Do you have an open relationship? If so, how does it work and how did it come about? Do you recommend it?

[simptopia]

[texascollegegirl]

It's open on one side only. I am very slutty and cheat and lie to my boyfriend about it. I make it very obvious and he gets off on it and masturbates and journals about it and sometimes does these collages or personal use videos about it.

My boyfriend and I come from a small town that is very racist and our families even more. We were raised to be really racist, saying the N word in the house and even trying to being it back like at school. High school was the first time I ever even talked to Black people who weren't teachers. I was taught they were all stupid but a couple Black girls decided to save me as a project. They made friends with me anyway and I learned Black people can be just as smart as anyone. There was this sweet, shy boy who had this crush on me, and because he was Black, my boyfriend kind of lost his mind. He got all jealous and suspicious because I wouldn't be mean to him. My boyfriend tried to get me to humiliate this boy in public in front of everybody, like that it was gross and so on that he liked me and call him a stupid N andto leave me alone. I knew thatwaswrong and might even put him in danger. When I wouldn't do it we had a big fight and he got convinced I was doing things I wasn't and that it was because of the size difference everybody knows about. Then I found my boyfriend's porn ollection and it was all white girls who looked like me with big black d. I called the other boy to go over and "talk" but I knew I wanted him to fuck me. After that first moment of seeing it and having it inside I knew I was hooked on those Black big ones. My boyfriend and I had a fight about it but I told him I would never, ever stop. We are still together and he followed me to college and he really likes that I am slutty and cheat with these big d Blacks and lie to him about it. A lot of the big d Black guys love that I have the racist background but now give access to my body to break down taboos, fight racism, and give sexual healing for all the ways big d Blacks have been targeted. He knows I wouldn't accept anything like that in the reverse but he loves that situation. I highly recommend this because it's just amazing sexand you can still have your boyfriend who is good for everything else. There are so many white guys like this so it's kind of matching sexual interests. White girls tend to love really big Black d once we have it and the boyfriends get off on it. It's best to start the early sexual experiences with guys like this. No need for dating or a relationship if you are attractive enough. I made friends with several girls who are doing the same thing now and their boyfriend's know and it's great. It doesn'thaveto be all about race - one of my white girlfriends has a Black boyfriend who is small and he likes her to find guys who are bigger, and I have other friends Asian andIndian too who are exploring it.

[Sharkstealth]

Sounds like fiction. I want to see a picture of you. Clothed of course.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

I'm in a polyamorous relationship which is adjacent to open relationships just with more romance rather than just sex (although sex can also be had by all your partners with you). For me it works and gives me a chance to experience a relationship with a woman (my wife) and a man (my boyfriend).

I'd recommend it only if everyone is consenting and jealousy isn't a concern. There needs to be great communication about boundaries and any secondary potential partners so that everyone can stay std free.

In my case my wife and boyfriend are monogamous to me only so I don't have to worry about testing beyond our initial tests. We also all live together which is nice.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I've been in an open relationship before. You have to make sure you both view sex the same way.

I was able to explain it to the woman I was with at the time in a way that made sense to her and things worked out great.

We set boundaries and made sure the boundaries made sense to both of us.

For example: having sex with someone else will never get in the way of our time together. The purpose being not to loose respect for the loyalty we promise eachother in the relationship overall.

I've seen open relationships go horribly wrong and I think a lot of it is because of a bad mentality about relationships and sex.

[Summeroflove]

Nope and most people who claim they’re happy (at least long term) are not happy at all. It’s also a very good way to have a STD, ifs a very good way to knock someone up/not know who the baby belongs to that your wife has. Imagine your woman having sexual relations with many different men and now she’s pregnant…. Whose baby is it?

This is just such a common problem y'all.

[Nikki1989]

You must assume open means have sex with anyone at any time. Good grief!

[Summeroflove]

@Nikki1989 no….. Well some are yes. But having sex with someone whose not your spouse is wrong and ir will ruin a marriage. You of all people should know that

[Summeroflove]

@Nikki1989 most of the time it leads to someone getting knocked up by someone or sone sort of STD problem.

It’s also sad when a marriage is based off nothing but sex. Like sure that’s important but also married people who flaunt their bedroom life aren’t happy.

Just believe me I can tell. Especially the more defensive someone gets. Because most people who are happy don’t need to prove something to anyone else

[The_Confusion]

@Nikki1989 this form of relationships should deserve it's own word. It's like saying "football" outside of Australia, Canada, America, South Africa, and then good griefing that people think you talk about soccer. Just say it: you have a lifelong threesome, a marital threesome. "Open" relationships by definition are not about commitment.

[Summeroflove]

@The_Confusion I don’t know what her deal is she seems disgusted by sex but all the sudden is defending this type of degeneracy and mental retardation. I want to like her but it’s weird the change.

I mean cheaters don’t just fuck anyone (at least most of them) but it doesn’t make them any less of a cheater

[simptopia]

your entitled to your opinion but the "most people" and "good way" just sound like assumptions from an outsider tbh lmao. It comes across as if those are. your self imposed reasons for not wanting to test it out but not an actual researched fact that you are now judging people based on.

[Summeroflove]

I’ve seen people in these relationships and the NEVER ended well. Even those who claimed to be happy….. ended in divorce at some point.

[Summeroflove]

Very nasty divorces too. Also…. Many times very negative opinions of the opposite sex.

[mandyfire98]

It's complicated but it's like not fully open lol.

So I have a girlfriend and a boyfriend. I don't hook up with just whoever I want. I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend and girlfriend and I don't do anything outside of that.

[DishLady]

No and I'd never partake in one.

[DizzyDesii]

I’d be too territorial/jealous to have another woman involved in a relationship that I’m in. As for a relationship with two men, well both would have to be physically attractive, however, I’d only be sexually active with one. He will meet all my physical needs (like makeout sessions, foreplay, sex, etc) and playful daredevil activities. The other would have to be asexual/demisexual but mainly focused on being my emotional intimacy fulfiller. He’d be the one I can confide in about anything. The one I can watch shows with or lie around sharing headphones to listen to music with. We’d give eachother forehead and cheek kisses (possibly pecks on the lips but no makeout sessions). If the emotional lover and I ever got sexual, the most we’d do is have phone sex, sext or have mutual masturbation sessions. But I don’t want to have sex with two men and I don’t see many guys agreeing to not have sex lol

[Luopio27]

So one body to fuck, one to talk to.

[DizzyDesii]

@Luopio27 lol just about. I mean i dont mind helping get the other guy off with like a handjob but i’m not gonna have sex with him nor go down on him

[Luopio27]

Then it ain't no open relationship. Its normal with one, and friendship with other, except the hand jon part which he can do it on his own. At least dryhump him with just panties on.

[DizzyDesii]

@Luopio27 i would dry hump but if he's asexual then he likely won't want that. And to me its more than friendship cause we’d be saying we love eachother. I dont love my friends

[Billlewis]

You just described the ideal arrangement for this dynamic, in my opinion.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, 5 years now and we are happier than ever before. Ignore people who claim they know everything about how the personal lives of others works, they are usually the most clueless of all.

[The_Confusion]

It's not an "open" relationship if you are committed. If it's 3 way commitment then you've got a marital threesome. Not an open relationship.

[Datboi65]

If you're the type of guy who doesn't care about other men plowing his wife, then do what suits you.

I honestly don't think you can respect yourself as a man and be OK with this kind of activity.

[Agape93]

It's a requirement for me. You're good with it or you move on.

Everyone involved meets each other, gets tested and approves of everyone else.

[Smashingdoozy]

I actually tried it recently. Did not go well 😂 I'm definitely not the type to share. And things ended very messily.

[Jrg98]

Not quite but I think we are getting pretty close

[HawkPerception]

I don't and I would never.

[Vegasrunner]

Yes, all my relationships are open on my end closed on the girls.

[bobby_bush_eater]

I think they're a very dumb thing.

[Nikki1989]

Says bobby bush eater. Ha!

[bobby_bush_eater]

@Nikki1989 I was 19 when I made this account and have grown up a little lol

[DrPepper12]

She declined so no