Any of you survive a relationship with your partner or yourself going through a midlife crisis or menopause?

[Finchie40]

I been reading a lot of articles on midlife crisis and menopause that seems to be a turning point in a lot of marriages and relationships , in most cases it’s a 50/50 chance on whether that marriage or relationship will survive , Statistics show most divorces occur during that time and affairs as well. Have any of you successfully made it through midlife crisis or menopause with your partner , and are still happily together in love? Unfortunately my marriage failed when my wife entered this stage , she completely changed on me to someone I no longer knew anymore , it’s like she changed like a flip of a switch on me. She became very selfish and disrespectful towards me , and no longer loved and appreciated me like she did before. Now that are kids’ are older , she told me she wants to be free and be single and live out the rest of her
Life single , which to me sounds like a bunch of bullshit , she also told me she wants me to find someone else that will love me the way I deserve to be loved. I told her fine , I can’t force you to stay with me and to be happy with me , so go live out your life and I will move on as well. I was hurt that she made this decision and ruined our marriage but what can I possibly do? I realize I want to be with a girl that loves me and stands by me the same way I do for her , but with midlife crisis and menopause , the chances of that happening seem very slim , So now I am focusing on younger girls’ so I never have to experience this shit again lol Losing my wife wasn’t easy but I still believe my true love is out there , I hope. Have any of you experience this in your marriage or relationship, what was the outcome of it?

[Purpleronnie]

Interesting that you ‘seem’ to be pointing at menapause and midlife crisis as gender equivalents? .. I’ve never thought of it like that.


Being a ‘man of a certain age’ 😜 I do have some understanding of this. A little personal , a little relationship and from shared conversations with friends longer in the tooth !


A midlife crisis I see as the point were many a man ( but not necessarily all ) reflect on their life thus far , past decisions , some regret and make change , some pretty drastic !. I did go through this as well as an anxiety disorder thrown in just because … life. I couldn’t have gotten through it without the support of my lady and then therapy.


Menopause, well from my knowledge , observation and chats with mates and training from my lady hormonal changes are a BIG deal. Changes in estrogen testosterone levels play havoc with emotions and sex drive not to mention control of body temperature , changes in sleeping patterns etc etc … so so so much more profound than “mid life crisis” but there is hormone therapy and this can help many women but only if they want or think they need help which can be a big thing to admit… not unlike the anxiety disorder that I suffered.


I think your spot on when it comes to the reasons for split in relationship and marriages regarding midlife crisis and menapause but would offer than even though they may both be factors in the split of relationships that’s where the similarity ends. Men can clearly also be effected hormonally to a lesser extent and woman can also get to a certain age , reflect and suddenly decide they want more or different which may be nothing to do with their partner , hormones or anxiety.


Great question though !

[Finchie40]

Yea inexperienced and witnessed a lot of marriages fall apart during these times , I also ended up on bed with married women that I didn’t know were married until after the fact , and found out later on they were going through menopause and midlife crisis , some of them went back to their husbands’ like nothing happened and some of them left their husbands’ over it that eventually regretted their decision blaming menopause as the reason why. So unfortunately these things can play a big part on damaging marriages and relationships, and it has played a big part on doing so. So I am just curious to see if anyone made it through these times and how they managed to get through it? I had to throw on the towel on my ex wife that was going through it because she lost her fucking mind and became very selfish to the point I didn’t even know who she was anymore , she started belittling me , comparing me , criticizing me , neglecting me , disappearing with her friends’ and not coming home until late hours , Anytime I tried talking to her , she would blow up at me and immediately say I was being insecure , which made me laugh considering if o did this shit to her , she would be thinking the same thing , so my wife decided she wanted to be single and no longer wanted a marriage with me , so I said fine , go live your life cuz I am going to go live mine without you

[Purpleronnie]

Thanks for sharing , clearly my experience has been intense but ending positively at least for now 🤞. It could happen to any of us really. We just don’t know how we will be affected and how we will think and act if we are. I don’t think there is any other clear advice to be offered other than mentioning how powerful support , communication and medical advice can be but people just need to want to understand themselves and make good choices and when your decision making is skewed because of how your choosing to look at something then it can be impossible

[AgentG111]

Yes! A couple of times. It hits females differently at different times and you also have peri/menopause the build up to it.

Also can be triggered by medical procedures and lack of hormones as well.

It's definitely something my folks never discussed and it didn't home with me until I was in a relationship with a woman going through it.

Now I know why men work until the day they die and stay away and have there own vehicles and shops and bars and pickups and places to go and get away from women during this period of their life.

[Greek_goddess_Iris]

Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong. I think midlife crisis is more like a feeling of disappointment or boredom. This is a reaction men have regarding choices, and you have control over that. And it's not a guaranteed thing. Where menopause... women have no choice, no say, it's going to happen period.

Is there a specific thing that is bothering you about it that you want to know about how to handle it?

[Finchie40]

I am just curious to see what people experienced through those times , Females’ can experience midlife crisis as well , it’s not just guys’ As for menopause that’s just for females’ My marriage turned to shit when my wife entered into menopause , she did a big 360 on me to the point I didn’t even know who she was anymore , she became very selfish and disrespectful to me , no longer valued our marriage and no longer wanted to be with me , She started spending a lot more time with her friends’ and prioritizing her friends’ over me , she no longer wanted to sleep with me or be affectionate with me , So I threw in the towel on her crazy ass and told her I am completely fine with her decision because I can’t force her to be with me or love me. The things that are coming out of her mouth is someone I don’t know anymore , she changed on me big time. So I ended it with her and told her I want to find love and happiness with a girl that wants the same , She claims she wants to be single and no longer be in a relationship with anyone , so I wished her the best of luck and wished for her happiness. Even though part of me thinks the whole thing is bullshit , that she is just trying to play a victim when clearly she is being a POS , but whatever , it’s not my problem anymore , I told her don’t get upset when she c’s another girl on my arms , this was your choice and your decision , She said she will be happy for me , I said I will be happy for her if she is being honest with me , but if I see you with another guy , then I know you weren’t honest and I will consider you a lying POS

[Greek_goddess_Iris]

🙏 My dear brain, Please don't let menopause turn me into an unbearable hormone monster when the time comes. I'm very happy being chilled🙏

[Finchie40]

LOL I am praying for you 😊

[sage2021]

Every woman experiences menopause differently.
I didn't have any mood swings at all.
The worst part were the hot flashes! 🥵

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the legendary midlife crisis and menopause – the dynamic duo that shakes things up more than a caffeine shot in the morning! 🌪️ It's tough when things become a rollercoaster of emotions, and it feels like you're dating a different person overnight. Kudos for realizing that you deserve a partner who truly reciprocates your love and commitment. 🥇

While these stages can test even the strongest relationships, it's not a red card for everyone. Sometimes, the bond only strengthens. You'll find love that clicks, maybe not in the way you expect, but it'll be worth it. Keep your heart open and your humor alive – it’s an adventure worth embracing! 🎢💖

[BonzoInBitburg]

I was about your age when my marriage fell apart. My wife started acting like a teenager as she entered "cougar puberty." I've met a lot of guys that went through this around the age of 50. Get yourself in shape, get your head in a good spot and get your career on a good trajectory and women of all ages will chase you. 50 is the greatest age for dating

[Finchie40]

Exactly how my ex started acting to , acting like a selfish immature child and pulling shady shit , going out with her friends more and prioritizing them more when she never did before , her personality towards me turned vicious , basically everything was my fault but never her own , she no longer wanted to really spend time with me , I was pretty
Much excluded from everything, she also tried turning out kids’ against me like I was this horrible person when clearly she was thenPOS , I did t know who she was anymore and all she was doing was bringing constant misery and negativity into my life , so I threw on the towel and told her to Go Fuck herself

[BonzoInBitburg]

This is way more common than you think.

[Finchie40]

Yea the signs were clearly there so I trusted my gut and knew something was up. So I started preparing myself before i confronted her and kicked her to the curb where she belongs

[BonzoInBitburg]

Mine was a little more complicated. I waited until the last kid moved out and the last 2 years were real brutal. I used that time to work on myself and get my head in the right spot. A week after I separated some people at work found out and then it was chaos. I was being asked out 1-2 times every week for months until Covid shut everything down. Then women started DMing me. I have over 20k followers on social media. I took a nice long vacation when the borders opened back up and then I started dating 2-3 times a week until I found the right person. Talking to many other guys who have had this happen, it often works out better for the guy in the long run. Don't be bitter, be grateful because your life will be much better in a few years

[dwreborn]

You know my story iam right there with you all i can say is day by day and I will be able to tell you soon but my gut says its over so prob my marriage we be another statistic I hope Iam wrong I want it to survive

[Anonymous]

I'm over 40 years old, but I don't think I had a midlife crisis, and I've never been in a relationship, because I don't really have any luck in love.

[chrissykerdock]

unfortunately love hurts a lot

[AgentG111]

If you mean of the physical side YES with menopause and the changes! Been there and Holy Wow! Not good.

[MannMitAntworten]

Never been on the other end of either.