking up, there'll be a lot of tension between them. Alcohol usually is pretty good at breaking that tension.