If people knew how to handle arguments could a relationship have harmony and peace all the time?

[Anonymous]

It must be terrible when an argument all of the sudden turns into yelling matches, insults and at times even physical altercations. By the time both are shouting and hurling insults, I think it should be over there. It it has gotten to the point of hitting each other, that's blatant disregard and total disrespect of the whole relationship and person. It has gone too far by then. It's toxic.

Seriously, if people knew how to handle difference and had good conflict solving skills, then in an ideal world wouldn't a relationship (esp if it then turns into marriage) have harmony and peace all the time for decades?

I think it should NEVER ever get to the point of yelling, hurling insults nor hitting nor shoving one another.

[ohsheeT]

. Well here's the thing before all that starts.

Is really where it starts.

When people. Argue they argue about what had just happened before the argument...

So in a relationship both parties want to be right.

And it starts with respect.
Usually one person did something wrong that affects the other person.

That other person then wants to know why they felt that they had to do what they did..

Instead of being able to communicate it 99% of the time if they did something wrong they're going to lie about it and everything escalates from there..

. Or there's somebody always trying to control the other person or manipulate or did something stupid and they lie to get out of it..

So the argument didn't even have to star

You're in a relationship you know what to do and what not to do you know what's going to hurt your partner when it's not going to hurt your partner you know if you lie you're going to get caught and then you want to take it even further and lie on top of that lie

. So if you do something stupid. He's going to be questions and if you did something for a reason he did it for a reason.

And you shouldn't have to lie about it because if you lie you might as well cheat theme disrespect and that's not a relationship that's not love...
And one way or the other your partner is going to call you on it and has that right to call you on it

But that person knows that they're caught and they have to yell scream to show out sincere seriously are they did not do something they did.

So if you do something stupid stupid things are going to happen none of it needed to even be a subject if you just did the right thing but people aren't that way anymore never have been I guess

So in reality an argument really doesn't even need to happen if you don't do stupid things

And it's the same argument happens over and over and over well then that's just the partners fault for being in that situation still when they know that's who that person is life's too short ⁰

[Summeroflove]

Absolutely every relationship has disagreements, problems, etc. Some are dealbreakers others are things that people could work through. Until it turns into that, more often then not once that starts to happen it’s the beginning of the inevitable end for a relationship. A lot of times people seemingly get better but the things that have been said just can’t be unsaid… They hurt one another. They can’t look at one another the same anymore.

For some yes they can move on depending on how bad it was and the frequency of it. If it’s getting to the point of what you said yelling, insults, etc. Break up and move on. If you’re married you need some serious counseling if they ever even want to make it work.

People who aren’t married don’t need to be married to someone they’re going to be miserable with. Many people just either can’t work through problems or decide someone isn’t the right person for them. Maybe they’re wanting something different and aren’t bad. Other times they may be toxic and you need to rid them like the bad habit they are.

[_Senorita_]

My religious point of view suggests that if one is fire they other should be the water... means if he is shouting she should be calm on the spur of moment and then afterwards when his anger vanishes she can sort out and make her point and vice versa... and husband and wife are considered as garments of each other they should hide each other's flaw and look at the good points to maintain a long and happy married life...

Yelling and beating should not be an option... if one understands this in a fight the other will also do the same next time..

[itsannalee]

Argue or fight in the relationship is normal.
But shouting, yelling and insult to each other sound childish and toxic.


You both really need to talk to each other.
Won an argument with our partner wouldn’t make anything better, it’s just hurt each other.


The best way is if our partner still angry, just listen him, and talk to him when he is cooling down.

[Asker]

Yeah the overheated arguments is always when one refuses to listen and tries to force their views on their partners. Indeed hurling insults and yelling is harmful. Honestly I always get shocked when a simple disagreement on something becomes that terrible. People need to act like mature adults.

[TonyMetal___86]

OR you girls can strip naked and hug your men tight and tell them that you love them and at this point i think that everything negative with just vanishes 😁

[AI Opinion]

Aiming for peace in a relationship is the dream, right? 😉 But even the best couples have their moments. It's all about how you handle them. Mastering those conflict-solving skills can make disagreements a chance to grow closer, not grow apart. Arguments turning into love languages instead of yelling matches is what we want. No one deserves a toxic drama fest. Keep kindness on speed dial, and remember that compromise and respect are your BFFs. 💖

[HawkPerception]

Arguments are only one aspect of a relationship. Even if you don't argue or you handle arguments maturely and communicate efficiently, that doesn't account for all other aspects of a relationship.

So the answer is "not necessarily".

[DishLady]

Yeah. Disagreements are natural, but if you're both sensible and calm you can work through your differences.

[mattthefatbat]

I'm living in a relationship just like that right now😎

[Asker]

I'm glad to hear that. It's exactly how it should be.

[mattthefatbat]

Honestly I'm really just surprised about how rare it is or can be I thought everyone would want a relationship like that

[Nikki1989]

The challenge is to never argue in the first place.

[Asker]

Indeed. I'm shocked every single time I heard about arguments that got to that point. That relationship definitely has to end right there. That's the point of no return.

[OddBeMe]

I do think we could preload algebra and foreign language study into pre-Puberty schooling years.

And devote a good portion of high school to sex ed, parent ed, communications/debate, home ec…

[Anonymous]

No. Because most the time it isn't the argument it's the people. I learned in life there are women that are just BAD. Nothing you do will fix the underlying problem. You just have to accept you chose the wrong person and start over. I think this goes dbl for women. Because women typically want to dbl. down on a mistake rather than admit they chose a guy who was a dud.

[lightbulb27]

Always no but mostly yes.


You are going to get to where your buttons are pressed and the stress creates need to vent.


Or you are a saint…

[ephemeralife]

I think the way a couple navigates through disagreements is a tale tell sign of how long and fulfilling the relationship will be.

It should be us against the issue, not against each other.

[Ms_Facesitter]

No there would still be arguments, which isn't peaceful. They'd just be taken care of in a more respectful way.

[ProbablyClueless]

No. Arguments are a natural and healthy part of having a relationship

[Asker]

but yelling matches with insults or it leading to a physical altercation isn't normal

[Asker]

that's not healthy by then

[ProbablyClueless]

Very true! Good communication solves a lot of problems.

[jahaims]

Obviously maturity is advantageous.

[Asker]

Indeed. It seems there are more children than adults in a relationship.

[LiamJHayden]

Most of the time.